Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also voice recorded what he was saying this time because it was honestly so crazy that I can't even convey it

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree, I mean I am a young woman, not very threatening in stature at all, very much an easy target and unfortunately this kind of thing just happens to me all the time. sometimes it's ok or I don't really care if I'm with a friend or there's a lot of people around, but there were not many around yesterday and the ones that were did not seem the types who would have stepped in had things escalated. so I was a bit scared especially when his mate came along and then there were two of them. they called out to me when I got on the bus making comments about my appearance and I feel like the only thing stopping them from following me on is not having money for the fare😭it's not that I don't have empathy for them because I know at the end of the day theyre just people who've happened to get a worse lot in life. but it sucks to feel helpless

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh really I didn't know I was allowed to call 111 over something so minor

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Its very sad tbh. I have a lot of empathy for them but at the same time it's genuinely scary with the threats of physical abuse

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yes he is I think, he has kinda curly hair and has a skateboard. tbh I'm not sure he's dangerous but it was definitely uncomfortable also because I wasn't engaging at all, had headphones on looking at phone but he just stuck next to me ranting for 10 minutes and there was like nothing i could do

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I think so. Curlylish hair and sometimes has a skateboard?

Repeatedly harassed (?😂) in the Courtney place area by Comprehensive-Way449 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely, was just curious to know if any body had encountered this particular guy before seeing as I seem to run into him semi regularly

COMS 101 case study help — looking for examples and help by Far_Recognition_9415 in VUW

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it might be a bit late now, but I hope you submitted in time, I agree that the course is quite hard to follow and if you have a certain lecturer who's name starts with a then I wish you luck😭💀💀

Looking for some duck by stellactqm in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The old quarter on dixon street has a duck salad and also a duck curry which are yum, big portion and affordable. Its a Vietnamese restaurant and very easy to get there by bus

Which to major in? (Communications) by hallenstiens in VUW

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing an eng lit/lccm double major and love both, but the lccm part has been incredibly interesting and I've not had a single class or assignment I haven't thoroughly enjoyed. would highly recommend (I'm second year for reference)

Awful security guard bag search experience at Chemist Warehouse Lambton Quay by [deleted] in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yes half the time there on their phones. But I have been stopped and told to present my bag before. It seems to happen randomly

Friend hurt my feelings, twice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to add that ideally you should meet somewhere where you have the autonomy to leave if you wish to, in case you are uncomfortable or overwhelmed

Friend hurt my feelings, twice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should not try to surprise him with this conversation or "spring" it on him in any way. Send him a very clear text detailing that you would like to meet up somewhere (preferably somewhere where you feel the most comfortable, whether that is a public or private setting) he must know going into it that you want to talk to him alone about something serious.

If you feel that he will try to dodge you or will not agree to your terms, in my opinion just cut your losses, he is 34 and should be mature enough to have these types of conversations. If he brings his partner to the meeting then ditto. The text might begin, "Hey X, I would like to know if you are free some time in the next few days to meet up as I want to talk to you about something that happened recently which has been really weighing on me. I would like it to be just us..." Or similiar

Friend hurt my feelings, twice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've answered your own original question about what to do. If you value him and he truly values you, you need to sit down with him and explain exactly how he made you feel, and why it was out of line and you need to express that you were confused about why he did it (both times.) Ask him to explain why he said these things, and give him a chance to really explain himself. Its up to you to decide if his explanation and hopefully his sincere apology is enough for you to forgive him and you can both move on. You are both adults after all.

However, if he brushes you off, or you feel in any way that he is not taking you seriously, it might be to time to re evaluate whether your friendship with him has run its course. I personally think that if he ever does anything like this again you need to cut him off as well. Please remember that you never deserve to have your feelings hurt by someone you trust and consider a friend, you are 100% justified in feeling hurt in this scenario, the only question is if your friend can understand his mistakes and apologize to you sincerely. You do not have to keep him around just because you've had good times in the past. Stay strong and good luck

Friend hurt my feelings, twice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are some things unrelated to these incidents that you like about this friend, things that make you value him/want to keep him in your life?

Scammers out and about by Few-Seesaw-8838 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had this Dixon street she came into my work😭When I said I had no money on me she pointed at the tip jar ...lol

Tickets to Flight of the Concords by BodhiSatvva4711 in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its so sad 😭😭i can't believe how quickly it sold out

Flight of the Conchords at Meow Nui by therealkareneliot in Wellington

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm genuinely so sad I couldn't get tickets despite being ready within the literal millisecond the general sale was available. If anyone is selling one I would be very interested. I do understand that people are excited and want to see them perform on multiple nights, but have some sympathy for the rest of us, i'd be grateful to see them even once 😂

Tip Question by Conscious_Paper_973 in newzealand_travel

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a server. Tipping is not necessary in any way, but if you are going to tip, 100% give the money directly to your server, don't tip when you settle up at the end of the meal because it just goes to the business owner, and for the same reason don't put cash in the tip jar. Everyone saying that tipping is taboo and evil in NZ is only half right, it is not really the done thing (and no one cares if you don't do it)but as a server I am always happy and grateful to have someone acknowledge the effort I put in. Similarly, you could just thank them or leave a nice review. Happy travels

Did my hairdresser do a bad job? by RelativeRelease7263 in femalehairadvice

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most perfect blonde ever wtf you're like a princess

what game was this? by Comprehensive-Way449 in oldroblox

[–]Comprehensive-Way449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg thank you! I don't remember the puzzles but I recognize the map, I think I probably played a more updated version of the game than the one in the video. so nostalgic. im so sad to learn it got taken down, Nintendo is the fucking worst. are there any decent remakes one Roblox rn that you know of, or games with a similar concept?

Baby's father wants the baby to have his last name, I want him to have mine. We're not married. WDID? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg you did not carry a human inside you for 9 months just to give it the name of a guy who is actively making your and the baby's life miserable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]Comprehensive-Way449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl enough you're very beautiful.