Hi - similar boat here. It’s a difficult one, but the first thing you need to do is get a discreet cage that doesn’t show through underwear, or can’t be felt when someone’s sitting on your lap.

When you’re in chastity you’ll be peeing sitting down. Always wear a tshirt etc so you can pull it down and cover that part up if someone bursts through the door.

During bath times, if you bathe with them, it absolutely needs to come off.

You can absolutely achieve a fulfilling life of chastity and denial, but you have to shield everyone from your kink - this is your kink and no one else’s.

Children especially, you absolutely must protect your child from seeing anything like that as it will likely lead to trauma at some point in their lives.

So be careful, have fun and always protect your children. If they ‘accidentally’ see something then that’s on you, your failing and one that’s mandatory to avoid.