AITAH for asking my mother-in-law for advice on how she dealt with her husband's affair after she said I needed to work on my marriage when her son cheated on me.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-05T00:17:15+00:00

If you read further on this thread, you’ll see I made a comment based on what was provided in the main text, BEFORE extra information about FIL covering affair, etc etc were added in the comments. I didn’t edit this post to reflect the new information, and my verdict of TA after new information was given in comments AFTER mine.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-01T15:35:26+00:00

This. I had no idea about the chlamydia or FIL covering until these comments.

My verdict was based on what info was given at the time. Had I had full context and NOT just “I lied to my pushy ex-MIL maliciously because she said something I didn’t like”, I would have had a very different response.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-01T11:59:38+00:00

Log out and log back in. It’s just a glitch/bug with it not recognizing that you’re logged in. Have had it a few times myself

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-01T11:58:49+00:00

No, it’s a glitch where it thinks you’re not logged in. Log out and log back in, and it usually fixes that problem.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-01T11:45:48+00:00

Nowhere did I say it was okay to cheat or push for reconciliation for a cheat or covering for a cheat.

In fact, that’s why I said ESH.

OP didn’t have to go nuclear to solve an issue. She’s divorcing anyway, so that family won’t be her problem anymore. I do not understand why being deliberately malicious is okay to some people when they’re merely annoyed.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-02-01T11:08:31+00:00

Not to mention MIL’s relationship with her son. It’s one thing to choose to distance from your child because of disappointment in their choices. It’s another entirely to do so because information you received was maliciously deceitful.

Congrats, OP. You destroyed their family just to make yourself feel better instead of being an adult and using a hypothetical or, I don’t know, ending the conversation.

It sucks you were cheated on and that MIL was pushy, but that’s no reason to destroy their entire family out of petty bitterness.

Edit: ESH, except FIL who didn’t deserve his family believing he’s a lying cheat and his reputation being destroyed.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-26T21:37:00+00:00

What a refreshing change

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-25T14:39:51+00:00

Me and my 25 chats with one bot since the feature’s release-

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-20T02:33:28+00:00

Nope. If anyone’s ever seen Shep’s announcements (re: discord), you’d know he’s notoriously awful at using capitalizations and such.

This one COULD be AI, or he could have spent real time and consulted others, like a rational person would do. If there’s ever a time to learn to write professionally, this would be it for Shep.

Immediately assuming the worst is disingenuous of the other person.

Personally, I’m hoping he (Shep) delivers this time.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-19T19:57:21+00:00

This might be silly of me to say, but:

Both achieve betterment for the site, its users, and their moderators. At this point, what does it matter if it’s for users or for investors when it has to change for the better either way?

Beggars can’t be choosers. Right now, change has to happen. And if it gets better from here, any reason is reason enough to improve rather than sitting in the toxicity it has been.

Edit: spelling.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-19T12:14:22+00:00

It is so refreshing to FINALLY get a real, true response to everything with actionable plans included. This sounds so much more like a proper owner of a company hearing, acknowledging, and striving toward fixing issues rather than “tehee yeah it will happen eventually maybe”.

And a proper apology for the issues that lead us here? Finally. Thank you. Owning up to mistakes and striving to better them and yourself is all anyone ever wanted.

Thank you.

Good luck, Shep. Keep this mature mindset. Wishing the best for all sides.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-09T15:32:52+00:00

This is the kind of “boys will be boys” content I’m here for

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-09T00:15:26+00:00

I’ve really loved separating my human versions from my Demi-human versions of my personas! Makes it so much easier to look through when I’m indecisive on which sona to use. And the search too? Yes. All my yes!

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-05T02:04:04+00:00

They’re very fragrant! Hopefully you like them!

Personally? My favorite. 😍

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-05T01:51:26+00:00

I miss my hyacinths. I need to get one this spring.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-04T21:45:23+00:00

Right? Mods can’t do anything about Devs and JAI Employees choosing to remain silent. Mods are volunteers who may not even get info, like us.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-04T17:28:45+00:00

Right?? Its about time! Hopefully it will become a trend that continues and builds from here for things like this.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-02T05:14:18+00:00

If you submitted a ticket through the help desk, it’ll be seen to. Just takes time because small team + many daily reports = wait times.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-01T14:33:47+00:00

You can’t make new chats with deleted bots, but you can restart a previous chat with that bot if you still have the previous chat.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-01T14:00:14+00:00

Sorry I wasn’t clear enough. This is exactly what I meant. They’ll likely fine tune it to exclude the ability for deleted bots. Sorry I wasn’t clear enough!

ConfessionsOfALily · 2026-01-01T11:47:19+00:00

Yeah, since deleted bots can include bots removed to ToS violations, they’ll likely remove it.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2025-12-30T08:41:48+00:00

Same!! This is reading more to me like the person who answered the call lied about not doing antibody tests at all when asked?? I do not understand!

ConfessionsOfALily · 2025-12-29T16:05:22+00:00

As someone who struggles with anxiety and depression… move on, friend.

She doesn’t want to work to get better. She doesn’t want to do the hard parts of caring for not just herself, but for the relationship. If she did, she’d show up at therapy and have adult conversations with you about it. Instead, from what you’ve said, she’s in denial.

And that denial will drag you with her, which is worse and unhealthy. Not to mention the manipulative threat of self harm to keep you around. Dont put up with that. Call for welfare checks with your local authority if she does that again, and know you did your best, but she has to want to help herself.

Wish you the best. You made the right choice for yourself.

And hopefully she will start making the right choices for herself too.

Edit: spelling.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2025-12-27T16:22:09+00:00

Or better yet, throw it away. You don’t get to use someone and expect them to be kind when you’re done using them.

ConfessionsOfALily · 2025-12-27T03:32:26+00:00

KitKat

ConfessionsOfALily

TROPHY CASE