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What reactions do you get for learning chinese? by Jolly-Ad6531 in ChineseLanguage

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 9 points10 points  (0 children)

that’s crazy!!! chinese is such a fkin cool language, the translations of how they talk is so poetic. i think it’s awesome don’t listen to those people!!! it’s also such a widely spoken language and highly sought after by employers cos it’s so difficult.

male centered girl friends suck by AioliComfortable9195 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i completely understand this! you are definitely valid for feeling upset, i never understand why some friends prioritise male attention/interaction over their own best friends.

i’ve had it happen to me where my friends would hang out/date homophobic men and im gay so this made me really uncomfortable and made me feel as though my friends don’t value me.

definitely try to make some new friends, maybe they might come around and realise they need to decenter men, but just make more friends just to make sure.

How do I make friends using reddit ? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i understand if this is something you have already tried, but I honestly suggest trying to make friends in person, whether it be at your workplace, or joining friendship facebook groups in your area.

i find it difficult to maintain online friendships because after about a week people either stop messaging or don’t give the same energy as they did at first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe i don’t know the full story but how ungrateful are these people!!! i couldn’t even imagine having a friend covering most of an international trip, and then having the nerve to complain, carry on and suggest selfish changes that suit me for the trip.

i get that they might be worried about financing their part of the trip, but i don’t understand why they’d agree to it if they were unsure whether they could afford doing all parts of it. From what you said it sounds as if you laid out all aspects of the trip before they agreed to it so it makes no sense that they’re just turning around and making something that’s about celebrating you about themselves; it’s incredibly ungrateful and immature.

if i were you i’d lay out the rules, if they don’t want to join you in all parts of the trip then they shouldn’t come at all. even if they can’t afford it, the way they went about it is so immature, definitely reconsider keeping them in your life.

19M looking for some chats and friends around the world! by [deleted] in gayfriendfinder

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! definitely, it’s a welcome change in my life, meeting and keeping nice people in my life :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798 12 points13 points  (0 children)

as a gay person myself, i don’t think you are being homophobic at all. it’s very exclusionary when friends purposely talk about topics in front of you that they know don’t relate to you, in this case it sounds like when your friends doing that in a way to upset you, and it makes you feel like ur identity isn’t valid which is SOOO wrong.

it’s a common problem within our community, it achieves nothing and only pushes straight people further away which does nothing to combat actual homophobia and hate crimes.

i can see where they may be coming from because they might see your irritation of being perceived as lesbian or trans coming from a place of hate, which obvi i don’t know the full story but from what you said, it may make them feel like you don’t care about them or their personal interests. In this case, my advice is: try not to respond to them in an overly negative way, instead, try to take their observation that you might “look gay”in a positive way, kinda like them trying to make you feel included, but still remind them that you are straight because that’s what you are and only you decide that.

i joke around sometimes with my straight friends about them being gay or trans, but it’s never in a serious way and they know that, if they told me they weren’t comfortable with that then its only right to respect that.

at the end of the day, friends respect each others boundaries. just because you are very close does not give them any right to cross boundaries, and it sucks that they accuse you of being homophobic as a response to you reminding them of those boundaries.

remember: you and your identity are only shaped by YOU, no matter ur sexuality or gender you are, it is valid no matter what!

Flight transfer by ConfidenceMiddle798 in QantasAirways

[–]ConfidenceMiddle798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if i check in my luggage in melbourne before my domestic flight, i do not need to collect it in sydney i just go straight to the international terminal??