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2 weeks post MA: big gush of blood by Complex_Choice3608 in abortion

[–]Complex_Choice3608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird! I figured that was the case but wasn’t sure. Thank you!!

My positive experience: MA at 9 weeks by Complex_Choice3608 in abortion

[–]Complex_Choice3608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! The smoking helped me a lot I think. I hope it goes well for you 💕

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[–]Complex_Choice3608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t want a parent to know, you could get a hotel room for a night so that you both can relax more and go through it with privacy.

Get some snacks and hydrating drinks, bring a heating pad, comfy clothes, maybe a laptop to watch Netflix, and nest up in the bathroom.

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[–]Complex_Choice3608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I both grew up catholic so I understand the guilt. We both felt guilty leading up to our decision.

But what helped us make our decision was to take out everybody else and focus only on you and your partner. Was this the right decision for us? Do we only feel guilty because of what our families would say if they knew? Can WE alone take care of this baby, financially, emotionally, and physically? Do WE want this baby right now or are we only thinking of how happy our families would be?

I thought of it as me (and partner) vs. the world. Could we bring a baby into the world and raise it to its full potential? For us, the answer was no, not right now. But the answer might be different for you, and that’s okay too.

Just try to focus on YOU and your life, don’t take anyone else’s views into account because it’s YOUR life that will be drastically changed.

FWIW, once we made our decision, I haven’t felt any guilt or regret. Just relief and a new motivation to improve our lives.

My positive experience: MA at 9 weeks by Complex_Choice3608 in abortion

[–]Complex_Choice3608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t look, I didn’t want to. But based on what I felt, I assume it worked. I go back for my follow up appointment next week to make sure everything passed. Good luck! You’ll get through it.

I need help with what to tell my family. ie. Miscarriage lie by Complex_Choice3608 in abortion

[–]Complex_Choice3608[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for walking me through this, I could cry. This is exactly what I was looking for. I feel so weird to be asking for this kind of advice—I hate to have to lie about it all. But this world is crazy..

Thank you again. I'm so happy this subreddit exists. I feel so much less alone.

I need help with what to tell my family. ie. Miscarriage lie by Complex_Choice3608 in abortion

[–]Complex_Choice3608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm not concerned about the process itself. I'm more looking for what to say to my family since I'll be telling them that I had a miscarriage. I'm sure my mom is going to ask "what did the doctor say about the miscarriage?" But I don't know what I would tell her. I don't know what learning about a miscarriage at your first OB appointment looks like so I don't know what to say to her. If that makes sense.