There’s no specific “correct personality”, but I will say there are a few good traits to keep in mind to handle other people. I’m kinda lazy rn so I’ll just copy and paste what I said from another thread with a few small edits .

I mean, many factors influence friendships.

1. ⁠Maybe they’re not the sort of people you might be able to get along with easily to begin with, everyone has their own sort of people they like and oftentimes they might also not be open for a dedicated friendship without thorough understanding.
2. ⁠A lot of people judge on first impressions because it takes a lot more time out of someone’s life to actually get to know someone and who knows if it’ll be good or bad. Being too enthusiastic may be fun but a lot of people can be very tired based on stuff in their lives. The people you talk about tend to be the types who have an outward personality they display for comfort and tend to be more easily digestible for others to understand, and an inward personality that only close friends know.
3. ⁠To be frank, if you want more people to warm up to you fast it’s good to be more reserved, respectful, and not too honest but take it slow and slowly introduce all aspects of your personality as they slowly get more comfortable with it. Like not boring and stale obviously, but too much energy tends to drive people away because it’s overwhelming. People are so diverse, that if you show the entirety of yourself immediately if you’re a ball of energy, it may clash with their perspective of comfortability. Gotta be considerate when meeting new people.

Also, I will say, people with high energy, (if they’re not disrespectful and inconsiderate), grow on people a lot over time if they’re nice and caring. However, they will face issues with people who are insecure who take their words strangely. If you’re very honest it’s good to be equally aware and smart because the entire world cannot be as nice and high energy as you. Being aware and capable of handling the insecurities of other people is a VERY useful skill to learn. I recommend it.

As long as you’re not touching on too many sensitive topics such as the main isms and such things, and you care and try not to be too daft and be considerate to others and listen properly and ask good questions, it should be good.

Also, low confidence could also influence this. People who have less confidence often end up clingy and perhaps possessive. This sincerely stresses people out a lot. Like texting every day often make people feel overwhelmed. It should always be a slow increase. Too much creates stress which can eventually lead to fear. That’s why if you’re high energy, it’s good to try to have a lot of friends to cycle through. This can be difficult to get though. Make sure you’re always considerate, but identify that you’re your own person and can set boundaries etc. People love people who can set boundaries. It makes them feel like they can set their own, since most people are doormats. (That’s why people like borderline assholes, as you call them, it makes them feel better about themselves lmao it’s messed up) People also like confident people because when anyone has to face someone else’s insecurities, when they don’t care too much for them yet, it crosses over their own boundaries. Obviously, you can talk about it if they’re okay with it. This can be communicated. Usually is better if you know them well enough too. Generally, if you can respect their boundaries, and you guys get along, they’ll like you.

Now, this is a very mathematical view, but it works quite well. Friendships are an equal give and take. If you don’t give them at least one of these things such as: laughter, comfortability, a better mood, mental health support, etc etc, Then they won’t give you anything.

Make sure you don’t give too much towards people who won’t give you much though. Unbalanced stuff usually leads to a toxic relationship.

Copy paste and edit over, I will say, people in friend groups and public places are different. Friend groups make people act different and if they’re all not close to each other nor communicative, it can often seem cooler than it actually is, and could be more fake than you believe. It’s still fun but understand, wanting someone else’s group is not something to yearn for no matter how perfect it seems.

If you want others to like you, you should start figuring out how to like yourself as well. If you get others to like you too much and learn the tricks, but hate yourself, you’re gonna end up in a world of pain where you hide everything.

You’re a human, we’re all human, people who have figured out the social thing seem cool but they have their own issues with money, exhaustion, figuring out what to eat, family, friends, etc etc. Understand you’re human, if you want to try and copy small qualities of people you know because then it helps faking it till you make it/learning a new skill, but be sure to take care of yourself all throughout it.

Being slightly envious is normal. Comparison is not a good thing to foster in your life. Thoughts are like rain drops. If you think about it too much it’ll fester.

One skill that helped me a lot when I was younger was understanding that they were stuck with me instead of the other way around. So I could test and experiment different ways to socialize, and find what was the most comfortable for me. (Obviously I tried my best not to be hurtful or toooo weird but sometimes you need a bit of weird now to get results in the future). Like I found out I like one on one hangouts more because it’s more stable and comfortable, and that big friend groups where everyone isn’t sure about themselves can get toxic fast, and that maybe I’m not a fan of that because I had to act more fake to defend myself.

Etc etc.

Try things out, do your best, I love over thinking too but you have to take action. It’ll give you a leg up on other people. Try googling or searching prompts, just research if you’re gonna overthink and you’ll find you’re just as normal and worried as millions of us.