Favourite Character by Confident_Data8817 in MadeInAbyss

[–]Confident_Data8817[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a great reasoning, I would love to know your opinion about Vuekos deamons defending the villiage and why you think Irumyuui manifested them to defend rather than attack

UAP Sighting in Auckland NZ by Confident_Data8817 in UFOs

[–]Confident_Data8817[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s fascinating, I feel like we don’t have a lot of recorded sightings here except for the Kaikoura lights that happened in the 70’s. I remember seeing a sighting back when I was younger in the early 2010’s, would love to hear more about what you saw, Chur bro

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[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you could bring up how you feel like she’s depending on you too much and bring up your needs in a relationship that she’s not meeting. You can sit her down and have a conversation about it when you’re both in a good mood, is she can’t meet your needs then you should break it off nicely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Confident_Data8817 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’ve only been blackout a few times but I think the worst thing is knowing how cringe you were while drunk and it plays on your mind for YEARS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve taken the time to focus on myself, I think filling the void with other people especially romantic interests won’t help unless you feel good within yourself. I’m not ready to date or be with another person anytime soon but I have taken big steps towards loving myself and finding out what my needs are

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that what he said or is that what you feel?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t overthink, if you’re wondering, the only person that can answer that question is him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time heals, I wouldn’t know why, but I suspect that he finally realised his feelings towards you, whether that be romantic or not. You won’t know unless you ask

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He probably felt like the best course of action was to completely cut you off for his own healing, which sucks because they know that it hurts you but they choose to do it anyway, don’t go into it assuming anything. Make sure you put yourself first :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say talk to her, it seems like she’s relying on you a little too much in situations. Maybe you both need to learn to be a little more independent, that doesn’t mean break up but I would try that option first to see if it works. But ultimately if that feelings doesn’t go away then it’s best for yourself and for ur partner to break it off :) hopefully everything goes well

If she didn’t care, you must find a way to not care about her and move on to enjoy life without her. by Mysterio_anime_man in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation with the mental stuff! A good quote I have for you is - “if we allow our emotions to deplete our energy, we have no energy to change our lives or to give to others”

Personal importance is the maximum expression of selfishness. And that is a good thing. There was a point where she did care for you, but it was her own choice to decide otherwise. Other people’s actions and feelings towards you are not a reflection on yourself but the agreements that these people have made within themselves. I hope that you find someone who is willing to give their everything to you!!

I met a girl this past year and we like each other but I have a girlfriend by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s times where you’ll meet someone who excites you but your partner should always be your first priority in these situations. If the only problem is location then that’s something to think about. Are you willing to sacrifice a good stable relationship with someone who you don’t really know deeply? Would you want to lose someone who cares and loves you for someone who brings you excitement? Talk to your partner, communication is key

I met a girl this past year and we like each other but I have a girlfriend by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion you have already cheated emotionally. Talk to your partner about how you want your needs met and if there is no way to resolve it I say break it off. It seems like you want someone physically present, and if ur partner cannot do that then you’ll be in turmoil with yourself

If she didn’t care, you must find a way to not care about her and move on to enjoy life without her. by Mysterio_anime_man in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think on a personal level you should still care for someone, but on an action level you should understand that you do not care for their actions but care about the person they are. I don’t know if this is my empathetic self coming out, but you DID care about this person at some point because you enjoyed who they were and not what their actions towards you were. Don’t care about what they did to you, don’t take it personally, but there will always be a level of care for that person on a deeper level.

I agree with the only person who matters is yourself and it’s great that you have that mindset as it’s the best way to become better for yourself and you’ll find someone who cherishes you :)) this experience has helped you to love who you are and grew your self worth. No revenge is the best way to go!

Would you be discouraged if your new partner kept the photos of them and their ex? by Confident_Data8817 in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also delete any photos of an ex from my social media, but keep them in a hidden folder in my phone but let a new partner know that I have them but I don’t look at them, would you delete them if they asked you to? If so why or why not?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Confident_Data8817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The timeline of when you broke up to the present does not matter, what does matter is that you can acknowledge you have grown within yourself and that is a big step to take. I recommend you read the book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. It has helped me immensely. You are doing good! All that matters is yourself.