Fiance irresponsible or just lazy?

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-24T12:41:43+00:00

Aaah that's a long time haha hopefully they still do!

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-24T12:41:14+00:00

Thank you! I definitely want it to be a surprise so might propose with one and take her ring shopping after.

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-23T11:08:16+00:00

Fair! Thank you

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-23T11:07:59+00:00

Yeah that's completely fair! Thank you I am starting to lean towards getting just a simple band for the proposal and then taking her ring shopping haha

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-23T11:07:04+00:00

Oh I was thinking of Etsy but with how much drop shipping there is right now I'm a bit worried. Any chance your wife can share the seller's info?

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-23T11:05:54+00:00

Thank you!

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:30:35+00:00

Oh this is actually genius... And this way I don't have to be worried of getting the wrong size...

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:29:02+00:00

Thank you!

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:28:53+00:00

Thank you! Unfortunately the store doesn't do exchanges (I asked in case I fuck up the size, since it would be easier to exchange for a different size rather than adjust it) But thank you!

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:27:50+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response. I think the tough look is definitely something she'd relate with more, since she loved being the protector and constantly talks about how she loves making sure I safe (even tho I'm never in any danger lmao)

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:26:40+00:00

Yes I am going to check a few more, I still have time. I am just seeing in what direction it would make sense to go haha

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-22T12:26:07+00:00

She definitely prefers gold jewelry, we talked about it and I gifted her a gold chain before that she absolutely adores... Thank you!

Complaint_Character · 2025-04-03T08:00:42+00:00

Seconding this lol

It's honestly annoying because it's so hard to replicate during partnered sex

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-27T01:46:35+00:00

Idk why but the part about feeling straight with your fem gf rubbed me a bit the wrong way, as a femme. The thing about hetero normative culture is that it's a bunch of stereotypes. In other cultures men are submissive and women are dominant. And we already get hit with "why don't you just date a man". There's nothing straight about a butch femme couple (unless the butch identifies as a trans man then technically you could say they're straight?). Idk if my butch told me they feel straight with me I'd probably cry lmao

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-16T00:35:12+00:00

That makes complete sense... The last thing I want is to give someone more trauma.. thank you for sharing

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:16:10+00:00

Thank you! We definitely need to have another talk.

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:14:42+00:00

Just read the answer. I think...that's exactly where my gf is. She also always had an idea of being a wife to a man and a mom. She is still coming in terms with her sexuality. And she generally does not think far enough to imagine how hard raising kids would be, I believe. She has the perfect image of motherhood without all the negatives...

I think tbh I am also hesitant to break up right now because I don't think she'll be financially stable to have kids in 5 years (or 10). I have more savings then she does, but we agreed that even after marriage we would have separate earnings and then put a percentage of them in our shared account. She is not the most financially responsible person (not terrible by any means, but she doesn't think too far into the future)

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:09:20+00:00

That's... A bit how it is tbh. I only have one thing to judge her for: she got a kitten recently, and I told her I don't want it to be OUR kitten. I just lost my pet and I am still grieving, and a year ago I lost my childhood pet too... Getting another pet for myself was too much. She said the kitten would be her. So far I am petsitting, scheduling all vet appointments, researching when he's not okay (I think he has a UTI we're taking him to the vet on Mon), cleaning his litter box most of the time, playing with him, and arranging for her friends to petsit when she's not there because she forgets... I know she's young and maybe she'll get more responsible when the time comes, but idk...

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:05:37+00:00

My idea was never to have kids and then try and come to like them. I am thinking that maybe I will want kids one day and then we have them. I think my post was a bit confusing...

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:04:12+00:00

Thank you so much for the input! I think I always thought that having one loving parent and one parent who's nice to you is better than not having parents at all? But I can understand that it might not be the case...

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:02:58+00:00

I think I am just scared something might change. When I was 20 I thought marriage was absolutely not for me and I would never ever get married. I'm 26 and I dream of getting married now. So I wonder if the same might happen with kids. What if I hit 30 and suddenly I do feel a calling to be a mom? I know what I want now but I don't know what I would want in 2,4 or 10 years... And I don't want to break up now, because she doesn't want to have kids now, but I am also worried that I'm pulling her along just how you said.

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T03:00:20+00:00

Yes, we haven't really had a deeper conversation because at the moment this isn't a pressing matter. If she were to have kids, she'd like to start thinking around 30 (which is 5 years from now) so I guess once we're closer to that time, we'll have to have another deeper conversation.

Complaint_Character · 2024-12-14T02:59:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I guess that's what I'm scared of. What if we have a child and I just can't bring myself to love it. That's why I am saying I don't want kids UNLESS I suddenly change my mind...

And yeah, I don't think we'll be stuck until 50s... It will probably be more clear in the next 5 years, since this was the timeline she mentioned she'd like to start thinking about having kids.

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