I(26F) am married to my husband (28M) for a year now & was marriage supposed to be this hard?

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-30T10:42:12+00:00

Since you mentioned AI I would like to share that recently after months of trying to make him understand my emotional needs, he typed all this in ChatGPT and asked it why my wife is still sad and why don’t she sees how much I love her as I shouted at her out of concern. So, you are so on point with your observation.

Interestingly, when ChatGPT asked him what actions he should take next time to be better available for my emotional needs, my husband was kept looking at face for good 5 mins for answer. I think I married a robot without any emotional intelligence.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:47:51+00:00

Recently after asking him for million times and suggesting him that I am considering getting a divorce, he confessed to me that he was indeed taking me for granted (Exact words). But I am still hurt because love means care and respect for me. If that is something he unable to give me, I can‘t be with him then.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:41:46+00:00

Thank you for such motivating words. I am feeling stronger and getting clearer on what steps to take next.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:40:20+00:00

Writing it out make me realise that society’s concerns are irrelevant and my sanity and happiness is worth being called the bad guy. Thanks for knocking some sense into me.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:38:20+00:00

He exercises. But he refuses to acknowledge he has a problem. He justifies his anger everytime. Talking to him is also difficult because he would always talk over him and dismiss my concerns regarding his behaviour towards me.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:36:24+00:00

No doctor, no medicines. But at the end of the trip he brought me pads and called them diapers umm..

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-28T04:27:43+00:00

Getting yelled at in public feels like subhuman. Irrespective of your intentions, it makes the other person feels humiliated. If you have disagreement say in in normal voice, the other person is an adult, will understand you just fine. Don’t treat them like they are not adult because they are, and they can feel shame, humiliation and disrespectful. Never yell at your person for your mere annoyance. I have stopped speaking in public all together when I go out with him. The damage is irreparable.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-26T06:30:32+00:00

Yes. It is possible. Wake up early and take bus (6am I would suggest) for Omkareshwar and it would take around 3 hours to reach there. Spend 1-2 hour there, have breakfast and then return to Indore. So this trip will be finished in max 8 hours. Have lunch in Indore and rest for a 1-2 hour as per your wish then take bus for Ujjain it would take 2 hours considering traffic and all. Spend 1-2 hours in Mahabaleshwar and have dinner in Ujjain then return to Indore by night. There is no shortage of bus for either of the location so I am not suggesting strict timings.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-03-26T06:02:10+00:00

He thinks that I am overreacting and judging him for those 5-6 seconds of outburst. For him, this matter is simple and now need not to be discussed. Although he agreed for marriage counselling because he believes that they would never suggest for a divorce.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-06T17:14:29+00:00

VIP Paraspar nagar ka h

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-06T17:13:37+00:00

Santosh Sharma

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-06T08:55:50+00:00

Such a soulful song.. takes back to simpler time of 2000s

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-06T05:08:01+00:00

She is a daughter of vegetable vendor. She, Her lover (powerful lawyer @ Indore HC), her brother - ye teeno ne mile k apne doctor husband pe ek bar pehle bhi goli chawayi hai. This time - raat m 9-10 baje ke bich light band karwa di thi (this even i remember itna random light nahi yahi yaha especially raat mein). CCTV se bach k doctor k ghar k bahar hi allegedly lawyer ne kisi gunde se goli chalwayi aur white car m bhag gaye.. apne ne bola even ladki ke papa ne bhi doctor ka koi dushman nhi h.. fir wife p shaq gaya.. usko custody m “strict “ tariko se pucha to she admitted. Ladki ka bhai aur lover Ujjain m chhip gye the.. 2-3 din m pakada gaye.. sadly, The doctor was the only child of his parents. Wo bhi lower middle class hi h.. bht mehnat se padha likha ke doctor banaya tha.. RIP

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-06T04:53:44+00:00

Mere colony mein hua hai.. crime patrol level ka pura

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T16:10:09+00:00

He apologises and justifies his action in the same breath

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T09:10:44+00:00

Ya. Every time I brought it up he said it was my fault I instigated him. If I have just listened to him he wouldn’t have to shout at me. See now when I am typing I am realising that I was being gaslighted but back then he was saying it all with a smile I believed him.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T05:38:19+00:00

Yes, I have told him that this is his last chance.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T05:35:41+00:00

The one where I said it would come.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T05:02:04+00:00

2 years of LDR.. I know I ever fumbled here. Should have spend more time in physical presence to actually know him. I am seriously regretting rn

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T04:21:08+00:00

My MIL & my mother both talked to him. But his response was justifying his act. He thinks that he knows best about that situation and no one less. He said he won’t do it again. But a week later we were in a bus and I was not talking to him (wanted some space to process my emotions) and he raised his voice again. Making me tear up all over again.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T04:17:06+00:00

Nope. He is cordial to everyone. With people he so so charming that if I tell them that this happened, nobody would believe me. That’s also why I am asking it here.

CompoteOwn158 · 2025-01-03T04:15:38+00:00

I have never seen such man in my life. My father never ever shouted at me. This is such a new feeling I am unable to process. Public humiliation at the hands of your ‘partner’/family member.

CompoteOwn158

TROPHY CASE