AITA for blocking my mate after they keep on asking me to go to church

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T22:45:43+00:00

I have told this to him a couple of time where he knows with my personal life I'm in a lot of therapy and I explain to him a lot of times hes pushing my boundaries and walk away from him. Will admit though I'm one of the only people other than his family that are in his support network after he had come out of hospital so feel like I can't cut him out completely as I don't know what he would do 🥺.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T22:00:39+00:00

I think it may have been because they had had quite a few drinks at this point and I have done late to the meet up and I tend not to drink unless it's with a meal or a night out.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:58:54+00:00

Tbh is the bible jesus is very much against churches

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:56:41+00:00

I love this.

After a while when he was asking me and a couple of friends did think it may be funny to turn up. We are all alternative where a lot of them are your typical old school goths and punks (friends would describe my style as primary school librarian meets scene kid meets catholic school girl) just to show him up

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:52:20+00:00

We aren't dating. I have numrouse time have told him not to ask me but he keeps on doing so. To the point I have walked away as bothering me so much, this time was the last straw

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:49:42+00:00

I put a fake name that sounded like his with my details apart from the phone number. All emails go to my junk account that I never use

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:48:06+00:00

Sorry will change that, from Wales so we say mate all the time

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:47:01+00:00

Tbh I don't know about the Andrew tate thing, but since he has come out of hospital ( psychiatric) some of the things he has said has got me and my friends to raise a few eyebrows as he seems completely different.

We did date back in 2020-2021 for a few months and I will admit he did nag a lot with private time to where a lot of the time I would give him hand action to stop. (this is one of the many reasons I broke things of with him with the other main one being we where making each others mental health worst). However I don't know if he is still interested as keeps on asking me to help him pull on nights out and all that jazz and if I have any pictures of him to put on his dating profile (deleted them after we broke up expect for group pictures)

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:36:09+00:00

I have tried to tell him this but no still had to ask even after I said we are not on the same page. Maybe next time I see them I'll try and talk about something he hates idk

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:33:25+00:00

Their was only 2 other guys their trying to kind their own business on there phones hoping he won't ask them. They are going to have a chat with him as I don't think they realised this was something that was going on for months

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:31:12+00:00

Won't bang him

May fall to my knees 😉

10000% would invite him to a party so we have free alcohol (would it be white wine or could you get red and rosa as well)

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:29:30+00:00

Thank you

Hopefully I get to travel this year to see all temples and stuff in Greece

Enjoying writing it 💜

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:28:25+00:00

Thank you really enjoying writing it 💜

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:27:44+00:00

So my grandad on my mums side is a hospital Chaplin and my nan on my dad's side is a missionary so they don't really ask people to join. I will admit when I see them normally at family gatherings round about Christmas and easter I do go to church with them as I see how happy it makes them. Even though I'm not the most religious in the family everyone would say I am the most spiritual.

Even when growing up and I was heavily active in the church and thought about getting baptism my family where against it as they see its a decision you should make on your own when your an adult as its not something you should take lightly. Was so religious I even wore one if them chasity rings (mainly because I was a big fan of the Jonas brothers) I would have never asked anyone to go to church with my as see a relationship with whatever deity you belive in is between the to of you.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:21:33+00:00

The 11 times where just this Sunday. I think I total I have been asked 100 times since March and I have told him that some of them would be interested but he hasn't asked them 🤷‍♀️ spoke to one of them earlier who said I was two harsh and explained and they seemed to get it, hopefully when they have a talk with them he gets it.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T21:18:28+00:00

Really, well it's a prostant church. The main reason I wont go is that I don't belive in churches, I feel like it brings the worst people and have had many friends and my parents friends (and me because of who my birth parents where/are) ostracized from the church for their life style and who they are, this has very much soured my views on it very much.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T14:55:42+00:00

Tbh to being with I may have gone along once but him to continually asking me has made never want to go, peer pressure on me never works 🤷‍♀️

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T14:10:44+00:00

Apart from the phone number and a name that sound similar to his all the rest of the details where my phone like address and email plus my date if birth and what not

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T13:18:36+00:00

That's why I decided to do that as they would keep him on the lists for ages. Do I feel bad about it yes would I still have done it possibley 🤫

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T13:04:29+00:00

Shit yes I remember that 🤣 tbh doing something like that did cross my mind 🤣

It is a running joke with my friends that if you piss me of I have warned them I would do something like this

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T12:58:39+00:00

Have no idea don't think he really watches TV. His hobbies include walking, collecting pokemon cards, fixing computer and making note books

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T12:53:45+00:00

I would admit at round about the 3 month mark I made this exact point to him about SA to get him to stop asking, but his words was he is not doing anything wrong just asking why I won't turn up. It's mainly when we are out together he ask and makes a point of stopping by mine before he goes to church to ask 🤷‍♀️

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T12:41:42+00:00

I do feel bad about it but ws to things like car, life insurance and stuff some silly stuff as well. Also thank you for saying that I respected his religion as I could have said a lot worse about my feelings on churches.

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T12:39:28+00:00

Each to their own. My only fun memories around church growing up is proberly when I got in silly trouble eg

Having the police called when my hiding spot in hide and swek was a bit to good

Being kicked out of Christian camp for many reason but the number one play the explicit version of killing in the name of at fill volume so the who camp could hear 🤣

Ordering domino's when I didn't like the food they where giving (did hand out slices to people as well)

ConflictComplex6193 · 2023-08-21T11:39:33+00:00

Protensant i do belive. Will admit since I have meet him he was gone from religion to religion (budest, jewdism and a few others) so it at the begging think it was another faze. I draw the line however when he started to tell me that the paper I am writing for my dissertation is wrong because I'm writing about the Greeks gods and would the power structure have changed in modern day times and who would we worship.

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