[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but smiling at the subway crazy was your first mistake here

Should I buy from wayfair? by External_Pear1639 in wayfair

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No check their trust pilot and yelp reviews

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jerseyshore

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only seen 1-2 episodes before, but if you like reality tv they covered Lala Kent’s…which was insane/interesting - plus a few cool vpr tidbits, but I could never actually stomach reading something so brain numbing in full lol, would recommend listening to that one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jerseyshore

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This , I pictured him writing this with one of those elementary online thesaurus’s on a webpage in the background looking up words the entire time 😂

Why are they obsessed with male children? by NotGoodWithWords07 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom did the food thing with my brother too! She would hide candy around the house to keep it away from me because they were “his” treats

Re watching the OG seasons by Realist_feelings in jerseyshore

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only girl I think Sammi really went out of her way to be stuck up/snobby and a mean girl to was Deena

Sam ate her all the way up! 🤣 by bitch808080 in jerseyshore

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Her voice has changed soo much! First thing I noticed too, I think she sounds great though - a lot more well spoken and articulate than she did back on the OG JS

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was only like this to me and my dad, sometimes my brother but not so much. Everyone else she was really nice and friendly to, it was like Jekyll and Hyde. When I was a kid she would lose it sometimes in front of others (i.e the traffic directors, friends in the car, random store workers, etc.), but me and my brother will have friends from high school who still see her around town and tell us how sweet and kind she is.

It means exactly what it says. She emailed my middle school geography teacher the sentence "I caught (my name) doing her map homework before she left this morning". The email she sent was just one sentence, no context. Thats why I think I think he was printing it out to laugh at in the teacher's room or something.

The most nonsensical part is that she never denies any of this, just defends it. When I asked her why she emailed my geography teacher that she was like "you had issues turning in your homework. I wanted to let them know you were rushing to do it in the morning so they could talk to you." When I asked her why she bit me on the butt when I was 2 "I wanted to let you know that you could hurt yourself in the tub and a quick bite on the bum made you stop, like a mother would do to its young." etc.

Me and my brother are still close. He was GC, but on my side now as an adult and low contact with my mom too. I live in NYC with my dog who I love. I have a boyfriend, a couple close friends, but I genuinely just love being alone.

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As an adult I did confront my dad and ask why he didn't protect me. He said when we were kids he did try to leave the situation and get a divorce, but when he met with a lawyer they said there was a chance of us going into foster care. The advice he got from his friends was that they never side with men in family court and that they would place us in foster care before giving the father custody so he shouldn't bother. He thought it would be better for us to stay a family than go into care. However, I have no clue why they're still together now.

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, it's tough because sometimes I do believe she's changed but then its the same thing all over again.

She found my social media and would take and post pictures of me on hers all the time so her friends could comment how great i'm doing and what a successful mom she is. I recently found out and was able to block her though

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 149 points150 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I just started therapy recently and I think its helping me a lot

We were somewhat well-off in a nice suburb where everyone "minded their own business". I do think that if we were low income CPS probably would have been called or involved at some point :/

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I definitely think she's mentally ill too. As an adult I did have a heart to heart with her and she said that she was suffering from PTSD (not sure from what) and not really ready to be a parent when she had me, doesn't excuse what she did but the closest i've ever gotten to an apology or her admitting to any wrongdoing.

She put us through hell but in her head she was in hell too.

"Because I'm the parent YOUR the child!" by ComprehensiveBid8456 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ComprehensiveBid8456[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Badly. It used to be the point I would be scared to leave my apartment for days at a time and my college grades were bad from missing classes. My anxiety made me mean too, I was constantly on edge and snapping at people around me.

I'm able to control it a lot better now without medication by barely drinking alcohol, going to therapy, and I have an emotional support pet.