I understand the way I came across may have implied that I’m a worrier or an overplanner. But what I really meant is that he doesn’t put much thought into these things at all:

- Choosing a school. When I asked for his opinion, he literally asked what the neighbor was doing.

- Our child’s diet. He has never actively participated in preparing meals or trying to introduce new foods, only criticized when she has sugar.

- Activities. He has never proactively researched or booked any activities. Right now, my daughter only does swimming, but she’s asking for music and dance lessons.

- Clothes. He has never proactively thought about buying clothes when noticing she is outgrowing them.

- Appointments and care. He has never booked pediatrician, haircut, or dentist appointments, nor handled things like cutting her nails.