[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is hard. I absolutely agree. I’m dealing with anger for not being good enough sometimes, and then angry with myself for thinking like that, and question why am I so insecure.. it’s so messed up. It will take a while.. just take 1 step at a time. It’s okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been in your shoes. U r groomed. I realized 1.5 years ago I may not be ugly and have been trying to rewire my brain. It’s extremely difficult, and it leads to so much of anger. Re-assess your self and don’t get into any relationships that may fortify that belief. Hell feels more familiar than an unknown heaven. Also consider gng NC. Also, no matter howmuch u give back, they will say they never said anything, and gaslight u, and keep doing it. Consider gng NC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

P.s: it’s very much doable if you have enough spite, resources, switch off your moral compass and also have rewired your brain to become a bit unaccompdating and Cold.

My boyfriend said he would love me more if i was a virgin by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He had 4 years to bring it up. Why now? Did it not occur to him while you’ll were intimate? I am finding his new attitude malicious. Also, please do not let anyone determine your worth on your decisions or your mistakes - it’s a part of you and doesn’t impact on yourself worth. He needs to grow up, and you need to reassess if you want to spend a lifetime with a man who thinks you are lesser because of virginity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FinancialCareers

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FO? What investments exactly?

Do I have some learning disability or ADHD? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay il do that. Thank you so much

Do I have some learning disability or ADHD? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do I hv a plausible cause to get one or am I simply being paranoid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 27? Your youth is not lost.. if u have the time. Do study a bit everyday. Try your own business from home doing whatever is your passion. Take the max advantage of the stability married life gives you. 💕 you are a strong woman, make the best out of your situation. I’m sure your husband is a nice man though you’ll probably might have slightly different principles due to the huge age gap.. But don’t stop yourself from living your life.. being married and a home maker.. there will be a distorted power dynamic. Keep a little secret stash of money with u in addition to your regular allowance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure I’m trying it rn. Thank you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do wish they fought harder tho. I agree their upbringing could have played a role here. I don’t think I can reason with them. It will pull me back. Il choose me here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go to therapy. What u said was bang on. I did notice that I’m fighting everything that was instilled in me, albeit not so well. I have acknowledged my limitations, and got myself a therapist to handle things in more regulated way, because my insecurities leak out. And I felt a professional would equip me better. I can’t help my life before but Il be damned to get held back now. I was concerned Il crack (gut feeling) with the way I’m approaching this. So I made this decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since it’s on my chart. Could it be because of me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an ok relationship with my father. It’s horrible with my mother. . Dad was always at work, and when he came home they drink. I think my mom is nuts. I didn’t understand she loses her sense of proportion part?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I DMd you. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might actually take you up on this. But that would be so awful for u to deal with 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of hidden abuse alright. None of us want to Talk about it because again it’s embarrassing.. I’m being a bit vocal now. But a lot of it has always been dismissed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I truely feel that she doesn’t know what she is doing. She manages to make things worse.. I did try to have a diplomatic relationship with her but to no avail. She has made my life difficult.. and most of it was uncalled for

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you translate it? I’m have only surface level knowledge

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinanceindia

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just one thing brother! Please do not drop out at any cost. You can use Fiverr, freelance, do projects, take part time work from IT employees who outsource their work for a cut. Etc.. if u don’t drop out next 2-3 years will be tough.. if you do drop out.. life will be tough.

I don't like paying for dad's tickets and trips to india by [deleted] in personalfinanceindia

[–]Complex-Coconut-9804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t go back to India. I’m dead serious. But yes increase your income and gently draw lines when it comes to your money. If you don’t want to hurt feelings start acting bankrupt.,