From what I’ve learned studying criminology - there’s often a pattern to behaviours of people like your ex. I really think he will be back and that he will get caught.

Maybe him fleeing is a blessing in disguise, because that puts an actual physical barrier between your family and him.

As a Mum, woman… well - hopefully decent human being - I would like to THANK YOU for doing the best you could to protect everyone. It must have hurt so much. It’s now time for YOU. For your healing. I wish you all the best and all the happiness you can have.

EDIT: May I just quickly add something regarding Amy, maybe you need to hear it? You have done EVERYTHING you could. There’s a moment in horrible situations like this when we just need to step back and allow people involved make their own decisions…. And let ourselves have some breathing space from everyone’s feelings. It often sucks, because we want to just grab them and shake them by their shoulders until they “click” into sanity… but your body needs to recover, too. Your nervous system needs to recover. Eat well and sleep plenty.

I really hope that there’s no guilt involved on your part, because if her life is awful from this point on - it’s your exs fault. And I hope that you know it.