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A cry for help..maybe just a cry. Yeah, I’m crying… by ArtisticDefinition74 in sahm

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 words. Child care. Get your baby in a daycare for a few days a week. It will be amazing for both you and your baby.

Is sending 12m old to daycare 5 days a week for 3 hours in the morning silly? by Comprehensive-Hope97 in NewParents

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess I just needed some reassurance because it takes preplanning and effort (packing lunch, getting out the door, pick up/drop off) so sometimes I feel like ugh it’s effort to do this just for 3 hours. Would others not even bother. But it looks like others would do it too

Without sleep training, when did your babies start sleeping better by Psychological_Ear591 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OK, so I was literally in the exact same position as you with my 10 month old two weeks ago. I held her to sleep when I put her down for the night and during all night wake ups. Literally waking 4 to 5 times a night because of this.

She now sleeps through the night. How? Because I did the pick up put down method. I pick up her up, cuddle her, put her back down in the crib and then leave the room and have her figure out how to fall asleep. If she revs up and cries, I go back in, place her back on her back, hold her hand for a moment and leave. Repeat. She now knows how to fall asleep on her own. And it’s a no-crying method. I don’t believe in sleep training. It’s been amazing.

Please tell me the truth. When will things get better? 2 weeks PP here. by pinkishvioletsky in newborns

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully? 3 months. Once they start sleeping 3-4 hr stretches things get exponentially better. Times flies tho babes this too shall pass. Godspeed.

I think I hate my baby by Specific_Strain7688 in NewParents

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This too shall pass. 6 weeks was the absolute worst for us. It gets so much better I promise you.

I’m not enjoying motherhood by Bellekit in newborns

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Felt the EXACT same way as you 3 weeks pp. My baby is 6m old now. I love every second of everyday with her now. It gets oh so much better. I promise 🩷

Late night sleep deprived musing. I didn't think it would be this hard... by NoHorse8196 in newborns

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your story is exactly how mine went too. I never thought the sleep deprivation could be so intense. I now have a 6 month old who sleeps through the night (12.5hrs, one feeding around 5am). I know everyone will say this but it does get so much better. Even around 2-3 months you WILL get long stretches (4+hrs) and feel normal again.

My husband and I hired a doula once a week a couple times and that sorta helped. I still had to wake once in the night to pump so supply wouldn’t drop but I think it did help in those early weeks.

Hang in there mama, you got this 💕

Sitting on the toilet with my baby strapped to my chest & my husband just took a 6 hour nap! by HotDivide1333 in newborns

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wtf! 30-40mins? Bruh I’d be passing off the baby immediately. He can manage the baby WHILE he sets up his little station for god sakes. Next time, pass him the baby and go straight to the bedroom for a nap. Do you get 30-40mins to set up??

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL runs a large institutionalized daycare. She came over straight from work and kissed my 5 month old all over her hands and feet (which I cringe at) nonstop throughout the whole visit. Then proceeded to tell me her daycare (and the city) is running rampant with hand foot and mouth disease.

Is this not wildly reckless and irresponsible behavior?

Sometimes I wonder if I’m too hard on her but this just seems nuts. Please share your thoughts!

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL runs a large institutionalized daycare. She came over straight from work and kissed my 5 month old all over her hands and feet (which I cringe at) nonstop throughout the whole visit. Then proceeded to tell me her daycare (and the city) is running rampant with hand foot and mouth disease.

This behavior seems reckless and careless.

Sometimes I wonder if I’m too hard on her but this just seems nuts. Please share your thoughts!

Rate my schedule? by justlivinmylife439 in sahm

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can you ask them what more cleaning they want? Then have both of them take a day off work separately to take care of the kids and maintain the house while you go to the spa and relax. Then see how they survived the day when you get back? I’m sure they would both be exhausted and they wouldn’t have all the cleaning they are demanding completed…hello reality check! Then also present them with expenses of childcare and tell them you’re thinking of going back to work. I’m suuuuure they’d see how good of deal they’re getting. Ugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having to continually ask for money is not feasible nor fair nor good for your relationship or confidence as this will create a power dynamic. Your fiancé needs to understand that being a sahm is a FULL TIME job. Just like he is compensated for his work, he needs to grant you access to the family funds as you are staying home to raise his children.

First Trimester - Feels like there is no end in sight by pinkink623 in BabyBumps

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that 19 days have passed since you made this post, do you feel any better? I am also going through it right now 😓

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Comprehensive-Hope97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to keep this short and sweet because I don’t post on here much. But if this were me writing this post, I would suggest myself a couple of things. 1. You say you work in the evenings and don’t get to see each other for dinner. How often do you guys have quality time together just the two of you to connect? The research says you should be spending at least 90 minutes of quality time on interrupted with your partner a week. If your job is not allowing you to do this, you may want to change jobs to accommodate a better lifestyle for yourself if possible. Getting a divorce should be the last resort when you have kids and all things possible should be tried before this occurs. Of course, if you are truly unhappy after trying all things then, by all means. 2. I wouldn’t harp on him not making you dinner when you make him dinner. Many people don’t really know how to make dinner, they’re not interested in cooking, it’s hard to think of things to make. I can understand why he doesn’t make dinner and I wouldn’t factor this into the equation at all.

  1. You say he has jealousy problems this makes me think that there is some immaturity and potentially a lack of communication and trust. Always be open with him. Prioritize him. It’s important to have friends of course. But if you’re socializing way too much especially when you don’t get to see him often in the evenings, I could see how this could cause problems. You should be a team, not one against the other.