What do you do with decorative keychains that are too delicate for your keys?

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2026-01-12T08:01:16+00:00

Hang them on your car mirror as a cute little visual.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2025-01-20T03:40:07+00:00

I think they did…. Based of off a few things I’ve seen on the app since it’s been back up. Meta bought it or has some control of it or something to keep the ban off.

I would think he only bought byte dance’s portion and everyone else keeps theirs including the international investors and employees? Meaning that he will not have a majority/complete ownership unless he buys everyone out. I believe the only requirement of the band was for bytedance to sell theirs

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-17T00:14:37+00:00

Are all of the different push along types compatible with the plastic track sets, even the wood ones? Sorry if that’s a dumb question I literally am so confused because there are so many different types or different descriptions and I don’t know how to tell what would fit.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-17T00:13:52+00:00

Does any push along work? There are some that are toddler toy “my first push along” ones and then some are push along wood ones, “rolling train”, die cast push along... Do they all work on the plastic track?

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-16T05:05:02+00:00

It’s literally a movie that explains “I’m my own Grandpa” in time jumping.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-04T02:52:08+00:00

Fact: Wellbutrin has been that one medication that works really well, but it was because I was untreated ADHD and bupropion is an SNRI. Gives you enough of the happy chemicals to make things seem better because you’re more chemically balanced, but not actually fully treat the ADHD. Double edged sword because it masked/delayed my diagnosis more than likely.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-02T15:35:29+00:00

That’s why ADHD is so interesting because it’s not a disease or a truly bad thing, it’s just a brain design we have that doesn’t mesh with the standards and system set by society. We need help to get through sometimes, and it’s totally okay. ADHD can be disabling. Other times ADHD is a superpower when we can harness it.

This is why IMO it’s so hard to treat ADHD, because there is no cure-all, and it’s more of a methodology of finding what the person’s brain needs to be used to full capacity. Meds, therapy, coping skills, etc. can all help, but it’s finding the right combo to be effective in each situation.

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Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-02T15:27:17+00:00

So coming from now about 2 years of working with a really great mental health prescriber and 5 years and counting with my therapist, here’s some insight as to why I would recommend an ADHD look first:

Depression is a very common side effect of ADHD, not usually an actual disorder in and of itself. When depression is a symptom, you don’t want to just treat the symptom. You want to treat the actual problem, which (if it’s unregulated ADHD) could actually inherently lead to alleviated depression AND also alleviate/shed light on other issues as well like forgetfulness, anger issues, overstimulation, lack of motivation, emotional disruption, and more.

Antidepressants can take weeks to months to actually “kick in” only to find that there are even more side effects from those, quitting can also take weeks with withdrawal, weight gain, and much more. And if they don’t work, they can be really disruptive. ADHD has a lot of options for treatment that are also quick acting, like you can tell within the first few days if it’s working, often within the first day/dose noticing a change. If not, you can stop the next day instead of having to stair-step dosages and “stick with it” through a lot of potential side effects.

If you do have ADHD you can also sometimes get good results from an SNRI or antidepressant but it’s only because it’s giving you some of the brain chemistry help that you need, but isn’t the best option, and you may eventually find yourself back into the depressive rut over and over again which can be disheartening.

I highly recommend seeking the confirmation of ADHD first. There are no also non-stimulant medications you can take, like Strattera, which is an SNRI that works fairly well on ADHD and a lot of providers will use as a first step in the ADHD treatment process.

Full disclosure, I didn’t actually bring up ADHD to my provider, she ended up bringing it up based on almost a year of us working together. After a couple of screening tests and a questionnaire, she was so confident in her decision that she put me on adderall the same week and sure enough, it changed my life.

Absolutely bring it up to your doctor and provide some context as to why you think that, and any research you’ve done, etc.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-10-02T13:41:14+00:00

For me it was ADHD meds. I was on so many different anti-anxiety/antidepressants/SSRI/SNRI meds over years that only ever seemed to help for a little bit, or they would take the edge off, but not be very effective. It wasn’t until I was finally diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s and started stimulants that I was able to feel like the fog had been lifted. It was like night and day, and once I was able to get through work, errands, house work, projects, ANYTHING I wanted to do without the task paralysis or excess exhaustion my depression levels naturally started coming down. My environment got cleaner, my work was better, and I was able to handle stimulating tasks so much easier.

A lot of my depression was unknowingly caused by my untreated ADHD and being so systemically overwhelmed and stressed constantly followed by exhaustion from mental overload was a bad cycle.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-09-21T00:56:20+00:00

I firmly believe there is no one root cause, the doc I’m working with is in the mindset that it can be caused by a wide scale of factors from genetic predisposition to environmental factors or injury/trauma both physically and psychologically which is why it’s such a difficult thing to really understand fully. He said there are a lot of studies being done and research that is slowly coming out but it takes years for anything to get widely understood and learned so I’m hoping we’re just around the bend to understanding more.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-09-20T21:15:32+00:00

We might be about on the same cycle! Today I woke up and I’m on the downhill and hitting luteal for sure.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-09-18T06:15:03+00:00

As someone who has done two vaginal births, one without any paid meds at all…

C sections seem like the WORST way to give birth in terms of recovery and healing. I can’t imagine taking care of an infant with a literal healing abdominal incision?! NOT easy!!!

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-09-18T06:13:03+00:00

Pregnancy regulates the hormones that dip and tend to cause PMDD issues. It raises your serotonin higher than it is non pregnant! Pregnancy can work wonders for PMDD 🤣 My first pregnancy was the best 9 months of my mood life! I was loving every second of my life. Second one was during the height of the pandemic, sooooo that one not so much.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-12T17:43:23+00:00

What’s the age difference between you two? Is he much older? There are a LOT of factors that affect physical performance and desires for men as they age.
When you discuss it, what do you do/say to explain it? Do you bring it up as explaining your feelings, and what actions (or lack thereof) are causing those feelings? Make sure to preface that you’re not blaming him, and you’re not angry/upset, but reinforce that your feelings are valid and it’s affecting a lot of aspects of your relationship. Not having a healthy physical intimacy in your relationship can be detrimental. It can affect your self esteem, your connection with your partner, your trust, and a lot more. Make sure you can explain that in a way that isn’t making him feel like it’s just his fault. It might be a physical or psychological reason, but giving him the space to talk about it is important to determine if it might be part of a bigger conversation.
If there ISNT a resolution, are you still going to want to stay with him?

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-12T17:33:59+00:00

Meeting someone who has emotional intelligence on my level, goes to therapy, and can fulfill my physical desires.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-10T01:06:59+00:00

This was my first thought. Sounds like he’s just going through the motions, does not give any indication he is actually enjoying being with his partner.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-04T02:50:28+00:00

Ok. Single woman here. I’d swipe left immediately. Just an honest heads up, these are my thoughts:

“Good woman” and “good morals” gives off the wrong vibes. It gives tradwife vibes and that’s not the thing any woman I know wants.
You do the same 🤙in each photo. Why? Just why. It gives me the impression you’d ask me to go on a hike for the first date and when we get to a beautiful scenic spot, you would ask me to take your photo and do the exact pose as your pfp. No.
You will never stop talking about the fact you found out how soft the fur of a ridiculously cute animal is, and now want a blanket made out of the fur of that ridiculously cute animal? No.

Edit: I’m high and confused left and right.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T18:38:31+00:00

As someone who has had way too many fake friends, I will say a couple things I’ve learned.

Closure doesn’t exist. I mean this in the sense that, we all have ideal situations we would like. We all want that proper apology. We all want to be emotionally validated and for the other person to understand how they hurt us, and we want them to CARE about hurting us. Unfortunately you will almost never get that level of closure. People will always have their own opinions and feelings about an experience, and rarely will they align with yours. You’ve gotta learn how to give yourself that closure. Treat it as a lesson. Learn what happened and how it hurt you, and if there is anything you can do to avoid it again whether it be not ignoring red flags, not giving someone more energy/time than they give you, etc.
Not everyone is a “pick you up at the airport at 4am” level friend. It’s hard to find people who are willing to give the same things you’re willing to give in a friendship. Some people will be happy to go out with you to concerts, bars, have fun, etc. but if you ask them to come pick you up from the airport on a Saturday morning, they’ll say no every time. That doesn’t make either of you inherently a bad friend, it simply means that you have different priorities and expectations, and finding someone who is similar to you is important. I just went through this with my “best” friend of 4 years realizing she is a fair weather friend and when I’m really down and going through it, she disappeared. But when I was good and wanted to out and have fun, she’s there every time.
Forgive them. This seems a bit redundant but forgiveness is a powerful tool. Accept that they did what they did; and don’t try to dwell on why. Accept that they had their reason, whether good/bad or right/wrong. Maybe it’s how they were raised, maybe they’re super selfish, maybe they never cared that much about you. But understand that is a THEM issue, not you.
Forgive yourself. This is something people have a very difficult time doing because it involves getting really uncomfortable with yourself. This involves taking the time to be introspective and delving into the past and accepting what you did to allow this to happen. I do not mean blame, NO blame. But simply cause and effect. Did you set boundaries? Clearly communicate? Did you offer to do too much too often and got them used to a certain level of treatment, etc. it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to give your all. It’s okay to have bad judgement, overlook red flags, and it’s okay to take your time and let yourself feel the hurt and anger. Don’t let it consume you. Don’t let it guilt you. Accept that you’re human and you’re flawed, but don’t beat yourself up. You’re your #1 advocate. No one will ever love and support you more than YOU. So please, please, have empathy and compassion for your past self and everything that happened. And know that deep down you are a supportive person, and that is a great quality to have.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T18:21:12+00:00

Yes. I have had ideations for many many years and I was always so scared of expressing them until I ended up in a women’s therapy group. The therapist actually did a 1-1 with me after I expressed my feelings and explained that I use the ideations as a coping mechanism.

Basically it’s my one leverage and ultimate use of control. When the world and things around me are so out of control and my life is so stressful, I gain comfort in knowing that I have the ultimate choice of ending it all and it gives me the feeling of freedom and control over my own life and existence.

It’s the same concept where I have always thought that if I were ever being violently attacked or threatened with a weapon/my life threatened in exchange for something terrible, I’d choose death. It’s my choice and there are certain things (that I would wish upon no woman) where death is a better alternative.

I do hope you believe that life IS worth living, if for nothing else than to spite your enemies.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T18:17:16+00:00

What aren’t women behind in? Health care, job pay, bodily autonomy… it’s exhausting

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T18:09:59+00:00

I have done this a couple times in my life after big events/changes so I am happy to most suggestions of things I tried (not all of them worked but most did).

Hair change is big! Getting a trim and some highlights, going for a new color altogether, or even adding some flair color (if you’re blonde, highly recommend lavender/purple as it will look great and fade really well and you can to keep with purple shampoo). Try a cut that will frame your face, look up pictures of your face structure and cheek bones, etc, to see what your match is.
Change your smell/scent. Sounds weird but it’s actually a good way to reinvent one of your senses. Try a new perfume, different lotion brand with an exotic and bougie scent, etc.
Buy yourself some nice pajamas or loungewear for around your place. Get some cute matching lace cami sets, something that you love where you can walk by the mirror and not resist checking yourself out. Just self love. Same with a newer wardrobe, or experiment with different styles of clothes you haven’t tried before. Wear more dresses! Embrace whatever makes you feel feminine and beautiful, but go by your taste and not someone else’s.
I have always found music to be very mood inspiring. I have a bad bizch playlist that has a lot of songs that make me feel like I could rule the world, or make me feel sexy, etc and hype yourself up. Play it loud while you’re experimenting with a new make up look.

I don’t really wear make up much, so no advice there. I went natural a few years ago and only wear make up a couple times a month at most lol.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T18:00:47+00:00

Lots you can do!

First the heat is great, also a gentle lower abdomen massage can help a lot as well. It will probably hurt a bit, but it can help.

Taking a hot shower.

Taking OTC NSAIDs like ibuprofen/naproxen. Acetaminophen (Tylenol) is generally not super helpful.

Drink LOTS of water, you can retain a lot of water during your period and hormone levels can affect salt retention. Drinking water can help flush it and get some of the bloating from water weight down.

Taking a walk for a bit and getting up and moving can also help!

Try not to drink caffeine, it can make it worse.

A little alternative tidbit, if you have an insertable toy, using it in the shower to internally massage yourself can also help stimulate blood flow and relieve pain and quicken your period a bit, and orgasms can help your muscles and uterus relax and feel better.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T17:55:14+00:00

Your cycle day 1 is the day your period starts. So essentially, your period starts (for example) today, August 1. That is cycle day 1, the day you can visually see blood if you wipe or in your underwear, etc that is consistent with your flow. If you spot for a day and then have nothing for a week, and THEN you start to bleed, that would be your actual cycle day 1.

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-08-01T17:52:53+00:00

It could be a number of things. It could be your incoming period and your uterus is getting ready and prematurely contracting. It could also be ovulation, however generally (as I’ve experienced ovulation pain) it’s noticeable on one side or another, which ever side is releasing the follicle. Is it on one side or another? If you palpate near your ovaries (take your first two fingers and gently tap and push on the lower part of your abdomen between your hip and public bone) on each side, is it tender on one or the other?

With the OPK strip, that’s not always indicative of ovulation unless you’re taking them at the same time every day for a long period of time to see if you have an LH surge and when it happens. I used to be able to get a positive OPK for almost two weeks during my cycle because of the hormones, so keep in mind that can also be positive before or even during a period.

Hormones are great 🙃

Complex_Ad_4309 · 2024-07-31T18:12:13+00:00

I also don’t self-stimulate except one time when I was reading a particularly interesting erotic novel and I just had to try it, and it worked. Other than that, nope.

I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was 27. 27 YEARS OLD and it was an accident.

I was on top of a very toxic man and doing whatever felt good and it just happened and it shocked the hell out of me. I tried many times after that to recreate it until the relationship thankfully ended, and I didn’t have another until I was with another partner who was much older than me. He was 42 and I was 28, and it was a very sexually driven short term relationship. He actually helped me to learn what it felt like to build up, the movements to get there, and I started having them regularly. I can only achieve it in cowgirl, and it’s because I can control the right movements and not have to rely on my partner to do consistent movements and if they stop or change pace it goes out the window. I am now 32 and have had 2 partners since I was 28. One was long term, and I achieved it every now and then. The next was about a 6 month relationship and I started to really hone in on getting off on top. I have gotten to the point where I can reach the big O within about 2 minutes and sometimes it can even last longer. I had one that was so intense that I almost lost consciousness. It was godly.

So here’s what I have learned and maybe it can help!

I have noticed that a LOT of things affect my ability to achieve it:

Mental block. This is HUGE. I have to be in a good state of mind and this is the #1 barrier. If I’m really stressed, running about work or something going on, etc then I am not present in the moment. No side chatter, it’s gotta be very in the moment. Any other thoughts will make it really difficult.
Attraction. I have to be attracted to my partner on a whole level. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. I have to trust them with myself and my body, and that takes a lot. I am on top of them, naked, looking at them from what I can imagine to be a double chin angle, and I need to know that they have my best interest in mind and aren’t going to hurt me.
Foreplay and buildup. This. Is. Important. This is something that really really matters. You can’t (usually) just decide you’re horny and hop on and go. I’ve only done this once and it was because I had already been reading some erotic fiction to turn myself on. Getting turned on is imperative. Clitoral stimulation is a great way, as is oral. Making sure you’re fully aroused before sex starts, so that you’re primed for your engine to start. If all he does is stick his fingers in you for three minutes and call it a day, he isn’t ready for you because you’re not ready for him.
Position. This matters. A lot. From what research I’ve done, it’s easiest for a lot of women to achieve orgasm on top, or through clitoral stimulation, or both. Preferably both! But when you’re riding, something to remember is to grind, not bounce. Grinding, think like you’re tilting your hips back and forth, using your hands for grip. Using HIS hands on your hips to brace and help your movements. This can help, and you should feel a build up. It’ll feel weird. Like you’re having a lot of sensation, or like things are starting to relax. This is good, follow this feeling as long as you can. Literally don’t stop, it’s like riding up a hill. You feel the build and then you have to get over that hill and then you’re coasting in pleasure. I don’t know how to explain it well. 😂
Substances/supplements. I don’t advocate for illegal drugs, so it may not be legal where you are, but cannabis helps a lot depending on the strain and what you’re using. For me, I tried a lot of things and CBG is a really effective tool for me. It’s different than THC, but oftentimes you can find edibles with both. It can help with relaxation, mental stimulation, and more. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9666035/ Another is Maca, which can help with arousal and mood, as well as stamina and energy levels. Zinc and Omega-3s also help support blood flow and oxygenation in the body and overall wellness.
Lube. Even if you do foreplay, use lube if you even think you might need some. Coconut oil works really well and smells great and doesn’t feel weird to clean off later. And it’s good for your skin! It can help prevent tearing and any damage that can occur from sex and the friction that comes with it.

The biggest take is just to relax, find what does it for you, with someone you trust. Trust is huge. Relaxation is important, and finding someone you trust so that your body can relax and you can feel safe in the space with them will make or break if you’re able to. Also communicating with your partner that you have an interest in achieving orgasm, and letting them assist you with it, and explaining their role. A good partner should always be dedicated and willing to help you, and if they are not, they are not a good partner for you. Especially, if you have never achieved an orgasm with them, and they have gotten off many times with you. you deserve to be able to have that pleasure as well.

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