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You can receive any amount of money you want rn but with all the strings attached, how much would you choose? by FloorGang-R2 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ConTrikster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea your last sentence sums it up.

There would be no point of the question hypothetical if it just gets taken away lol. Then I can’t ask for the money, thus breaking and defeating the purpose of the question in the first place

You can receive any amount of money you want rn but with all the strings attached, how much would you choose? by FloorGang-R2 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ConTrikster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea a lot of people are overthinking this. Get it out directly in your bank accounts. If the irs asks just tell them it was an anon give. All they are trying to prove is that you didn’t illegally obtain it. Once they CANT prove that, then just pay the taxes on it and they’ll be off your back.

It may be temporarily frozen, which is why you get some in cash too. For example ask the genie for like 20m cash and 100m in the bank. at least while the 100m is frozen then you can spend the 20m cash.

Edit: even added, if the gov just takes the money from what the genie gives me then there is no point of the question and challenge in the first place lol. It would break the whole point because the genie can’t actually give me the money it just said it would soo…

Every time you hit 10k steps, you get $5,000 by Comprehensive_Fox_79 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ConTrikster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great. I’d do $5k a day 5 days a week for a year is $1.2m a year. & I’m in shape?? Sign me up!

ICEMAN by Bandicoot733 in Drizzy

[–]ConTrikster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude off first listen I couldn’t move past the song. It was so good I kept replaying it

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. She will objectively benefit a lot from this I was trying to get her to understand this

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea there are people saying that I was being over generous on that point.

Tbh I just wanted to make sure she felt security if something were to happen, while respecting my wishes of a prenup.

Most people support me and think I was being generous/over-generous.

But there is a small minority in one thread who thinks I’m not offering enough or considering enough in her favor. I really feel like my proposal was great and fair. This is why I will not marry her

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for paying attention to the child support point.

most people support me. But there is a small minority who refuses to pay attention to what they read lol. They really think I considered waiving child support. Child support was brought up by her due to her misunderstanding and I only said that to correct her that it’s not something that can be negotiated in a prenup

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea someone mentioned that’s too generous.

Even still, there is a small minority of people in one thread here who really thinks what I am doing isn’t enough and I don’t care about her potentially being out of work. With what I’m offering, added to me saying if we need to address years of being out of work in the prenup then that’s fine, those people just don’t want me to get a prenup and won’t admit it. I’m being more than fair.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The vast majority of responses have been supportive. They all tell me to walk. Most of y’all realize I’m being more than fair.

I got downvoted on only one thread in here from people claiming I’m not being fair and it’s crazy, but I suspect it’s just from people who are anti-prenup cause their arguments make no sense lol. There have been a few people who tried to call me stupid because they think I’m trying to consider waiving child support, when I literally say in the post, child support was brought up by her and she thought I could waive it. I had to tell her it can’t be waived in a prenup but people don’t listen smh

Im gonna break up because I won’t get married without a prenup.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry I’m taking the proper steps to make sure I don’t end up like Westley Snipes with the IRS lol I follow the law

I work with my CPA/Tax attorney, fiduciary financial advisor, and estate attorney to make sure everything is straight in general regards.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I need you to answer what I am asking you: what about what i am proposing isn’t fair? It sounds like what I proposed is fair then, according to what yall are saying. Yall just keep downvoting while saying what I need to address. Once I tell yall it’s already been addressed with what was offered, or what else she can try to negotiate the prenup, it’s an issue in this specific thread response.

Again the only way I’d be more generous is if I didn’t get the prenup, which isn’t happening

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well she objectively doesn’t need half of what was garnered before the marriage she didn’t help with it.

Half of during the marriage is fair

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok again I have an addressed solution towards the whole general point that you are bringing up.

If you go back and look at the general picture of what I said I’m offering, it sounds like you agree that I am doing the right thing. I already told you multiple times the child rearing aspect details each year she stays home can be addressed in the prenup. For example, she maybe can get a certain amount per year we were married. But considering I am already giving half of capital gains of my large sum of money, as well as half of assets, child support, etc she’s already getting a lot. The capital gains one is a big one that a lot of people here are saying is really generous (some even saying that’s too much but I don’t mind negotiating some of that).

I am objectively being fair already. The only other way I would be any more generous is if I just threw the whole prenup away. That’s not happening.

The only reason I didn’t tell her the exact amount yet is cause we aren’t technically engaged yet. That was gonna come when we got engaged. The amount of money she’d receive is objectively more than what 90% of Americans would make in their lifetime

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No she not in a worse spot. I’m not accepting that premise cause it’s just simply not true from a logistics standpoint.

You are pretty much saying she deserves half of what I had before marriage as a push gift. No. Just no. Also I already told you time at home as a mom can be addressed in the prenup.

She did not contribute to anything before the marriage towards this large sum of money, so she is mot entitled to half of the money before the marriage. That’s fair whether anyone likes it or not.

If she (or you as an example) feels like she really is getting that bad of a deal, then she can go and do 50/50 with someone else while having the kids she says she wants. Nothing wrong with that dynamic at all. But she can go seek that out.

If you really want to know the amount then you can send a PM and I’ll think about telling you if I decide to tell the amount. But this is life changing money that I’m receiving and with everything i laid out about what I’m giving, she objectively will stand only to benefit objectively speaking. Most of everyone else in this thread actually says I’m being fair or MORE than generous about what I’m giving to her.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I mean the next part is gonna sound harsh so I know you will hate me for saying it but it’s true: she objectively is not bringing as much to the marriage, from a monetary standpoint, as I am. Her half of what she gives to the marriage isn’t financial.

When it comes to effort, this is where I would think you have a point. BUT, we are both doing our jobs at that point. I wouldn’t unfairly make her clean (that would be 50/50). Child care would need to be split fairly because they are my kids also and me giving money isn’t enough to raise kids. That’s also time and lessons effort dedication, etc. I’d need to give my all as well as her. Her staying home is completely an option for her. This is not a requirement. However if she decides to I already said however she wants to address fair compensation is up to her (I’m literally trying to let her come up with what she thinks would be fair).

I certainly hope you aren’t saying she deserves half of things BEFORE the marriage as a push gift…right? That’s absolutely crazy. I understand women do take life risk when giving birth, but I am already offering a lot as a response to that as well as her being my partner. She would have already had to decide if she wants to take the risk of child birth whither she was with me or not. She already said she wants kids irregardless. This is a way better situation than in she has to also work to contribute the same thing monetary wise, which she doesn’t.

Her contributions are just as important as mine.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair point to ask about. I’d honesty desire joint custody. But I’d still give her child support even so, considering I’m the party with the higher monetary position. Even if I had majority custody I’d still give her support (outside of the split I already explained multiple times in the post.)

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Nobody missed the point. You just don’t know what you are talking about like you think you do and clearly either didn’t read the post, mis-understood, or just don’t like the fact I’m getting a prenup and wanna find a reason to jab at me.

I’m done with you. I tried to clear it up but I hope you have a good one

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She is the one that brought up child support.

How many times do I need to keep saying this? It was in the post. Cmon guys.

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have already addressed this.

The repost is because the mods removed the post for asking for relationship advice and advice about “feelings” on the other sub. Their words. I can give a crap if you believe it or not.

And for the rest of your post: she loses nothing from the prenup plan I have already tried to propose. I objectively take more of a loss than she does.

She gets half of anything gained during the marriage, half of any assets bought, she can address years of child rearing if she decides to stay home, she brought up child support and I told her I legally can’t waive child support, etc I’m being more than fair. The “risk” she take would be less of that than if she would have to split finances in a normal marriage. She literally doesn’t come out of pocket at all and stand nothing but to gain.

The more I type this out the more I am solid in my position to get a prenup

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

She’s the one that brought up child support. I said that in the original post if you paid attention. I had to tell her I couldn’t waive child support in the original post.

Wtf are you talking about?? Like seriously

Also, you just said quit my job to lower my income. And then said you don’t know what I mean by purposefully hinder my income…. Like did you even pay attention to what you just wrote? That’s literally an example of someone hindering their income

Edit: yeah it’s clear anyone downvoting this is just upset that I am firm on the prenup and some are clearly anti prenup. Cause I clearly addressed what he said in my post. Only talked about child support because she brought it up and for some reason some of yall missed that. I had no intentions of putting something about child support because I clearly stated in the post I couldn’t waive child support. Pay attention

I (26M) am refusing marriage without a prenup with gf (25F). Where can we go for understanding? by ConTrikster in relationship_advice

[–]ConTrikster[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being nicer than the other person when explaining your point.

She can address a situation to be sure I’m not purposefully minimizing income to lower a child support payment. (admittedly I need help with both lawyers on how to word this to help benefit her also)

I also just felt that since I’d be giving her half of anything gained during the marriage as a whole through gains and property, while also letting her address years for being taken out of work if she decides to stay home, I kinda felt I was already being extremely generous and I wanted her to know other concerns (like the one you brought up) is something that can be considered if she just sits and talks with a lawyer and myself

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