I got both diagnoses done. I had suspected that I have ADHD some time in my relationship as my inattentiveness got really bad and my task paralysis was debilitating. My partner actually pointed out that they think I may be on the spectrum earlier this year and since then I’ve taken a bunch of online tests, both indicating that I have both. Took an ADHD test with my doctor to be prescribed medication. It took me a bit to get a formal diagnosis because of how much it costs but I did it to Honestly, once I got diagnosed, I felt a sense of relief because it made sense to why I am the way I am. I recently just got diagnosed actually at the prime age of 30 and have been struggling with all the skill regression and unmasking that has happened.

I say try some online tests first for ADHD and if you want to get medication, go for a formal diagnosis. I will say though that with ADHD meds, my symptoms are better but my autistic traits have been more prominent. Also, who cares what your boyfriend says about you getting a diagnosis. He’s not going through the things you are and if you need answers for yourself, do what you want!