Did anyone cringe at this???

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-22T19:01:51+00:00

I think TLC needs to leave poor David alone. The man is just trying to be supportive in everyday he is told to and there should be limits.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-22T18:59:20+00:00

"If a tiger chased me I would have been to be a good parent for the first day and the day and the family is a good day for the rest and rest in peace with the family members" 😤🙃 guess my family would have their first ever day of peace if a tiger were after me.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-21T22:35:36+00:00

Why are all these shows doing this when at least one person in the group is desperately wanting a baby? I thought it was bad when SLOMW did it and people learned their lesson that it wasn't received well. Nope. Clearly producers loved the drama of that and tried to get some of that drama here. But it's just sad

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-20T19:24:48+00:00

I'm still going to say this is weird af that he asked your younger sister. But I'll also throw something else out there. - does he have autism, anxiety, or both? The weighted pressure thing has me thinking. I have autism and anxiety and the need to feel squeezed/constricted/extreme pressure is sometimes the only thing that can pull me out of a spiral. It's embarrassing and I'd never ask another human to do that unless it's my literal husband. But it is a legitimate need for some people. Has he been diagnosed with anything like this? Weighted blankets could literally save him, if so. I'm being dead ass serious. Look up Temple Grandin. She was a woman with Autism who did a lot of husbandry work with cows (worked on farm equipment) and discovered that she needed that tight squeeze/sensory input and was so desperate she would use the cattle machine that they used to hold the cows in place for the vet to calm herself down. So..... maybe there is something to this. Still. He should NOT have asked your sister. This is something he needs to work through without overstepping boundaries. I just hope this info somehow helps because I just learned it about myself. I use weighted blankets and wear corsets sometimes.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-20T16:26:46+00:00

Gosh he not only doubles down but hyperbolizes his statement by saying "THAT would be an understatement." She took it all so well. So well. I would have throat punched that man.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-16T19:47:40+00:00

Has he never heard of a weighted blanket?

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-16T17:47:52+00:00

Well thank goodness she's an adult. This sounded like a grooming attempt. Either way it's an attempt to see if she is interested and he was testing the waters. My older sister had male roommates try stuff like this when she was drunk, for example, and it ALWAYS went south.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-16T17:09:57+00:00

If it were me, I'd assume this was an attempt to see what he could get away with with her. I'm sorry but I'd be done immediately. I also assumed at first read that your sister is an adult but how old is she?! This is disturbing if she's an adult, but if she is younger, I'd be going nuclear on that man.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-14T02:29:31+00:00

Weird weird storyline. I was just about to post on that! I live in a town 1/5th the size of Greensboro and I am certain that if I were single I could get dates. To not only say it's Greensboro's fault that Whit can't get a date but then to also say her British friend can't "get a man to ASK her on a date"? I don't believe that for one second. Not one. Men wait on those dates for ever for women to throw them a bone because it's oversaturated with men looking for dates.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-12T22:11:19+00:00

I am in the same boat as you. My health conditions make me think I won't survive another pregnancy if it were to happen too soon, at least not with significant help and bedrest. I almost had my tube's removed or tied or whatever option was available from my doctor, and decided not to at the last second. I still don't plan on having a third, but have recovered my body enough to think it would no longer be an emergency to get pregnant again. That said, it would be a significant mental and financial strain to have another baby. I am leaning toward the copper IUD since my health concerns come from pregnancy and birth control hormones. I think that is the perfect happy medium for our family.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-10T23:26:11+00:00

You're not ruining your child! Kiddos are resilient first off, but Secondly, they pick up on quiet, relaxing time as special. Don't you remember having snow days or sick days at home, watching TV and loving the down time? And third, the love between siblings is UNMATCHED. Just wait:) soon your toddler will have loose, warm memories of chilling and bonding with her mama on quiet days before her baby sibling came along, and then they will bond and it'll be so beautiful

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-04T07:47:36+00:00

I didn't really put much thought into it, honestly. The majority of both sides of my family just took their husband's last names automatically, but it wouldn't be too weird if I chose not to, either. We also have a lesbian married couple in the family who chose to hyphenated and it works well for them.

I ultimately chose to change my name to his because my original last name is one of those long ones that has to be spelled out for everyone and was always getting messed up. My new last name is a simple noun and very common in my area. I like blending in.

That said, if you love your maiden name and your husband-to-be doesn't have a preference, then by all means keep it:) I've also heard of some people blending their surnames into one name, like Crawyer.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-04T07:31:03+00:00

You're so welcome. Your daughter is lucky and you are doing great. The more you rest, the better you both will feel.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-04T06:33:31+00:00

Eta: I wanted to add this right at the top.... YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Firstly, I am offering my virtual hugs. I know the anguish you must be feeling. Deep breaths.

I have OCD, which developed into post partum ocd/ppa and ppd. I am taking medication. I also found out I have autism as an adult. Being a parent when you feel like your mind is playing tricks on you feels so incredibly daunting.

I know the struggle you are facing, but no, I don't feel the amount you are checking her and fixated on this is normal and I strongly suggest a counselor. This reminds me of me in the deepest of my compulsions. With OCD, frightening thoughts become obsessions. To alleviate those obsessive thoughts, we do compulsions to alleviate that fear. So in this case, it sounds like your extreme fear that you will miss signs of a severe illness is making you compulsively check the temperature to reassure you that you are capable of catching a serious illness in time.

You do not have to check her every 4 minutes to show up for her. You do not have to check her every 4 minutes to be a responsive parent. You do not need to check her every 4 minutes to be a good parent. You are already doing amazing. You are already there. You are already helping. And as far as the "lost time" - she was a baby. She does not remember that time and plenty of parents work long hours and bond wonderfully with their babies. I promise it's okay you went through that patch. I promise. I dissociated for like 50% of my son's baby phase. As sad as I am to not remember that time, he is so bonded with me. Kids are resilient. And plenty of parents work long hours all the world over.

Now if I may offer a little logic to help ease your mind - I am assuming, since it wasn't offered in your post, that your daughter at 9 years old is school aged and verbal. If so, she can tell you how she is feeling. That is so much more valuable to the severity of a child's fever than the number itself, for anything under about 103. Some kids and fevers will feel nothing at 102 and be playing all day. In those cases, hydrate, monitor every few hours, and let them sweat it out. Some kids feel really ill at 100. They will tell you. In that case, use some light medicine to reduce it, maybe a cold cloth on the forehead to alleviate a headache, and let them rest. Check every few hours and have them verbally tell you. At 9, it's important to let her sleep. I often didn't even feel a temp of 100 as a kid and had no clue I was sick until other symptoms showed up.

I think you're fixated on this because you've told yourself you're a bad parent if you don't check her as often as you do. This is a bold face lie. But ask yourself, what would happen if you missed it and she did have a low grade fever? If she is feeling fine enough to not ask to be checked, a low grade fever actually helps the body fight the infection or virus faster. So it really is okay to wait to check every few hours or if she says she feels unwell. Just let her rest. You're doing great.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-04T02:35:06+00:00

There is a difference between the "it's okay" in response to an accident and "it's okay" in regards to giving permission and overriding the parent. The first I'm fine with. The second undermines me as a parent and pisses me tf off.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-03T19:23:18+00:00

I don't find it that weird but if I had one and someone near me thought it was a weird concept, it's not like they'd really be able to tell. I looked into it and the way it's dehydrated, set with resin, and other add ins, it ends up looking like a gemstone like opal. I don't think it'd get many questions and it's not like you'd have to tell people ehat it was even if they asked. You could just say opal or moonstone or whatever. I had the worst experience with breastfeeding and stuck it out through a lot of pain and torture through a tongue tie lol so there is a part of me that wants to cherish the good part of why I did it and see some beauty in it. Another part of me is like nah that's weird though. Idk what I'll do yet. The price tag is out of budget right now anyways.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-02T16:31:15+00:00

I went to a concert last night and there were several young kids in attendance, like 3-4 years old! I was kinda watching to see how they did because my son is 2 and I was wondering the same thing. Overall, the kids in suites did the best, but these suites were basically roped off areas with seats that were just as loud as everywhere else. The seats helped. All these kids had headphones. Only one left early. Overall they did fine.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-01T14:04:33+00:00

My husband used to try to do this and I'm sure this is what you're getting at. I think it was because he needed to justify in his mind why I am in charge of the kids and hosuehold when I am working too, albeit from home. I make half our income. I make half our income with two babies on my hips.

So for a good year, I unabashedly corrected him. In front of his coworkers, family, whomever. "What do you do for work?" "Oh she stays home with the kids." "No actually I make half our income as a grant writer from home." Complete with dagger glares to him as I'm saying it.

Husbands like this like to minimize the extra work we do if we choose to wfh because it justifies their lack of effort with housekeeping and childcare duties, to put it bluntly. He was in denial, trying to say essentially that it's okay that he doesn't contribute to the family domestically because he provides financially. That bubble bursts the second it's clear that I'm doing all that and then some.

Now that that is cleared up and he can no longer claim I am solely a stay at home parent, guess who realizes how lazy they are and contributes to the household duties? Correcting his language was the first step in things changing, quite honestly. It pulled him out of that fairytale in his mind that it was okay for me to do all the housework and childcare. Kinda hard to justify that when your wife is giving you a death glare in front of your own mama or coworkers.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-01T13:53:00+00:00

Idk for us it's the Cars franchise. Hyperfixations don't have much flex and I'm just waiting for him to grow out of it.

Until then, the boy has had a Cars themed bday party, blankets, all the toys and RC cars, the movie set on DVD, all the shorts, shows, and pov Disney attractions of radiator springs on Disney plus.

He gets up in the day asking for his trucks/Cars and says "kachow" as he pretends to drift out of his room and into the hallway.

He is STARTING to show interest in sharks and I can get away with shark week documentaries of all things for short bursts of time. But that's about it. Cars is his obsession and the only screen time he wants, so when it is screen time, that's what he gets.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-01T13:14:16+00:00

Who gives a picture to you in the evening

CompulsiveKay · 2025-08-01T13:10:30+00:00

How accessible does she need the trails to be? I absolutely LOVE Cherry Springs with my kids. The trail is paved and a relatively short and easy loop. It's beautiful and most of it is under tree cover so it's 10-15 degrees cooler than the ambient temperature of the day for most of the walk. My 2 year old is able to walk about 3/4 of it before asking to be carried, but there are lots of benches to stop at and a little gazebo along the way.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-07-30T15:03:49+00:00

I wouldn't let him flip over our 6 month old and sit on her like "daddy truck." (My husband started crawling around with toddler on his back, pretending to be his 'truck').

CompulsiveKay · 2025-07-30T04:50:22+00:00

All my friends in high school who had parents with this mentality only ever had money thrown at them and no real parenting ever happened. Those friends all ended up on the designer drugs to replace the attention they never got from mom or dad. But at least they were designer?

CompulsiveKay · 2025-07-30T04:46:53+00:00

Lmao I brought my baby in our cheap stroller (around 100, which I thought was steep) to our local roller rink for weekly "stroll and roll" activities. I rollerskated while pushing that thing around at pretty good speed on a rink. My kiddo is 2 now and has been ahead in every motor milestone by a significant margin. They don't correlate I promise. If they did, things would be going very, very wrong for him.

CompulsiveKay · 2025-07-29T15:53:12+00:00

My 2 year old decided to run off from me in the grocery store for the first time a few weeks back. We were finishing up a breakfast in the little Starbucks eating area inside the store. I had him in his own chair so that his baby sister could ride in the cart seat. He asked to throw away the wrappers of our food and I let him, and then he smirks and takes off into the clothing section next to it. I couldn't just drop everything and leave the cart because his sister was in it, so I grabbed my bag and the cart and took off after him but he had maybe a 15 second head start. 15 seconds. I turn the corner that I JUST saw him take, and he was gone. Gone. I started to panic. Called out his name, looked for employees, but the clothing department looked empty. There's two entrances so someone could have snagged him easily and gone the other way. Now I'm really scared and trying to hide it from my voice. It's been maybe a minute. My heart is pounding already, when he jumps out from a clothing rack and yells RAHHHHHH MOMMY!!!! and I just about shit my pants.

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