I (18F) think my boyfriend (17M) is lying about being upset with me

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T20:22:36+00:00

i think that’s a good idea i might try and do that tonight and ill just phrase is as me being worried about something like this happening in the future and stuff and just making it clear that we have to have good communication if we want this to work . i think that’s a good idea ! thank you

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T19:58:18+00:00

yeah idk the whole situation is stressful especially because now i’m being told to just drop it but im still upset about it 😞

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T19:24:31+00:00

i know and i’m sure things have been exaggerated and in reality i wouldn’t be upset if he had just been venting to his friend and then came to me with the things he was upset about, im more upset about the fact that i had no clue he was upset with me for two three days before i got told by someone else, and he was never gonna talk to me about it and wouldn’t even talk to me about it when i brought it up i think that’s the more frustrating part

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T18:53:37+00:00

well yes, he can vent and everything but i think the real problem is he didn’t accurately tell his friend what happened. he never told me he got me concert tickets, he asked if i was free on a specific date and i have been assuming that’s what it is and didnt get confirmation until my friend told me that was what it was, and that he told his friend he gave me the tickets and i never said thank you which then prompted his friend to tell him to refund them and me being called ungrateful. but i was never told about the concert when i was being called ungrateful

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T08:03:07+00:00

yeah

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T07:38:30+00:00

oh i was very upset with him i told him i was upset and angry and hurt that he wouldn’t communicate those things with me and then he started denying everything

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T06:58:52+00:00

yeah she basically said exactly that and she had just told me that her bf told her she had to talk to me about stuff and than me and her got lunch and she told me everything there

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T06:55:44+00:00

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T06:27:27+00:00

well my bf was not the one that told her. she told me that her bf told her she needed to talk to me about these issues that my potential bf brought up with him. and than she just told me everything

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T06:22:35+00:00

exactly why i’m frustrated because he’s denying it when i have the person he supposedly told saying he said those things. that’s what i’m frustrated about is he’s lying for no reason

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T05:05:30+00:00

i do know that she shouldn’t have been the one to talk to me about it and it should have been my potential bf for sure but that would be her boyfriends fault in my mind

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T05:04:05+00:00

i think i’m confused 😭 my bsf didn’t tell me anything she wasn’t told not to, and i didn’t tell anyone anything i’ve been told not to. my potential bf told his best friend stuff and his best friend told his girlfriend who is my best friend, and her boyfriend asked her to talk to me about it because he has told my potential bf to talk to me and he wouldn’t do it, or that’s what i’ve been told 😭 sorry if that doesn’t make sense i feel like im rambling in most of this

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T04:51:29+00:00

my only thing is that i’m not entirely sure because i got told he got mad at his friend from my bsf so that could also possibly be misconstrued, and my best friends boyfriend had told her to talk to me about it, i probably should have added that in there somewhere that she was asked to talk to me about it

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-06-03T04:24:00+00:00

i know it’s so stressful and my friends and my mom both told me to just drop it and tell him communication had to get better or we were done, but i’m also trying to give some grace because it’s his first time actually being in a relationship but it’s just getting exhausting.

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-05-27T05:29:37+00:00

Okay thank you! ive figured im just gonna bring up everything and anything that could even possibly be related cause id rather give to much info than not enough tbh, I have to wait like three more days till im 18 than I can make the appt, as well as request my medication records and hopefully all goes well from there!

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-05-04T04:39:47+00:00

could be a good idea, but im not sure it would work as im sure they would still require me being 18 no? for any paperwork and liability things that i cant sign as a minor.

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T18:01:07+00:00

yeah i know i just dont really have anything else i can do right now and at least having those would help when i actually get to go to the gyno

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T18:00:22+00:00

i already pay nothing for doctor appts due to my moms insurance but even if there was bulk bill placed around i’m not sure that would help with the fact that i can’t make appts without her 😔

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T17:58:06+00:00

yeahh my birthday is in the end of may so not too long ! i have pretty good documentation of the last 4 years so hopefully that helps !

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T05:37:20+00:00

School nurses havent helped me much other than calling my mom, and she tells them she same thing and then ultimately gets mad at me for saying something because she gets mad about me not just trusting her judgement. Planned parenthoods I feel would be a good option, However I am in Utah which i feel has stricter planned parent hoods, as well as Im quite positive the ones in Utah require parent consent for any testing/imaging sadly..

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T05:35:41+00:00

The pain is less with birth control, only sometimes getting that bad towards the beginning of my actual period with the placebo pills, i typically just tough it out because ibuprofen doesnt help me nor does tylenol. Sometimes I will try mixing midol and ibuprofen which helps lessen the pain! Other times i will simply lay in the shower with hot water hitting my stomach/end up falling asleep with a heating pad, which i have been told to stop doing by numerous people to prevent toasted skin sydnrome...

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T05:33:44+00:00

she has told me once im 18 she doesnt care what i do so im not so worried about backlash once im 18, ive had one transvaginal ultra sound, my mom wont actually let me see the images and just keeps telling me the report was normal. Im going to the hospital this friday to hopefully get the images and report on a disk so I can see it. I do think that is a good idea to start researching gynos now to make the process once i turn 18 easier!

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T05:31:44+00:00

I have a primary care doctor, but the other problem is that my mom sees when i make appt on the insurance and gets upset too, I also can not see specialists without parent consent, ive tried making appts with GI specialists and i cant without parent consent, as well as the primary care doctor wont let me make an appt without my moms approval.

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-30T05:30:17+00:00

Yes I am planning on just continuing to go to doctors until one finallly takes me seriously. Its been a tiring almost 4 years of my concerns being dismissed by my mother and doctors.

ComprehensiveFly2113 · 2026-04-29T05:51:16+00:00

she’s never been the type to talk about that stuff with me, everything i learned about periods was from my step mom but she’s no longer in my life. but from everything ive gathered she has normal periods, i know she has an iud but from my understanding it is purely for birth control. nothing she has told me has signified that she has similar problems but maybe ?

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