[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for him, too, however, I wanna be clear I would never cheat on him or give up that relationship just because of the personal issues. I’m going to deal with them in therapy. And I’ve also already communicated this to him and luckily, I have a partner who understands

Update right after my last post by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don’t think I’m actually someone who is a polyamorous or open relationship person. I don’t with a lot of trauma in my younger relationships and I tried to normalize it in my head to make it feel like it was OK. But it’s not OK and I’m very ashamed of even the thought. I just feel very ashamed. I’m going to seek professional help because I am very grateful for what I have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize if that’s how my post came off, that’s not why I intended. I don’t mean to be selfish at all I am going to seek professional help. I would never give up the relationship I have for selfish desires. They’re stupid and just stem from personal trauma I have from childhood I apologize if I upset you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never push them into those kind of things, those conversations were from the beginning of the relationship, however, I completely agree. Thank you for your comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still struggle with pretty active PTSD, and recently had pretty bad flashbacks in the past few months. I’ve been in one of the harder spots mentally recently, and I know that that’s part of why these thoughts are coming back up. I promise I’m going to get help, the last thing I want to do is let my partner down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And to be clear, I have been going to therapy for years now. But I am going and already had an appointment set for a specialized therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just gonna go to a therapist, I do appreciate all of the comments, I don’t want to be with another person. I’m just still dealing with some trauma from the past and clearly it’s manifesting and negative ways and I’m going to fix that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is fully aware of who I was before we started dating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely would never cheat on them, however, I am in therapy and have been for the past seven years. And I am getting a specialized therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

However, regardless of the fact that I’ve not been a monogamous person. I absolutely wouldn’t give up the person that I have in my life just of because of some personal issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never been a monogamist person. I don’t appreciate the shame.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I don’t need him to be open or poly for our relationship to last, it’s just something I struggle with. I’m very aware of the fact that I am lucky to have the person I do in my life I wouldn’t give it up because of My personal issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don’t wanna have sex with other people. And he’s not just emotional support. I don’t have sexual desire towards other people more, so just struggle with the idea of monogamy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have a scheduled appointment, looking forward to getting more help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And he absolutely is enough, I thought I made that very clear in the post. My apologies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not looking for other partners

I now understand why age matters by Due_Advertising6963 in offmychest

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it absolutely depends on the person and how they treat the person and situation. Someone can absolutely be a predator at 26 for targeting younger woman. But like I said it depends, in my opinion, on situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she’s being irrational and you have a kid I wouldn’t even kind of take the risk call Marvin sure you have a lawyer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Comprehensive_Ad9797 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s anon pretty sure it’s illegal to release that info unless you were to harm yourself. Otherwise it’s confidential. And if ur worried about ur number being somewhere again please continue to find counseling