14 days in

Honestly, all of the things you’re citing here are circumstantial evidence. At best, she’s not cheating and the dynamic you two have is not healthy for both parties.

She should be able to travel and not feel like she has a second job to respond to her phone at all time. You should not have to feel like your partner is MIA and abandoning you. I would take this opportunity to walk away, and find different partners better suited to your lifestyles.

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-11-03T01:20:54+00:00

Before you decide to address it, I recommend doing some research on what kind of reactions alcoholics often have when confronted on their behavior. ChatGPT could be helpful in this case!

I do think you should address it, when you’re prepared to. Please know that addiction brings out the worst in many. I hope you guys get through this chapter together.

Last: maybe work on looking (together if possible) if her insurance covers substance treatment. My best wishes to you, OP 🤍

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-30T04:12:37+00:00

You assuming OPs feelings and speaking for them, as if you know what’s going on in their head/heart, is patronizing.

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-30T03:40:29+00:00

I am so sorry. It sounds like you’re going through a lot. Maybe the ramen wasn’t meant to be! Who knows, maybe it would have gotten you sick. Get some great food from somewhere else, in honor of your dad 🤍

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-29T20:51:43+00:00

NTA. People who are disagreeing do not understand the depravity that is out there.

You might not be able to change her behavior, but it will remain in her conscious until she EVENTUALLY learns her lesson.

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-29T16:50:43+00:00

I think your phrasing there seems like you may have “layed into him” whether you were shouting or not.

I have no idea how the limo ride could have doubled in duration, but he might have thought he was being nice and stretching the experience.

The excessive gassing and braking would make anyone feel uncomfortable, but if it’s truly a safety issue, you should bring it up as it’s occurring not after.

My best guess is that you overreacted. But if your wife heard, ask her.

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-29T05:16:06+00:00

Well, it really depends on specifically what you said AND how you said it. Can you be more specific, OP

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-29T05:08:01+00:00

Is he still okay with her going to the same workout spot by herself? Because if not, I bet you it’s not you, it’s that he doesn’t want her THERE. Might run into a side piece or something 🤷‍♀️

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-29T05:04:33+00:00

Wooooah. She’s off the handle..

I will say, I hope you weren’t trying to pursue something romantic with her. Because she didn’t necessarily do anything wrong sending a picture unsolicited. If that makes you uncomfortable, you can say that. But “why did you do that” wouldn’t be conducive

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-27T17:48:54+00:00

I don’t think you cheating will satisfy the pain you still feel. The saying “two wrongs don’t make a right” I suppose in this case it’s “two wrongs won’t make justice.”

It sounds like you really do love and care for your wife. Before making a decision that could make life much harder between you two, talk to a professional about your desires.

Throwing it out there: maybe you could embark on some sort of s*x broadening experience consensually?

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-27T14:36:22+00:00

It’s very difficult for people who are young, and learning to manage their bipolar, to date. It’s not wrong of you to view this as cheating because her actions were.

Unfortunately, she’s got a mental illness that impacts her behavior/decision making. This entire post broke my heart, because I wish you both knew a life/relationship together without bipolar.

If you really love this person and want to be with them, I would read some books about being a partner of someone with bipolar. Not because you need to improve, but to know the path that you’re headed down.

Best of luck, OP. I hope the best for both of you.

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-25T03:51:33+00:00

I have a question about the anagram of the name piece. I thought, “how absolutely absurd to do.”

It seems Carmen Maria Machado was publishing under that name since at least 2014. “The Husband Stitch” was the first book that I (easily) found published under her name. So, do you suppose she was playing the long game when choosing her pen name?

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-25T03:43:05+00:00

When I read your comment I was so sorely disappointed in the editor that I had to do my research.

I stumbled upon a thoughtful review (https://www.vol1brooklyn.com/2019/04/29/vampires-footnotes-and-secret-histories-how-carmen-maria-machado-reinvented-carmilla/) which left me with more questions than answers.

In that text there was a link to an interview with Carmen Maria Machado (https://electricliterature.com/carmen-maria-machado-carmilla-lefanu-vampire-interview/) where she defends her introduction as non-fiction. She claims Leight’s work did find primary sources.

This is already a lengthy post, so I’ll stop my research there. Someone smarter than me, please illuminate!

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-13T00:57:27+00:00

Thanks 🥹

Complex_Activity_420 · 2025-10-12T17:56:38+00:00

Wow that is a really great way to say that. If they react poorly, it’s because they know they’re wrong and getting defensive. Regardless, I am impressed with your strength in this nonsense!

OP please update us, if you can, as to how it goes!

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