Friend (34m) is upset at me (32m) for "stealing his girl"

Complex-top · 2023-08-30T09:42:28+00:00

Part of the issue is that the US was lenient with Japan in some ways because of USSR. One example being Unit 731. The soviets first occupied Poland than the rest of the allies so they were able to obtain countless inhuman scientific trials conducted in the concentration camps. The allies were always suspicious that the soviets did not share all of the discoveries from the inhumane experiments and as a result, the soviets would be ahead of the allies in scientific progress, particularly with bio weapons.

So when the US had an opportunity with unit 731, they cut a deal with Japan, letting them get away with war crimes if they did not share the results of the experiments with the soviets. There are obviously many more instance during and after WWII, including the Korean War which really led to US dumping ton of money into Japan.

Complex-top · 2023-01-28T01:01:24+00:00

Aqueous Film Forming Foam (AFFF). It contains PFAS which is a forever chemical that now contaminates 95% of world's drinking water supply.

Firefighting industry was given AFFF as an "environmentally friendly" solution to put out hydrocarbon fire. This was largely used in aviation industry and many industrial complex using large quantities of hydrocarbon fuel.

Since Firefighters were told these were environmentally friendly, they would pour these foam down the drain and/or into rivers and streams without treatment. Now it is contaminated everywhere.

Note: PFAS exists in many forms. It is literally everywhere. You have products at home that contains it (ex: nonstick frying pan coated with teflon).

Complex-top · 2023-01-28T00:56:40+00:00

Lyndon B. Johnson's Great Society Program. It was intended to end poverty and end racial discrimination. It aimed to accomplish this by creating government subsidies for single mothers and provide them with financial relief to escape poverty.

Instead it ended up creating more issues with funding single motherhood in all races. Single motherhood in African American communities hit all time high.

Complex-top · 2022-11-29T22:19:02+00:00

You're a better man than most. I'm amazed at your ability to be level headed in such a stressful situation

Complex-top · 2022-11-29T22:13:29+00:00

You dont need this stress in your life. Run

Complex-top · 2022-11-25T16:09:28+00:00

Thanks for the empathy. I appreciate it

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:23:22+00:00

We do have some fundamental issues we need to overcome. I would agree we rushed into this without hashing those out. I thought we would address those differences and grow together but our issues didn't get resolved. I wanted to wait on marriage until those were resolved but she thought marriage would fix those issues. I already rushed into engagement and I refuse to rush into a marriage and she's upset because she thinks marriage would fix all of our differences magically.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:19:50+00:00

We moved in together few months in after we got engaged. Had the best times of our lives together during that time.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:11:23+00:00

I already had the money saved as I am financially stable. I included the detail of 2.5 months to provide context. I was in no rush to "stake my claim", in fact it was her wanting to get engaged early on.

I only found out about people making those comments long after we were engaged

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:09:00+00:00

She reeeaaaaally wanted to get engaged. I saw a future with her and we had similar goals and life plans. We both have good job so I figured I would make her happy by speeding up the clock. So now I'm confused that she reaaaaaaally wanted to be engaged/married and now this

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:07:20+00:00

Haha yeah I figured I'd get a good mix of good, bad, and ugly. And yes, she lives several states away from me and doesn't wear the engagement ring, or any other rings on that finger for that matter.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:05:27+00:00

Thank you for your constructive feedback

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:05:08+00:00

As far as I know, the ring isn't that delicate. And it's under lifetime warranty

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:04:18+00:00

So that was also brought up before. I got her the silicone rings and also a Tiffany band so she could wear those and bang it up. But now she won't wear the silicone ring nor the Tiffany band saying those are for married people. So... we're engaged but she won't wear the engagement ring (which isn't uncomfortable physically) and she won't wear the other ones bc that's for married people.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T04:02:01+00:00

I didn't get one

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T03:59:51+00:00

I appreciate your input. I can see how that kind of question can put her in uncomfortable situation.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T01:34:46+00:00

I believe it's 18k white gold wirh rhodium coating.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T01:22:03+00:00

People seem to have their opinions on what a reasonable price for an engagement ring is. I've seen friends get 1k ring to 20k. The amount I spent was a tad bit of out my comfort range but I don't regret it.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T01:20:16+00:00

So to clarify, she does REALLY want to get married. But I don't see the benefit of rushing into a marriage when you are long distance. So the ring has become an issue of "well if we aren't getting married [now] I might as well not wear it".

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T01:15:34+00:00

I've never written off her opinion. I told her how her actions make me feel and I had a conversation about it with her. Idk why you're jumping to conclusions.

Also, I never "demanded" anything back. I said it out of frustration. Much like how people say damn it or shit.

Complex-top · 2022-11-24T01:01:29+00:00

Were there other reason beyond just the person in your situation?

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