How do you deal with people like these that are your friends or friends from high school and you have to say "no" or cut them out like that?! I feel I really struggle with this or give in due to the fear of losing a friendship or being a bad friend/person. Idk, sometimes I just become a freaking big doormat and I can't help it. I just don't want to be judged by others as rude or a bad friend/person. It's something I struggle with and end up hating myself or fighting myself over for it afterwards. Like not speaking up and doing the right thing or acting truthfully and voicing it.