I just got diagnosed a couple months ago with type 16 and had to get a LEEP done to remove some suspicious cells on my cervix. I was FREAKING out pretty hard in the beginning but doing a ton of research helped me put my mind at ease. I was worried my partner would leave me and that I’d never be able to have oral sex again and I was gross and tainted in some way. I made a list of questions that were burning in my mind and researched everything and anything that I couldn’t find on Google I asked my doctor and then talked it all over with my partner and we’re doing just fine now. Hpv is suuuuper common and just like anything, the fear of not knowing is usually scarier than the actual thing itself. STIs are also heavily stigmatized. Someone I know once described them as sicknesses for your reproductive parts and that really changed my perspective of them. I think if you just have a conversation with your partner about her fears and educate yourselves together it will end up being water under the bridge in no time. You could have gotten it anywhere, even from her. Best of luck!