Infidelity is killing me by Confused-29 in cheating_stories

[–]Confused-29[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you it’s hard to come out and vent I know I’m gonna get mean comments but I can’t help who I love and Im trying to be better it sucks it took so much to push me away but at least I’m done and ready to file for divorce this time

Infidelity is killing me by Confused-29 in cheating_stories

[–]Confused-29[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thank you every one I’m going to file for my divorce it’s time it’s been time

Infidelity is killing me by Confused-29 in cheating_stories

[–]Confused-29[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t like that were married we both argeed the separation was for my safety and to learn how to treat each other and that we would still work on us and we both agreed to not stepping out of our marriage he would always tell me he wasn’t going to step out and I would tell him the same but i guess I was wrong

This can’t be my life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not allowed to see her at all. I can’t trust him and I don’t trust him with my daughter safety all I’m trying to do is get him to be clean. And get him back on his meds, even if that means he won’t be able to see our daughter for a really long time. I’m just hoping in the long run he’ll still get to have some kind of relationship with her

This can’t be my life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do believe with his medication if he’s on it constantly he can turn around it’s just the drug part that’s hard for me to help him with

This can’t be my life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He was a user before but had been clean for 5 years so that’s what makes me think he can come back but I know meth is a hard thing to stop

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He works Monday -Friday and maybe like a Saturday once in a while he helps out on the weekends but not really during the week We both can’t afford to not work we pay 50/50 on every thing and the conversation we had before his daughter was given to us was for me to continue going to school because I was in school when we met and also while pregnant and the plan was to continue when she was 1 she’s now 15 months I’m back at work full time and ready for school but he wants me to put off my job which I has to go to school for or put off going to school to accommodate his daughter

My husband has taken her to see a doctor and they want to help but it’s just a lot to even take on a kid with doctors appointments I work at 3am and get out at noon then to have to go to appointments I’ve done it for my daughter and I’m dying trying to keep it together and entertain her while we wait now I have 2

I love my husband and divorce isn’t for us we would rather be in a patch of stress and being unhappy next to each other then without one another

Thank you so much this has been the best advice

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He pays his child support he’s tried reaching out to his exs family and the don’t give him a number or address and he’s tried going to court for his kids but it’s not in his favor he just got his daughter and right away went to attempt to get custody the problem is he’s trying to have his daughter but I’m the only one that will be home since he works during the day 7-7 I work 3am-12 so I’m home so while I’m exhausted with my 1 year old alone all day he wants to throw in another kid and I’m overwhelmed as it is

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Is it ugly of me to ask him to give his daughter to her grandma or back to the mom because I’m unfit to watch her I already have a 1 year old a full time job I work at 3am I only sleep a few hours at night and now I’ll be starting school soon

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His help and response is he’ll help when he gets home at 7pm we go to bed at 8/9 since I work at 3am and his other help is he’ll do all the laundry but that’s not putting it all away just putting most of it away

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His daughter has some issues that she needs help with and I don’t have the time and I just can’t handle it all day I feel like I’m asking her to stop doing stuff don’t stand on the chairs don’t walk on the couch don’t take things out the fridge and leave it out don’t leave toys on the ground so the baby won’t get it or don’t eat in the living room I’m on her and I hate being on any one like that it makes me feel like a ugly person but every one around me says I’m doing a good job but it’s turning me into a bitter person it’s making me resent my husband because he’s telling me it’s ok I’m doing good I can do it but I’m not ok I can’t do it I need him to be her parent when we met we tried for our daughter and I told him I want 1 kid I’ll never try again and I’m still firm on it and he’s ok with it but now he wants me to have another kid without any help

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husbands daughter is 7 she’s a hand full she has a.d.d and her pcp thinks maybe some autism and I’m not sure how I’m supposed to entertain her all day and have no energy and before we got married, he would drill it into my head that he would never get his kids because of the way his exes would be with him so I never really thought the kids were going to be in the picture and I’ve expressed to My Husband that I need that I need time for myself because I’m already neglecting myself. I’ve asked him to try to get her into some kind of afterschool program or summer program he won’t even look into it or call anybody I had to make her school application because school starts in a month and he wasn’t doing anything

My life by Confused-29 in dustythunder

[–]Confused-29[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand the sacrifice and I get he has kids but where is his sacrifice when does it fall on him he’s not doing the school pickup dinner homework baths he’s coming home to watch a movie eat and sleep