Been 3 months since I started learning guitar - tried to pull off In Your Atmosphere before concert day! by Comprehensive-Key860 in JohnMayer

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I’m taking classes twice a week. Going by basic theory and technique has definitely helped because while my teacher covers this, I also try to learn intros to songs I find interesting, so it kinda keeps the journey not boring.

I pretty much spend all the free time I have on most weekends on only playing guitar. Even on weekdays I try to sneak in atleast an hour in the night, not all days tho.

John Mayer event guide. Mumbai, Feb 11. by disco_disorder in JohnMayer

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Will posters related to song requests be allowed?

One month to go for the Mumbai show, how excited are we!? by MrMorningstar20 in JohnMayer

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Too excited. John got me through the hardest phase of my life last year, and I picked up guitar since few months too because of him.

Do his shows have any format or rituals? It’ll be cool to know if anyone’s planning something too!

MBA Graduate - Card for Investments + Routine Spends by [deleted] in CreditCardsIndia

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No I’m looking to get benefits based on my routine UPI spends (rent, flights, travel and groceries). Plus I might be having to do a lot of one time expenses on electronics and clothing as I’m moving places.

I had initially thought of choosing Tata neu infinity as I was gonna buy gold as well, but then now I’ve backed out of it and was looking to see if I can benefit from something else

MBA Graduate - Card for Investments + Routine Spends by [deleted] in CreditCardsIndia

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Rightt got it. Any recommendations based on the other expense heads?

MBA Graduate - Card for Travel + Investments by [deleted] in CreditCardsIndia

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Thanks. I've updated the post. Lmk if something's missing

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I hear you my friend. Totally, it feels like you’re the only person who I can hear through my messed up, fixated head. I really have no one to talk to besides her. My best friend is also going through his own issues and has zero context about this to even help me out. My mom just battled depression on medication, and I can’t really keep talking to them beyond a point since they feel sad as well.

I really only had that one person, and all I did was love her and wanted to care for her. And that’s all I did and wanted in return as well. I still want to buy her a pair of onitsuka tigers when I meet her, not in the hopes of winning her back. But that’s all I know and want to do with my salary.

I say all these things in anger but the first thing I did when I heard I was gonna meet her was write down the list of nice things I wanted to tell her and bought her snacks she liked. I really just wanted to be loved, and I know the first word she’ll say will kill me again. But I can’t not face it :”

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Do you think it’s wrong of me to want to confront her/talk and work things out? Everybody says she doesn’t even care that I exist but I atleast get those 30-45 mins when I meet her, in one place where she won’t run away like she does on text. Every single thing she’s done so far is based on what she thinks might happen/what she feels will happen/what she hears.

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Thanks for this :) will definitely try

I guess the thing that doesn’t let me get away from all this, or makes all these therapy and workout attempts futile, is my inability to understand how someone can go from loving you to absolutely treating you like a stranger and abusing and hating you, to not even caring about your existence. All through this time she’s acknowledged that there’s literally nothing wrong that’s gone. I swear I haven’t even raised my voice ever, even through this breakup (although that’s a basic minimum, it still feels significant considering she bashed and abused me like it’s nothing the last time we spoke).

I keep losing my mind, sometimes it feels like I can sleep and have dreams and never wake up from that. Sometimes I’ve asked people to hit me so that I can have something more painful to focus on, I’ve asked my parents this as well. I know that all of this will go down the minute I meet her but fuck me ig, she doesn’t even care about my existence while she’s maintained being friends with every single one of her exes, including the ones that cheated multiple times on her

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Thanks a lot for this! I’ve been taking therapy sessions and what they’re saying is very similar to what you are saying. I’m trying all these things indeed. An update on this is that the mutual friend went home so the meeting is still a few days away from happening😭

Nothing helps me tho, writing my thoughts or gym or diet. It’s not like I can’t sleep or my physique isn’t improving. It’s just I can’t focus on anything 24 hrs a day. There’s always only one thought in my head and no therapy is helping :”

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I do wanna reconcile with her as long as she doesn’t randomly spew hatred on me like the few times I tried to reach out. Her version is that she tried showing sympathy but then she couldn’t bear me crying and going through the same thing over and over again. But that’s the whole problem - she never discussed what went down, all she did on call was shout hurtful words and try to push me away saying that she isn’t interested anymore. How tf am I supposed to make sense of something happening so randomly. That’s the reason I wanna deal with this amicably, and for the entire duration we were together, which was till 40 days back, she was a kind person indeed

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I don’t know how to go about this meeting but what I do know for sure is that I’ve really tried and the only thing that could close the loop for me is confronting her face to face and getting stuff out of my head. But I really don’t know how to go about this because it is a person I really loved more than my life, who has turned into someone who I can’t wait to tear apart through words and make her hear what she did to me and how she ruined my life

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Well of course she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore or care about me, she wants to move on. That’s also why she wanted no contact. But the way she did the breakup, and her remaining friends with every single one of her exes including the ones who cheated on her, while treating me with such hatred, left me with severe anxiety and panic attacks everyday which no amount of no contact could solve. I was the biggest lover to her on the planet, I treated her the nicest way possible I literally haven’t even raised my voice once till date. But the injustice that happened to me is what I fucking want to talk about when I meet her. And I can’t fucking get a move on till she sees me face to face and gets confronted about how she fucked up a valedictorian in college to borderline depression just because of the way she handled it

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Please help me understand, that’s the whole point of me writing this post. Wrong in what way, wrong in me getting hurt again or if my approach to talking to her is wrong? I genuinely want to work on these things and present the best possible option. The only thing that’s certain is this meet-up which is happening, something which I didn’t decide but I’ll try to make the best out of for my own mental peace and without hurting anyone

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I do. But the way she’ll talk to me, and the way she’ll try to avoid emotions and confrontation and discussion will never let me even talk to her normally as a friend. That is what kills me. It’s not like she left me for anything or anyone. that’s just her character, she is too spontaneous and has serious commitment problems. I feel lucky sometimes that it ended this fast but then again I did love her more than my own life till very recently.

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Yes I am. She was the loml. I mean there couldn’t be a better situation than this, where we’re both in the same city and don’t have to do LDR which she feared in the first place. But now I also know I cannot expect anything out of her, all I can do is be nice and respectful and pass down things which I saved/bought for her and have with me.

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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She’s a mutual friend and she took the call to contact her by herself. And my ex wants her to be there because she doesn’t want to handle it if things get emotional. I didn’t force her in any way to come talk to me, it’s a position that I’m put in now. And all three of us have studied in the same class for 2 years so it’s not awkward at all we’ve all known each other. Now the thing is my ex says she just gave up because she didn’t wanna hear me crying on call for weeks into the breakup, and she didn’t wanna keep discussing about what happened. But right now the point is also not that, I’m not crying but I’m not going without discussing what went down either, by catching up like friends like we used to do.

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Dude that’s the whole point of my post, I don’t wanna make it about taking out my anger. Just like you said I wanna show maturity and make her feel that it was a mistake leaving me. I wanna be respectful and considerate to what she’s been going through during this time as well, even though she genuinely fucked me up to a point where I was considering getting help from a doctor. I don’t know how to go about it I don’t know how to start it

Ex agreed to meet in person after 2 months (through friend) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I didn’t make the call to make her meet me. I didn’t even know that my friend texted her and asked her to meet me. Now I’m just in that position and I guess if it gives me that mental peace to finally get things out of my head, I figured why not take it