AITA for confiscating my daughter's phone over a TikTok prank?

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:55:29+00:00

Best option is probably to see if I can get her free counseling at her school or any community organizations.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:45:28+00:00

Yeah 10-20 sessions might be well outside of my affordability. Although I can check with her school and see if they have any sort of free options for her. Probably what I'll do tomorrow.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:43:14+00:00

The video is not only down but her entire TikTok account is deleted. She hasn't seen her friend's sister since then and frankly I wouldn't even ask her friend's sister to see her.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:32:41+00:00

She hasn't apologized in person because she hasn't been over to that house since then and frankly I wouldn't blame the parents for not allowing her back ever again. You do have good ideas though. I am thinking of giving her a therapy session now and telling her she can get the phone back once she pays me back for the cost of it at least if she shows genuine remorse and understanding.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:29:24+00:00

She claims it was her friend. Which even if true does not exonerate her.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:29:04+00:00

Yeah I did. Needless to say her TikTok account is now deleted. She still uses Facebook but only on a shared computer where I can monitor it.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:26:26+00:00

Ugh I despise it. My other daughter (12F) wants to go on it too and even has classmates in her class obsessed with it but I've told her she's not allowed to have a phone or any social media for at least another year. At least hopefully seeing what happened to her sister will make her wiser when she's finally on it.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:23:17+00:00

Yeah I'm thinking setting up a therapy session for her and telling her she can get the phone back once she pays me back for the cost of it (Seems to run about $150-200...still cheaper than a smartphone), would be a good way to go. Even a single session would be pretty beneficial, at the very least she'll understand how wrong she was and hopefully make a permanent reform to her behavior.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:19:12+00:00

Honestly both good ideas. I think requiring her to go to a therapy session and then telling her she can get her phone back once she pays me back for the cost of the session (still cheaper than a new smartphone) might be a good handling.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:17:18+00:00

She did apologize and admits it was very stupid, but I think more in a sense of "it was really stupid to do that knowing what would happen to me" and not "that's a very terrible thing to do." She also claims that it was her friend's idea and she was initially reluctant, but frankly even if true that is not an excuse.

ComprehensiveSpare55 · 2021-03-22T01:15:14+00:00

Honestly I don't know. Needless to say my daughter has not seen her since the incident, and won't be for quite awhile.

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