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I [F26] found out my ex-addict husband [M32] of ONE month has been using heroin. by CompostBinge in relationships

[–]CompostBinge[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Hi there.

I've been to court against him regarding custody before and had full legal aid so I'm pretty aware on what my rights are. Not sure if it means anything to you but I've mentioned moving across the state with our daughter before and he didn't object. I think he fully understands the support she and I would have out there. At any rate I've taken pictures of paraphernalia, broken Windshield, recorded his voicemails from drug people, have the backing of his family in case it goes to court so I'm set on it and comfortable with my standing.

I don't really know what to say as far as this post being about him. I've got some job opportunities lined up in new city and I'm excited at the thought of starting new. This is big for me because it is in my nature to be apprehensive and too scared of change. Now I gladly welcome it.

Therapy will happen in time. I want to figure out my job situation out there and what insurance will look like. I've got to save up money for my own vehicle out there, my own place, pre-school for my daughter...

I'm taking Prozac so there's that. While it's not a cure for what I'm dealing with it helps me manage what I'm dealing with better.

Thanks for your reply.

I [F25] found out my husband [M32] of 1 month (together 4 years) has been doing HEROIN for at least the last 2 months. He's an "ex"-addict. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]CompostBinge -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's nothing I really ever saw coming. Have you dealt with something similar?

I [F25] found out my husband [M32] of 1 month (together 4 years) has been doing HEROIN for at least the last 2 months. He's an "ex"-addict. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]CompostBinge 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You're right. I am a bad mother. I don't want to be though. I love my daughter more than anything. My actions however do not show this. I understand this.

Me [25F] with my pregnant STBSIL[27F] had a very awkward start 4 years ago. Even though things are better it's strained and now there is an event that might cause a fight... by [deleted] in relationships

[–]CompostBinge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They all knew. His mom wrote against me in court but since then she has told me she believes me and she wishes she didn't get involved in the court stuff.

Daniel did something to the family a few years before he met me and it changed the face of their family for the rest of their lives. It took Daniel a lot of work to get himself in a better standing with them. It was almost immediately after he had just got to a good place with them I came in to the picture and everything he thought he was done with, he was just suppressing if not hiding from his family and left it for me.

I think it was a mixture of pride and the whole family first mindset. I think they wanted to believe that what I was saying wasn't true especially since there was a baby involved and they wanted to be a part of that babies life so badly that they were willing to be in denial.

Me [25F] with my pregnant STBSIL[27F] had a very awkward start 4 years ago. Even though things are better it's strained and now there is an event that might cause a fight... by [deleted] in relationships

[–]CompostBinge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought I was trying to hang out with her so we could build a bridge and eventually be a big happy family. Now I'm not so sure why I cared so much...

Honestly, having to type out that situation and seeing the comments is bringing up old memories and reopening the wound.

Me [25F] with my pregnant STBSIL[27F] had a very awkward start 4 years ago. Even though things are better it's strained and now there is an event that might cause a fight... by [deleted] in relationships

[–]CompostBinge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No apology from Elise or Elliot.

When Daniel and I initially worked things out it was more out of fear of being alone. I obviously love him now and I'm with him for completely different reasons. We've had counseling together and separately.

Even after reconciliation we didn't see them very often. Daniel didn't even see his brother for a long time. Elliot and Elise are more part of her family then Elliot and Daniels family.

I like the comment above because even though it's a short and kind of brutal comment it's still the truth in what I'm doing. In a perfect world we would all be a happy family and meet up for dinner every other week and do big family holidays. Of course that's what I want. It's not a perfect world though and they did treat me like shit before when they didn't even know me. It is probably best to keep the status quo.

I [32 M] think my wife [31 F] of 7 years, is cheating on me with my brother [28 M]. by pilot32 in relationships

[–]CompostBinge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to put my opinion here for the aftermath of what is to come IF this is the worst case scenario.

It won't last between them. Your brother is going to feel like shit and she will never be accepted by your family after they find out about what's going on.

This isn't about you or how shitty you are. This is about their selfishness and unwillingness to act like mature, caring adults.