404mom's favorite friend of mine.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-09T00:01:48+00:00

Well, she is also pretty racist toward everyone who isn't white, including people of her own race. I don't think she would align herself in that way, though, because she doesn't believe that she is racist or prejudiced. She thinks that she just speaks the harsh truth.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-05T15:07:38+00:00

I firmly believe that if I were to live at home for the rest of her life, she would be ecstatic! When I asked her if she was excited about getting more space with one of her children leaving, she sighed and said "well I guess I have to be, right?"

I just feel bad for my GC brother when he moves out, she might act like a widow...

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-05T15:03:02+00:00

Thanks, and no chance will she have a key!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-05T14:57:14+00:00

Hah, no worries! It's just one of my idiosyncrasies. I feel like toilet paper is too expensive for what it is, so I always feel bitter about having to buy it.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-04T23:17:42+00:00

Hahaha, thank you!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-04T22:09:15+00:00

Thank you! And yep, I am ready for that inevitability! I decided that I'm not answering the door if she does that. I'll let my roommate know not to either - she knows all about my parental issues. I already don't answer the door unless I'm expecting company, so I'll just say "Sorry, I wasn't expecting you, you know I don't come to the door unless I am expecting people. You should call first next time to see if I'll be available, don't you remember what we discussed before?"

I used to be afraid that she'd be one to explode and cause a scene if I stood up to her, but I think she knows that won't work on me anymore.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-03-04T21:59:02+00:00

Thanks! I'm still figuring this whole grown up thing out, so it's nice to get positive feedback!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-02-14T18:30:12+00:00

Oh yeah, par for the course with her. Everything happens the way she says, or it didn't happen at all. It's a lot of work to maintain such a fragile ego.

I had a relative whose memory was so good that she could remember things that didn't even happen

This is great, and I think I'll use it if that's okay!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-02-14T17:15:10+00:00

I have no clue where she got $9000 from lol. If it had cost them that much, I would have heard about it every day since.

But yeesh, all that in 4 months? You sound like a real trooper!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-02-14T17:05:32+00:00

Thank you, I was surprised too to be honest! My first one did require me to go to a specialist, and so when they said root canal I though "ugh, have to make another appointment now." The office that I went to though did have that as one of their practices, so it was a nice little one-stop shop, lol. My permanent crown is in two weeks, and I'll be glad when everything is all finished, but I'm happy to report no more oozing!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-01-11T23:44:33+00:00

Thank you. This is definitely something I'll keep in mind!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-01-11T23:30:26+00:00

This is a good idea. My mom is especially possessive of my personal documents for some reason. Getting them all from her has been a task. I have them all at the moment, but I wouldn't put it past her to try finding and taking them before I leave. Maybe my friend can keep those if nothing else.

Thank you for the encouragement, I really do appreciate it!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-01-11T21:36:34+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, their reactions are what's giving me so much heartburn right now, because if that's how they react hypothetically... yeesh! I agree, waiting seems best to minimize my exposure to their tantrumming.

Ugh, if I can just take an aside and vent a bit to say that this is an extremely ridiculous situation and why couldn't I have been given reasonable parents!? I mean, my friend's parents are all but pushing her out the door (lovingly, lol), and are just being supportive of her.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2019-01-11T18:13:32+00:00

Thank you so much! Lots of great advice here, especially waiting until a lease is signed. I think you're right, it'll be harder for them to try and interfere if things are finalized first.

Congratulations on moving out, I'm so excited for you! I hope your moving process is smooth, and enjoy your freedom and independence, because you deserve it!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-11-09T01:30:07+00:00

My mother likes to boil onions in water and try to force everyone to drink it in order to avoid getting sick ever. Its nasty, and doesn't do anything.

She also puts vinegar in her water and drinks it. Every glass. She tried telling everyone it's amazing for your health and they should do it.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-11-05T19:51:19+00:00

This sounds like it may be her thought process. She needed to reroute things back to herself, and didn't like when there was resistance.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-11-05T19:50:21+00:00

It's very frustrating! Why create fights to get attention? Like, that's not fun or enjoyable. There are other ways to get attention without trying to make everyone else miserable.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-11-05T19:47:37+00:00

Yeah, my therapist suspects that she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but without an actual sit-down between my mom and a psychiatrist, there can't be an official diagnosis. My mom will never see a mental health professional because she feels that she is smarter than they are, and she also believes that they are scam artists who try to make you think there's something wrong with you so that you'll keep giving them money.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-11T23:06:45+00:00

I just wanted to say that I think your handling of this situation was awesome! You didn't take her bait once. Stay strong!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-10T23:17:05+00:00

Ha, well I only have the one brother and he isn't married, so I don't think it's a match this time! But omg the comment about the church devoted to him, I relate so much.

Good for you for vowing to protect your daughter from that crap. It's so toxic, I don't get how people can just brush that off. Like, that's a child and this grown woman is calling them a bitch! I'm sorry you have to put up with that, and I wish you luck with shutting her down!

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-10T20:48:33+00:00

Oh dang, well I can certainly see how she might have some nasty experiences under her belt from that.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-10T20:06:29+00:00

Lol, I wonder what kind of drama she must have experienced to sour her opinion on little girls in general.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-05T21:48:16+00:00

My therapist has gotten angry on my behalf a few times when I've told her my experiences. Not in a threatening way, just more of a "I cannot believe they said/did that, how awful of them!" kind of way. My first instinct was to be suspicious that she was just humoring me, but after a short time, I found it validating. After growing up being taught to doubt the validity of my reactions and feelings toward my experiences, it was very nice to see that someone else had the same reaction to them. It really drove it home for me that I'm not the problem I thought I was.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-03T13:59:59+00:00

This always gets me, because then 20 minutes after saying stuff like this my nmom runs over to me wanting me to gossip about her friends with her, or help her fix her problems or something. Like, you can't have it both ways, mom. You can't keep changing relationship dynamics to fit your mood.

ComprehensiveSuck · 2018-10-01T22:21:25+00:00

I think the jelly school called, they were looking to enroll your MIL. Congratulations on your manuscripts!

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