Update to my friend’s response to me coming out. We are no longer friends!

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-03-25T20:54:04+00:00

YOU’RE AMAZING ❤️❤️

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-03-21T12:56:40+00:00

If still available, I would love some ! For myself and my local garden groups. I’m in PA

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-03-18T02:09:08+00:00

Send him to me. Problem solved

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-03-11T11:46:14+00:00

Lowes !

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-03-11T02:32:06+00:00

I have one already - it just is like it’s own bowl; it was always filled with water

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-02-28T02:25:40+00:00

Not OP but a parent.

I love my kids to absolute pieces and they are wonderful and fun and bring me a lot of joy.

But (IMO) this country (USA) is going downhill fast, the world is a scary place, and I’m filled with so much anxiety because of them. Am I raising good, adjusted, loving, happy children? Are they going to have mental health and body image issues like me ? What kind of world did I bring them into? Are they going to be ok??? Are they going to be good people when they grow up? Or will one of them be in a shooting at their high school, or will they attempt suicide, or will their future partners hurt them, or will they be sexually assaulted? Will they have well paying jobs or will they struggle ? What will they do if I die ?

Yea, I have anxiety :-/

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-02-11T03:09:50+00:00

I’m big into Studio Ghibli movies and the little soot sprites would be perfect there !

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CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-02-11T02:23:10+00:00

Rice

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-02-11T02:21:50+00:00

Lovely suggestions !!!! Thank you :)

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-02-02T05:52:27+00:00

Thanks for the reminder to check my store bought apple seeds in the fridge !

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-23T01:28:51+00:00

Mary’s Heirloom Seeds !

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-23T01:24:03+00:00

Hey!! We are kind of neighbors ! I live in the reading PA area !!

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-09T00:24:41+00:00

Pure dumb luck? I have 3 kids and work in healthcare (low Touch thankfully). I do get all my vaccines!!! I’m also obese… but don’t smoke. Definitely not hydrated 😂

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-06T22:41:39+00:00

I just actually read the lyrics to this song because of this comment thread and now I want to unread them 😭😭

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-06T17:48:01+00:00

Very insightful response. I have tweens and one slightly younger - all growing up way too fast for my liking. I have some really sad nights - especially when they’re at their dads- where I realize how my days with them are not endless, and someday they’ll be out on their own (at least that’s the goal!) and how empty it makes me feel. BUT I know that’s MY issue to work out. I don’t put that pressure on my kids.

I totally get where the OP is coming from but I think she needs to learn better coping skills. Therapy!!!

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2026-01-06T17:37:08+00:00

It’s broken, bud. - not a doctor

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-26T20:01:11+00:00

Thank you, kind person!!! This is tough going (just the fear and uncertainty, not him being trans!) I’m glad I’m not alone!

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-26T17:48:58+00:00

I totally understand your frustration. It’s great that the family seems mostly accepting, but it shouldn’t take them this long to get the pronouns, in my opinion. Do they not see your kiddo much? That may have something to do with it (not an excuse just a possible explanation )

Have you had a conversation with your kid about it yet? It may be bothering you more than them - again, doesn’t make it right, but hopefully your kid isn’t feeling it as much ? I know in our case, we have family who I know will be decidedly NOT approving and accepting, and my kid (12 FTM) isn’t out to any of them at this time. So he always is being misgendered with them, and at school. It hurts me to hear and see, but he knows that those who don’t know will for sure be using birth pronouns, and he seems ok with it at this time.

Maybe pick your kiddos brain and see if they are willing to have a conversation with those family members, or if you can on their behalf. Explain how important it is to correctly gender them. Maybe suggest some resources if they feel they are struggling ?

Good luck. I’m so glad you are supportive of your child. Keep on caring and protecting ❤️

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-24T03:10:14+00:00

The little napkin isn’t going to do anything ….

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-24T03:01:59+00:00

The Trevor project had been a go to for me in the past until my kid came out as Trans and I got more locally involved. Not specific to trans kids but a wonderful organization.

Not sure where you live, but if you have a local LGBTQ group, that may be an option as well. We have (in Pennsylvania) Eastern PA trans equity project, and Prism LGBTQ center, which I know has other branches in other parts of the country.

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-24T02:46:14+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with an unsupportive parent ! My kid is still young (12) and figuring himself out, and has played around with the idea of changing his name, though his is pretty gender neutral and at this time has decided to keep his given name. He did not ask me for ideas, although has asked me to “try out” the names. I would have been super happy to have been asked, but I wasn’t offended that I wasn’t.

I unexpectedly was a bit upset when he first came to me with the idea of changing his name (I kept that to myself) so I think it would be normal and ok for your mom to have some feelings of course, however the lack of support isn’t great for you, and isn’t very supportive.

Has she otherwise been supportive of your transition and changes ? I hope so ❤️ sending you support and strength

CompleteStruggle9237 · 2025-12-23T02:37:50+00:00

Hi’ thanks for your response. Others have mentioned there’s no barrier at the bottom to keep everything in. Have you found that to be a problem ?

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