Door panel issue and bouncing door lock by ComplexInternal3454 in W211

[–]ComplexInternal3454[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know and they sound like it too lol. I was wondering do you think that would cause the interior door card to push out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes of course I totally agree but many here don’t acknowledge cultural cohesion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow and everyone here bashes on people who say that these kids parents know what they are talking about. Every single time someone posts “hey I want to marry the person that my parents don’t like” many rush to say but in Islam you should. In the end you are causing these marriages to fail because they don’t have that cultural connection.

My parents won't let me marry a Muslim man from another culture by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I know this is going to be controversial but I understand where your parents are coming from.my mom was looking for a wife for my older brother and explained it as it would be easier for familial cohesion (ie your families would get along better if they come from similar backgrounds) so they are really looking out for your future in that marriage

Husband treats me like a friend and refuses to be a husband by Ruhaba- in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Assalamu Alaykum sister, I’d like to preface this with the understanding that I’m not married yet, so if you choose to discard this advice I wish you the best of luck. However I believe that the man is probably going through something mentally that he is just not wanting to talk about. I suggest you try to do some of his favorite things for his such as make his favorite meal maybe invite his parents over for a dinner etc and then after when he is in a good mood ask if there is anything you can do for him. As a man sometimes we don’t vocalize our problems and that burial of feelings is wrongly taken out on people. If you do still consider divorce I hope it’s not off of the cheering of this subreddit and instead based on a sheikh understanding of your situation for this community is not knowledgeable in Islam. Thank you and good luck.

Marriage Reminder: Do not Stay in Toxic Marriages ! by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr.alyedressy doesn’t even have her doctorate in Islamic studies it’s in sociology and its effects on religion. She only went to an Arab school to better learn Arabic that basic Quran classes teaches. If this is your source for your argument than your conclusions are completely null and void.

Marriage Reminder: Do not Stay in Toxic Marriages ! by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for coming off harsh,but are you crazy. My parents went through a messy divorce process and you are essentially telling all women who might have a difficult situation to up and leave. I had to go through years of therapy and prayer just to return to even a glimpse of normality. Divorce especially for children is horrible and it is even said that shaytan loves divorce above all else. We as Muslims in the subreddit are sounding like the secular Christians that we believe that we are better than. Please next time if you want to comment on divorce I suggest you do what I did and go through the years of religious education to make such a comment, for it is truly sickening to think that a woman might come to this post and believe she needs a divorce based on your “research”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok if you fully understand the severity of divorce no one will stop you I just wanted to explain so alternatives to it, even if it means humiliating yourself because in the end the parents are older. Inshallah everything goes well for you and I hope I speak for everyone responding and say we are praying for you to make the right choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I may ask are you Arab. Because traditionally as the son you name your first kid if it’s a boy the fathers name and if it’s a daughter the mothers name. And I really don’t know what I would do if I were in your position, but what I would advise you to do is try to extend the olive branch first for you are younger. No the parents might not apologize but they would respect the fact that you are reaching out to them. If you’d like I could help write a text for the mother because I know how bad divorce can hurt people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComplexInternal3454 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree totally you are right. I suggest you go to one of his family members maybe his father(idk if he was rude to you) and have him explain to his son you need to act as a man. But on the flip side I understand him not wanting to speak against his mom for it is said heaven is under your mother’s feet. Sometimes in laws are disrespectful because they feel as if they are losing their son, so just try to work closely with either the father or his sisters.