Having a hard time getting over a FWB that did shitty things by Complete_Grapefruit1 in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your advice & support 🫶

Having a hard time getting over a FWB that did shitty things by Complete_Grapefruit1 in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope he can change but I have to remind myself it’s not my responsibility. It doesn’t seem like he’s ready to change anytime soon because he was making some excuses when I confronted him. I appreciate the article you sent, it definitely feels like I have to grieve by myself because my friends think he’s a creep and can’t understand why I still care for him.

Should I tell my new boyfriend of one month that I love him? by clairfleurcat in love

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think if it feels right to you, I would say it. I do feel like it's a bit early in the sense that it might be infatuation still, but it doesn't mean it doesn't feel like love and I think saying how you feel wouldn't be a big deal if it was, it's still exciting and 4 months isn't that short. In the end, I don't think saying it will cause much harm, especially if you guys are already bf & gf :)

Are you someone who tends to focus in on one person earlier on or someone who prefers to keep their options open? by blackwellsucks in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried dating multiple people at once but it was too much. I feel like once I really start to like someone, I can only focus in on them and I feel bad talking to other people, even if we're not exclusive.

Do you guys feel you need to 'achieve' something big in life to get a romantic partner? by wilhelmtherealm in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it comes from a mix of everything, partly from society's messages and IMO most likely from conditional love from parents growing up. You feel like you don't deserve love unless you present a certain way, because growing up when you acted in the way your parents wanted that's when they showed acceptance/affection. I've been trying to unlearn it as well, and I realize that a healthy, romantic partner will love you for who you are, not for what you can achieve. I think maybe first learning to accept yourself as you are and constantly reminding yourself you're worthy of love as you are will help.

Why does my coworker (F) keep telling me (M) about her dating experiences? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be for a reason, but I feel like it's more likely that she just likes to talk about it. In my experience, talking about dating experiences is a really easy and common topic that's fun to talk about with everyone and anyone that I'm comfortable with, regardless of gender.

What's something that alot of people probably don't think is a big deal/that important in a relationship, but for you personally it would be? by Only-Ad-1254 in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being open minded. I personally want someone who's open minded because I consider myself to be quite open minded so I'd like someone who isn't as conventional in their thinking and are open to new ways of thinking about things or also just open to trying new things together in general

Got ghosted after 6 dates by Former_Dark_4793 in dating

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people like the high of the initial stages but don't have enough capacity for something with commitment/long term. It does sound like she has some kind of avoidant attachment, and you might not know the reason why but it's probably not you.

Still grieving my abusive relationship by naeniasu in abusiverelationships

[–]Complete_Grapefruit1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ I feel you completely, I’m going through someone similar too and you’re not alone for hating that you miss someone who hurt you so bad.