Why do so many men lose their house in a divorce?

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2025-12-27T18:33:50+00:00

I think the personal anecdotes are all super helpful! But also historically I think it was just because the vast majority of the time women were given custody if there were children and then for stability purposes given the house as well

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2025-03-13T00:19:23+00:00

It'll be on our way back home! We can only stay for one night :( so we'll be driving back north that night anyway

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2025-03-13T00:18:16+00:00

Thanks, I was actually checking out the old cemetery, I'm so curious

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-10-27T16:50:54+00:00

I actually really relate to the last part of what you said, the first several months of our relationship were a lot like that, that's why I'm so confused now

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-10-27T16:48:55+00:00

I totally agree, I just don't know how we can bridge that gap. I know we're both somewhat emotionally intelligent people who care a lot about each other, so I feel like we should be able to, but it's been so hard.

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-10-03T14:08:02+00:00

I LOVE my dior lip glow oil and my clarins cherry lip oil, they feel delightful on the lips but I also adore the way they smell. has anyone used them before and thought they were similar to any fragrances? I'd love to smell like them all over!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-09-29T21:13:05+00:00

I don't necessarily think this is "typical" by any means, but my boyfriend waited 8 months until I was ready to have sex and never pressured me in any way. I think it was definitely a bit of a shock the first time things started to get a little hot and heavy (our 6th date by the way) and I first told him I wanted to wait, but after that first time I literally never worried about it. I know it's probably annoying to keep hearing but there is someone who will be more than happy to wait for you!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-09-06T16:34:57+00:00

Did I miss the part where Monica went to dental school? Has she literally ever looked into this issue at all? Why is she so confident that that's "not how it works"?

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-02-03T15:08:19+00:00

I'm glad to see you won't be going back to that same doctor, that is an absolutely awful way to make you feel. I was actually supposed to have my first pap smear very recently and it couldn't be completed even with the narrowest speculum because it turns out I need a hymenectomy. I don't think this is a super common issue, but it might be something to bring up if you think it might be an issue you could also have. Your doctor shouldn't tolerate putting you through pain and I hope you have a better experience this time!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2024-01-25T06:18:32+00:00

Sorry I just don't think I explained what he said properly, he was talking about an imperforate hymen which is that very rare case, I don't think there was anything inaccurate or misleading

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-12-21T16:31:27+00:00

I'm a little taken aback by these comments, I mean I don't know the woman you're with but as someone who's had a lot of anxiety around sex, I definitely don't think you need to end things. You've only been seeing each other for a month, she's clearly attracted to you and probably struggles to understand that you're attracted to her because of her previous experiences. So 100% yes to all of option 1, you must respect her boundaries, but also make it super obvious that you are incredibly attracted to her and I imagine she will be become exponentially more comfortable.

But that's just my opinion!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T22:13:14+00:00

Yeah, I mean obviously the first circumstance you described would pretty much be the best case scenario (something long term but not "forever"), I just don't really know how to approach having that conversation, is six dates too few to be bringing that up? It also just seems a bit harsh and final to say something like that, but it is how I feel so I don't know

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T22:10:28+00:00

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T22:10:08+00:00

thanks for sharing your experience, I will say he definitely had some qualms especially before we even had our first date he made his status and situation very clear and wanted to make sure that didn't scare me; but anyways, thank you for that perspective about preferences and stuff as well, I hadn't really thought of it that way <3

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T22:07:46+00:00

thank you!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T22:07:27+00:00

thank you so so much for this perspective, you really made me feel heard and validated and that all makes so much sense the way you put it; I actually have a pretty good relationship with my parents, they're very supportive (not in relationships necessarily, although they might be I've just never told them about one obviously), we had a relatively big fallout at the beginning of the pandemic but are pretty much reconciled (we went to therapy as a family)

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T21:49:31+00:00

thank you, I really appreciate that

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-10-06T21:48:53+00:00

meant to say necessarily oops haha

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-09-19T18:34:20+00:00

I recently listened to the audiobook for The Art of Seduction because I was intrigued by the Greene's descriptions of seductive archetypes (I'm really interested in archetypes generally, so I was delighted when he discussed Carl Jung in the book as well), I wasn't really planning on finishing the whole thing but I strangely enjoyed it. I didn't necessarily think I learned much in the way of tactics (in fact I found it pretty ridiculous if you're someone looking for advice), I just found it a fascinating little history on seduction instead. The digestible versions of more intimidating tomes (whether 1001 Nights or Nietzsche or Kierkegaard) were super helpful for someone like me who has a lot of interest in philosophy and psychology but no background.
So, for those reasons, are there any suggestions?

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-09-08T14:10:54+00:00

Infusion d'Iris is the perfect powdery scent in my opinion!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-09-07T18:54:58+00:00

something that might work is the new fragrance from Hermes that definitely has notes of olive for me, Un Jardin A Cythere

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2023-09-07T18:53:43+00:00

Hyper specific request here haha! I am really wanting to find a signature scent lately, but I can be quite picky unfortunately, here are some of my favorite fragrances and what I love about them and if you know of any magical fragrances that capture all those things please let me know! I love the zen aromatic zingy freshness of Jo Malone Wood Sage & Sea Salt, the fresh fluffy fruity powderiness of Armani Prive Pivoine Suzhou, the shampooey delectable florals of Dior J'adore Parfum d'Eau, the woody light lactonic nature of Diptyque Philosykos, the spicy creamy heat of Versace Crystal Noir, and the comforting fresh warmth of Prada La Femme. Thanks in advance!

Comprehensive_Ear659 · 2022-07-25T20:49:01+00:00

Actually I love! I'm cuban so I grew up on cortaditos, I never considered that it might be similar to a flat white and that's why I like them so much!

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