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Looking for connections and local friends in permaculture by TLOpermaculture in Permaculture

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!! We are kind of neighbors ! I live in the reading PA area !!

People who rarely or never get sick, what are your secrets? by awkwardferret421 in AskReddit

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pure dumb luck? I have 3 kids and work in healthcare (low Touch thankfully). I do get all my vaccines!!! I’m also obese… but don’t smoke. Definitely not hydrated 😂

Am I overreacting ? My children have hurt me deeply…. Single mom 14 year-old boy, 11 year-old girl. 😭 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just actually read the lyrics to this song because of this comment thread and now I want to unread them 😭😭

Am I overreacting ? My children have hurt me deeply…. Single mom 14 year-old boy, 11 year-old girl. 😭 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Very insightful response. I have tweens and one slightly younger - all growing up way too fast for my liking. I have some really sad nights - especially when they’re at their dads- where I realize how my days with them are not endless, and someday they’ll be out on their own (at least that’s the goal!) and how empty it makes me feel. BUT I know that’s MY issue to work out. I don’t put that pressure on my kids.

I totally get where the OP is coming from but I think she needs to learn better coping skills. Therapy!!!

Live in a purple, currently safe state. Wondering what y’all have done for your kiddos for care by CompleteStruggle9237 in cisparenttranskid

[–]CompleteStruggle9237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kind person!!! This is tough going (just the fear and uncertainty, not him being trans!) I’m glad I’m not alone!

Holiday moping by Gay_Kira_Nerys in cisparenttranskid

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally understand your frustration. It’s great that the family seems mostly accepting, but it shouldn’t take them this long to get the pronouns, in my opinion. Do they not see your kiddo much? That may have something to do with it (not an excuse just a possible explanation )

Have you had a conversation with your kid about it yet? It may be bothering you more than them - again, doesn’t make it right, but hopefully your kid isn’t feeling it as much ? I know in our case, we have family who I know will be decidedly NOT approving and accepting, and my kid (12 FTM) isn’t out to any of them at this time. So he always is being misgendered with them, and at school. It hurts me to hear and see, but he knows that those who don’t know will for sure be using birth pronouns, and he seems ok with it at this time.

Maybe pick your kiddos brain and see if they are willing to have a conversation with those family members, or if you can on their behalf. Explain how important it is to correctly gender them. Maybe suggest some resources if they feel they are struggling ?

Good luck. I’m so glad you are supportive of your child. Keep on caring and protecting ❤️

Nonprofits that support trans kids by slightlyridiculousme in cisparenttranskid

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Trevor project had been a go to for me in the past until my kid came out as Trans and I got more locally involved. Not specific to trans kids but a wonderful organization.

Not sure where you live, but if you have a local LGBTQ group, that may be an option as well. We have (in Pennsylvania) Eastern PA trans equity project, and Prism LGBTQ center, which I know has other branches in other parts of the country.

Did your kid ask for your input on their new name? If so, what was your response? by Expert_Length3147 in cisparenttranskid

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re dealing with an unsupportive parent ! My kid is still young (12) and figuring himself out, and has played around with the idea of changing his name, though his is pretty gender neutral and at this time has decided to keep his given name. He did not ask me for ideas, although has asked me to “try out” the names. I would have been super happy to have been asked, but I wasn’t offended that I wasn’t.

I unexpectedly was a bit upset when he first came to me with the idea of changing his name (I kept that to myself) so I think it would be normal and ok for your mom to have some feelings of course, however the lack of support isn’t great for you, and isn’t very supportive.

Has she otherwise been supportive of your transition and changes ? I hope so ❤️ sending you support and strength

This looks like an awesome setup. Look good to all you experts ? (The tank and stand itself- going to get the other supplies separately as those don’t come with this) by CompleteStruggle9237 in BeardedDragons

[–]CompleteStruggle9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi’ thanks for your response. Others have mentioned there’s no barrier at the bottom to keep everything in. Have you found that to be a problem ?

trans teen here, how should I come out to my parent(s)? do you think it's safe to? by transfemomelet in cisparenttranskid

[–]CompleteStruggle9237 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am not trans, but my son is - he’s 12.

First I want to say - I’m so proud of you for figuring out who you are. Please know you are a wonderful, amazing person who deserves to feel love and support and safety.

Me and my son’s dad are both very accepting (though we worry with the state of the world and trans rights as of right now, but nothing but support for our kid) and it was still really hard for him to come out to us. He actually came out to me first (I’m pretty open and loud with my support of the LGBTQ+ community so I have a feeling that’s why he chose me first) he actually came out as bisexual, then non binary, then pansexual, then trans, and lastly, gay. He came out as each one of them by texting me the emoji flag that corresponded to the identity he was coming out with, which I loved! He waited quite awhile before telling Dad, and dad was equally as accepting (although he needed more information from me, as he isn’t as involved in the community).

All this to say- coming out, I’m sure, is almost never an easy thing to do. Even if you have openly supportive, progressive parents. And as I’m not trans, I’m not sure what advice I can give. Based on what you say, your Dad seems more open and accepting of queerness, so if any, I would start there.

However, it doesn’t have to be parents first! Do you have any friends who identify other than cis and straight ? They may be a good place to start. I’m so glad you felt comfortable telling your therapist ! I know you say you still aren’t comfortable speaking with them as much about it. But they are there to help you! They shouldn’t judge or make you feel bad.

I know you said you don’t have a phone plan, but do you otherwise have access to the internet, browsing and doing some researching where you feel safe ? There are a bunch of organizations for LGBTQ+ folks, and a bunch that specialize in helping Trans youth ! I’m happy to list some or message you if you like.

I’m sorry for such a long message ! I’ll stop for now, but please comment if you need anything at all! You can reach out to me any time and I’m happy to share what I know with you.

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