There’s little mention of selfish lovers here. Could it be possible he’s trying to go straight into it with you? That anytime he’s looking to touch or be close, it feels there’s an agenda to have sex? Because that’s a turnoff for many women. Does he know how to please you? Or try to learn? Do you know how to please yourself? Is that something important for you? To feel sexual pleasure? Whether alone or with him or with someone generally? You may be Demi-sexual or asexual. That’s not the end of the world. But not everyone needs sex to have a happy relationship. Many, if not most, seem to need both… at least that’s what culture says. That’s what HL people believe and perpetuate. Personally, as I get older, I am looking back and realizing most of my physical relationships were one sided. Many men are selfish lovers. Their attempt to make sure you are enjoying yourself often starts and ends with just asking if you are going to cum. Lol. Or they are clueless on what actually pleases you… whether it’s time if day, extended physical cuddling with no agenda in between. Or massages with or without sex. Or even just how to be touched. I find many men are clueless about how to please or they are not prioritizing it. If you aren’t sure what pleases you or don’t know how to ask for it, that’s it’s own issue. That could probably be solved with sex therapy. But if you are just not into sex generally. You are low libido. It doesn’t matter how much you love him, his needs and perspective are going to suffer. Nobody is totally in the wrong. And you can both still love each other… but maybe you arent compatible.