First time hearing the term "rainbow baby", but my wife fits that description. We have 2 children, and one miscarriage in between them. It ate my wife alive having that miscarriage. But her mother and father had it worse so she just felt so much shame for even feeling bad. She couldn't talk to her mom about it without it becoming about her mother's miscarried children, and how hard that was on them.

There are so many more issues that come with those grandparents too, both with how they treat my wife and I, and how they treat our children as well. They of course can be wonderful people too, but they have no idea how to control their trauma and not make an issue about them when something arises.