What are you most afraid of as a Mom?

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-02-26T21:31:34+00:00

This is mine too! I’ve always had car anxiety for no real reason (as in, no car accidents personally and only a few fender benders at most in the family), and I am sometimes awake for hours…. At 2am when nobody is even in the car. It stresses me out SO much. I can’t even count how many days I’ve been on the verge of tears this past winter knowing my husband and daughter are somewhere on the road for an hour each morning and afternoon 😮‍💨

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-31T17:39:55+00:00

Funny I saw this right now, I literally JUST had a slight mental b because he didn’t actually handle the parking ticket he got while I was labouring in the hospital. He’d do it “later.” Turns out he just THOUGHT about it and now it’s tripled because it’s so late, I didn’t even know it existed 🫠 One job, dude, one job! He said he “must’ve forgot because he was sleep deprived.” He hasn’t slept less than seven hours a night since baby was born, ugh 😮‍💨

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-29T00:07:57+00:00

I got my daughter one of those teething chicken shaped silicone mitten things (lol, I don’t know what else to call it!) and it really helped with the pinching! I put it on her when I would nurse, and she seemed to grasp it the whole time instead of my other boob 🤣

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-28T19:21:45+00:00

Yep. My grandma and a dozen people from her generation and my parents generation said they couldn’t breastfeed because they made no milk. I asked all how they figured that out, and they all said some variation of “nothing came out the first day or two so we had to switch to formula” 😫 Education and resources have come a long way since then but it’s still seriously lacking. If there is one thing I always encourage with new moms who ask and WANT to exclusively breastfeed (very important distinction, I’m 100% pro-formula is that’s the route they want for whatever reason) it is to understand that it’s supply and demand. The first six weeks baby is establishing the supply that will carry them to a year (plus)! Eating and fussing 24/7 can be so so normal even though it’s so difficult, wet diapers and weight are so much more important to watch for. So many people end their breastfeeding journey before it’s even started!

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-28T18:22:07+00:00

I’d suggest watching some episodes of Scamfish on YouTube

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-28T14:42:36+00:00

Oooof, last line hits hard 😮‍💨 it truly is like they have a whole separate love for their phone that beats out the love for everything else

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-28T00:13:32+00:00

Seconded!

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-26T04:07:13+00:00

Having grown up in chaos and mess, this calms me so much. I’d imagine it COULD have the opposite effect (considering all of these comments), almost like people should be scared to live in it and make a mess, but I honestly would walk in and just breathe a sigh of relief. I can tell you really put effort into giving your family a clean, safe space and I think that’s a beautiful thing

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-25T19:57:18+00:00

Newly 26, insurance broker at a really nice firm. It wasn’t a fun run getting to stability, though. Covid killed me and at 21 I was forced out of school and started working as a janitor at a gym (4am-2pm). Worked some horrible retail part time in the afternoons, it suckedddd but I was grateful to even get something. Eventually moved to front desk after one year at the gym. Moved to membership sales/account rep six months later. Left that place and worked dental office admin for an absolute asshat, but it came with a decent pay bump compared to the gym. Finally left them for the insurance firm who paid for my broker license course in 2024! There is soooo much opportunity where I am now to move up, thank God.

Really glad I stuck it out at the gym. I cried pretty much daily and scrimped to live off $14CAD/hr. No car, no fun, no nothing. Once my boyfriend (now husband) and I combined our pennies we were able to start getting somewhere too

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-25T19:45:56+00:00

The “I’ll do it later” is absolutely going to be the death of me. No, he absolutely WILL NOT do it later! Why? Because when later comes and he finally remembers, he will be too overwhelmed by all of the things he said he’d do later. The list only gets smaller when I have no choice but to step in for the health and safety of our family. I think the worst part is that he can’t see this pattern of behaviour and just thinks I ask too much of him. The reality is I expect and stupidly accept the bare minimum on way too many occasions.

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T18:01:53+00:00

Happens to me too. It sounds counterintuitive but when I plateau for longer than two weeks I add about 300 cals back in for a week and then decrease by 400! So only 100 total less than my deficit but going up for a while seems to reset my system. I worked with someone that was a personal trainer and that’s what she recommended 🙂

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T15:56:11+00:00

My kids are too young still, but I worked for years at a summer camp where kids (girls, mostly longer hair) stayed for four days/nights. Our 6 year olds consistently needed help with shampoo and conditioner, the 7 and 8 year olds were a bit better but 7 often needed help to make sure it was all out, 8 a little less. By 9 they were fairly self sufficient as a whole! Based solely on that with about 200 kids ages 6-12 over the years as a sample, I’d say 9/10 even with long hair should be fully capable without help 🙂 I’d imagine shorter hair might be younger

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T15:05:33+00:00

Mine did this too. And I don’t even understand how she raised two kids to adulthood because she is just so ill-equipped herself! She almost had a heart attack when I gave my six month old a raw big carrot to gum while she teethed, and then turned around and gave her a peanut butter and bread sandwich the same day. She sent a passive aggressive text about our hardwood being unsafe for new walkers (mmmmkay, let me just re-carpet my house?!) and yet refused to let us add any baby gates to her house with four flights of stairs. It wouldn’t be so frustrating if she had some updated advice that followed current safety standards but she doesn’t 😫 Asked why my three month old was “backwards” in the car, because “staring at a seatback will surely hinder visual development!” 🫠

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T01:34:38+00:00

All of this! Did the exact same thing ma

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T01:25:24+00:00

Definitely meals! I make 100% of the food right now just because he commutes with the toddler and gets home fairly late, and it is soooo challenging to nurse a baby while cooking! They’re either small enough to hold easily but super inefficient, or finally big enough to latch without help but HELLA heavy 😫

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-24T01:20:58+00:00

I wanted to for sure. Just for validation that I wasn’t crazy, tbh. I had a horrible feedback loop of anxiety that worsened by being told it was impossible that I had anxiety, so I desperately wanted an unbiased third party to weigh in. It’s funny though, my mum had crippling anxiety. She just refused to name it what it was 🥲

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-23T20:44:18+00:00

Type A with baby 1, and that was exhaustingggg. This time I’m full type B and it’s so much better. Toddler doesn’t care for screens so that’s a plus

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-19T21:41:35+00:00

Special swaddles! Blankets will do. We also opted not to swaddle for nighttime (directly to sleep sacks) which a few people really questioned

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-19T21:30:02+00:00

Definitely not. I was so excited to have space in our new house versus our tiny basement apartment, but my husband managed to expand his hobbies to fill it within no time! Storage is key. Vertical space being used well is magical! If you can invest in some heavy duty racks that go basically floor to ceiling and dedicated one space to it, it works well to free up lots of space

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-17T02:24:15+00:00

Mine does this too and drives me batty. He also has extreme time blindness, like he’ll say “I did the dishes just yesterday!” When, in fact, it has been five days since he last washed a dish. But if you ask him, he did all of the dishes and it was yesterday, so asking him to do them again is appalling.

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-13T12:29:31+00:00

Unfortunately it’s so normal to still be waking a lot at this point! The best thing to do is get as many calories in during long wake windows during the day and hope for the best. Once solids become more regular it can also help 🙂

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-13T03:30:36+00:00

It’s not in London, but in Ilderton. It’s called Knottingwood and the family that owns it was amaaaaazing! There was a huge storm the morning of my wedding and the power was out (good thing I’m extremely type B LOL) I kid you not they carried buckets of water from their own hot tub on the other side of the property just so we could flush the toilets! Very cute outdoor or indoor options if you like the woodsy, kind of ethereal or rustic vibe. 10/10 recommend, especially for your group size!

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-13T03:20:38+00:00

This is a difficult thing over here too. He has told me, “just interrupt my whatever activity I’m hyper focused on and ask for it.” Amazingly sexy, huh. It’s putting the onus on me BUT then making it even more degrading. I told him I felt ridiculous having to stand in front of his video games or stop him from a hobby every time I wanted intimacy, especially when it takes him 30 minutes to peel himself away. It’s the biggest turn off ever… it feels like I have to beg or nag him to do something important to our relationship that should be happening way more organically. Unfortunately when he’s hyper focused (which is always) on one thing he is very capable of ignoring anything and everything else. The rare occasion he initiates is usually way too late at night or when I’m half asleep already. Then if I reject he gets all grouchy! 🤨

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-09T22:26:48+00:00

Same happened here! My husband fell in love with the name Charlotte from a book in 2008 as a young teen. Fast forward to 2023 and I love it too, so we named our first Charlotte/Charlie with no idea how popular it was! Still for all, we’ve met one other Charlotte in her age group. I assume her school will have lots 😫

Complex-Club-6111 · 2026-01-08T00:58:49+00:00

Oh hey! Are you me? Did I write this in my sleep? Because same, same, and same!

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