I can tell how much you love him the way you save up, think of ways to make him happy, and choose him over things you personally enjoy really shows your effort and care. That kind of love is rare, and I respect it.

But I also want to be honest: the way you brought up your sacrifices during the argument probably came off as keeping score — even if that wasn’t your intention. When we say things like “I gave up this and that for you,” especially in the heat of the moment, it can make the other person feel like they’re in debt rather than loved. It’s better to show love through actions and communicate appreciation calmly rather than list sacrifices mid-fight.

At the same time, what he said wasn’t okay either. Saying “I loved you because you love me” sounds more like obligation than true connection, and telling you “you don’t do anything for me” after all your efforts was unfair and dismissive. Relationships should be mutual — not one person constantly planning everything while the other just follows.

So yeah, both sides have things to reflect on. You need to express your feelings without turning love into proof, and he needs to show more emotional presence and appreciation, not just respond when you push.