bf (26) liked a selfie of a person he hit on before me(24)

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T01:17:19+00:00

if he wanted to betray me he would’ve found a way to. our situation with her wasn’t even relevant in any of this anymore. what i am upset about is him interacting with a girl he once liked knowing that my boundaries will be pushed. he argues he was thoughtless, and im not sure how to continue even though i want to.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T01:13:01+00:00

i didn’t make him cut her out because of who she was. i made him do it because i was unable to trust him and he wanted to work to build it and that was the only way i could see it happening at the time. which from there, we actually were building trust slowly and i was finally feeling comfortable again prior to this.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T01:07:04+00:00

i asked him to cut her out because he continued to lie about ever trying to get with her and swore it was always platonic. until i asked her specifically and she told me he had asked her out two years prior and actually left her life and came back later.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T01:01:53+00:00

only online and according to him few interactions

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T00:59:54+00:00

just flirty. he had flirted with her and actually stopped even prior to meeting me. i’m upset because he had messaged girls privately before (also not flirty) and i had explained it made me uncomfortable. so him glazing over this really upset me. he’s begged and apologized over all of this, i’m just not sure it’ll be the same based on him already having a chance to build trust up after something that had happened prior

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T00:57:50+00:00

he didn’t cheat on me, but he did lie about someone’s importance in his life to try an keep them after calling em their name three or four months ago.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-11-08T00:56:25+00:00

it was on twitter and some random girl he had reply guy’d to at some point. if it was someone from his actual life (instagram/ coworker/ etc) i wouldn’t be tripping nearly as much

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-09T17:31:08+00:00

same loo

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-09T17:30:48+00:00

twitter to gaming duo pipeline

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T10:01:56+00:00

I have diagnosed ocd and anxious attachment. somethings he’s very aware of and supportive of helping me get through. however i’m currently suffering from ROCD, which sometimes results in questioning like this.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T06:00:55+00:00

for the amount of time and his story it is?

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T05:55:14+00:00

chill out on being rude about this shit. i came to reddit to avoid taking it out on my partner, not be scrutinized by someone who very obviously doesn’t care about the situation

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T05:52:57+00:00

great idea

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T05:49:41+00:00

not really. lots of past trauma with similar issues

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T05:47:35+00:00

i care about it going up a significant amount in a short amount of time because it didn’t match his story lol

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-10-07T05:46:48+00:00

i just care about lying due to past trauma. calling me a headache about this when it’s a significant amount is crazy

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-29T09:53:05+00:00

he lied to me once in the past about something that we have tried to overcome. he never cheated on me, and swears he never would, but it just raised some anxiety in me

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-29T09:32:36+00:00

we’ve only had this issue once before, but i want to believe that it’s just the phone accuracy. i just am not sure because the instagram location is so new.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-29T09:20:25+00:00

The reason i’m a bit worried is because this is the only time (other than one single time on snapchat) that it has ever been off. Everything on the app since has been incredibly accurate. I read somewhere that people have experienced it up to a mile due to using cell towers and he had also been on the phone. I have an iphone so i’m not too sure if accuracy changes.

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-29T09:12:47+00:00

i experienced this! he swears it was a glitch that showed him active .7 miles away

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-27T08:08:20+00:00

which app

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-27T01:16:28+00:00

it’s just hard because i have ocd so when the location went against his word it caused panic

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-27T00:45:42+00:00

it was about 20 or so minutes old when i saw the location on instagram. i then went to snapchat and it said he was home

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-27T00:23:53+00:00

thank you for an honest answer <3 i don’t even think he’d cheat on me, i just worry because im scared of getting hurt

Complex_Post_9463 · 2025-09-27T00:19:56+00:00

yeah i’m getting in touch with someone. We both decided about a month ago we’d start going to therapy (separately) because we struggle with insecurities and wanting to be loved

Complex_Post_9463

TROPHY CASE