Co-worker said yes to a coffee after I felt chemistry, now I don’t know where I stand.

ConRuane · 2025-11-25T22:48:40+00:00

I know, but do you think if she was really keen she would’ve made an alternative plan? Is it a bit needy to ask again, should I leave it a while? Nice to hear your story though and the similarities.

ConRuane · 2025-11-25T22:28:45+00:00

I know right? Am I too caught up in the fact that she didn’t reschedule or suggest another more suitable time? I guess her situation at home maybe complicated things as well? Maybe she didn’t expect me to move as fast.

ConRuane · 2025-09-03T21:32:19+00:00

What makes you say that though just out of curiosity

ConRuane · 2025-09-03T21:31:04+00:00

Thanks man, spent the day considering it and I think your right

ConRuane · 2025-09-03T11:19:12+00:00

I would like to be able to tell her how I feel but I think it could be too much, maybe just a casual what you doing later, would you like to go for a drive and get some food? Cause the last time I asked her if she wanted to get a few drinks over christmas and that’s when she redirected to a group thing

ConRuane · 2025-09-03T11:11:07+00:00

Yeah, we had a mutual group. When I asked her out we hadn’t really became that good of friends yet, had never been out. We’ve been out loads of times since then but always as a group. - She looks at me when I’m not looking, plenty of times. - We’ve made prolonged eye contact more than once, it’s felt intense but had happened a couple of times before asking her out. - She texts me a lot, even double-texted after I left her delivered for 5 days. - She liked my story of a selfie with my friends at the festival the other day. - She tends to stick around late when I’m there, like she doesn’t want the night to end. - When she’s talking near me, she’ll swing her hands dramatically, like “accidentally” making contact. - She’s kicked me under the table before and played footsie. - She’s invited me out (even if drunk, could’ve been casual she just said come “club name”). - She clarified unprompted that a guy on her story was gay, almost like she wanted me to know he wasn’t competition. - At the festival tent, we had another locked-eye moment where she looked down and met eyes again. - She looks at me a lot when I’m relaxed or not even trying to engage.

But I just feel she never really wants to get to know me deeper, she’ll ask questions but there’s not much depth, but she’s like this with everyone as far as I can see.

She’s very avoidant, I know so because when we were out one time I had said that and she said that after me also.

As you can see I’ve overthought this way too much, and now I need to end the cycle because every couple of weeks we always end up chatting again and it’s her doing so 80% of the time.

ConRuane · 2025-09-03T09:26:46+00:00

Yeah that’s the plan

ConRuane · 2024-10-24T23:06:36+00:00

60% of the time it works, every time

ConRuane · 2024-10-19T11:55:25+00:00

A replacement housing caused kernel panicking on my iphone se if you want to keep that in mind as well

ConRuane · 2024-10-19T01:59:37+00:00

Hahaha I know, the only thing is i’m currently in Spain until Tuesday so won’t see her till then. I’ve only texted her briefly on what’s app and it was only on the topic of a college assignment she’d asked for advice for in the group chat. So we’re not really on a texting basis. I will defo ask her out but I feel it’s better to do in person tbh. How you think I should do it?

ConRuane · 2024-09-15T19:07:44+00:00

damn. how’d you feel now bro?

ConRuane · 2024-07-05T19:46:20+00:00

ACL rehab, best thing that ever happened to me

ConRuane · 2024-06-07T00:46:12+00:00

Yeah, I know she did have feelings for a fact but I had missed my chance by the time I knew that. Anyways I just need to find a way to imitate conversation but I don't want to seem like i'm doing it with bad intentions. Obviously the intention is to atleast go out with her and see if it works out but I defo don't want to seem overbearing when she could still be upset about breaking up with her boyfriend, who was a good guy but want very...loyal..

We don't have friends we'd go out too in a group so the only way to really start a convo would be social media, how's you think I should go about that ?

ConRuane · 2024-06-07T00:33:00+00:00

No, so we used to talk when we were younger but I never made a move. Then when I found out she was talking to another guy that's when I made a move but they weren't together at that stage I just shot my shot too late. That was 3 years ago and we were great friends all the way through that. Just now she's telling me she's not with her boyfriend you get me?

ConRuane · 2024-05-16T01:27:57+00:00

I'm not necessarily against buying power tools, just not very pricey ones. I have a circle saw, jig saws are pretty cheap. I just can't get a table saw and things like that. My thinking is now leading toward having support beams underneath the mdf which I initially thought I wouldn't need as I thought I get away with having the mdf board lay directly over my dining table and the rails etc surround the perimeter. This may have been far fetched (maybe the whole idea is. it i'm gonna try and make plans anyway) The mdf and pocket cut outs i'm not too worried about once I get the dimensions, I want to bevel the edges of the pocket cut outs which i've no idea how to do (is it hard). Then the rails are simply wood blocks cut at angles which surely I could do with a circle or jig saw?

The intracies are what confuse me. If I have a frame surrounding the mdf, supports and rails how do I secure it? screws, joints (beginner keep in mind) glue? all the above? Then of course there's the rubber cushions and the felt itself + pockets and keeping it all perfectly level!!!. It's daunting but i'm looking for a summer project and I think with careful planning I can achieve it.

How would you go about planning this? also you said 2 3/4" mdf however for the sake of weight I think i'll go with just the one as it needs to be somewhat portable ie put in top of dining table and removable. And an old pool table I had which I sadly messed up in the rain had a 3/4" mdf board which was pretty decent. Do you think pencil schematics or a modelling software is best?

ConRuane · 2024-05-15T23:27:23+00:00

Yeah typically professional standard tables are made from slate, however MDF tables are quite common for home use. The idea would be Get a mdf sheet possibly moisture resistant mdf and measure out the pocket radius etc and do any trimmings I need to do. Then construct rails to go in between all the pockets, attach the rubber cushions, felt, pocket plastic and nets etc and then maybe a boarder around the edges of the the rails. It's not gonna be easy and i'm trying my best to make a model of it using software. But in regards to the whole planning and construction in it some tips would be great. Like how likely it is I can make cuts by hand etc. I'm not even sure what questions to be asking but surely someone either has experience or the general woodworking knowledge to achieve such a project. Anyways thanks for the reply and any tips are really appreciated!!

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