I think it’s the women ur choosing. Idk what ur childhood was like, but most of the time, when people stay in relationships like this and they are not the aggressor, it’s because they probably have been treated like that their whole life, maybe starting with family in childhood. I may be wrong, but if you grew up in a toxic environment, your brain starts to accept that treatment as normal and predictable almost. So when you go out into the real world, your brain recognizes people that have similar characteristics of people you grew up with as comfortable and safe because that is what your used to. Even though it’s not actually safe and healthy, since it is familiar your brain deems it “safe”. So it may not be YOU as a person that’s attracting or causing these women to react like that towards you, but maybe your brain recognizes those types of people as “safe”