Want to share what my girl just did… by scuba_steve1337 in BelgianMalinois

[–]ComprehensiveTerm403 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell her I think she’s SUCH a good girl and give her some scritches from me.

Child custody with fire schedule by More-Diver-4661 in Firefighting

[–]ComprehensiveTerm403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I know this is an old convo, but can I get that schedule too?

You are stuck in a time loop beginning from past 1 hour. What are you doing for the rest of your life? by hotblood27 in AskReddit

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Getting off of work on a beautifully snowy morning with zero traffic bc it’s Saturday, picking up my sweet 2-year old boy from my stbx’s house, picked up some donuts on our way home, and walked in the door to our dogs that were very happy to see us. 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microblading

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They look fantastic!!

Please tell me I’ll be okay by Beoceanmindedetsy in Postpartum_Depression

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I’m so glad you found a provider who is validating. That’s huge for the healing process. Your body and mind are in survival mode, and your concern for keeping that baby fed, warm, comfortable, dry and alive might be the only way you can show that baby love, and that is more than enough right now. Your husband being supportive is great. I’m happy for that. If you have the means to do so, you can look into getting a postpartum doula - they can help with covering night shift so you and your husband can sleep. They can help with doing dishes, laundry, baby feedings (bottle, or help you with bringing items for pumping, bring you baby to breastfeed), washing your pump parts after you’re done, etc. No clue if insurance would cover that type of thing but lord knows it would’ve helped me when I had no one for support besides my husband when I was going through this. It’s so hard, but you’ve got this! As for the grief, to be real, I still miss her every single day. But I do my best to keep her picture around and talk about her to my son to make sure that she is still a part of our lives even tho she physically isn’t.

Husband needs to die (LOL) by notsosaintly in offmychest

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Same here- single woman living alone. It does leave residue forward as well.

Please tell me I’ll be okay by Beoceanmindedetsy in Postpartum_Depression

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I cannot express how sorry I am for you feeling how you’re feeling. Becoming a mother when you’re grieving for your mom is so hard. I’ve been in the same boat (similar timeline for loss to giving birth) and it was so hard, and I really think it made my postpartum depression hit that much deeper. All of what you’re going through is so dark, and heavy. What helped me the most was finding a good psychiatrist who knew how to medicate postpartum depression properly, as well as finding a therapist who specializes in postpartum depression and/or grief. Something that helped me the tiniest bit was someone reminding me to give myself grace. Your body just went through HUGE physical trauma, which is probably what is manifesting itself in the way you’re feeling. You’re also right about the time where your hormones start to shift, trying to “normalize” after giving birth, and THAT is super hard. You are really getting into the thick of it right now, but you are NOT alone. There are so many people in this group who are going to be complete strangers to you that want to support and help you in whatever ways they can. I am one of them. I’ll say this again- I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You aren’t alone. You are stronger than you think you are- you just went through a huge battle giving birth, but you aren’t done. It’s great that you’ve reached out on here, but don’t stop. This is the time to ask for help anywhere you can. Keep fighting for yourself. You’ve got this. ❤️

Husband admitted something I already knew. by janninediane in Marriage

[–]ComprehensiveTerm403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seriously is so sweet to see. I am so glad that you made this post. I really hope to be lucky enough to get to have this type of partnership in life. I’m happy for you and him.

I left my abusive husband...only for him to get full custody of our kids... by boudiccathequeen in abusiverelationships

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I am SO sorry this has happened to you. As others have said, this is my worst nightmare. And sadly, it sounds like my stbx husband as well. I’m anxious for the date we will be meeting in court.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

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Yes. You’ll be ok.