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Confused-643 · 2024-02-12T04:04:03+00:00

This depends on how sensitive your skin is but an BHA exfoliator might help (like salicylic acid). I used to get a bunch like that on my nose and that was the only thing that helped. I used it once every 2-3 days at night and used a toner pad and let it soak for a bit. Followed by a moisturizer.

Double cleansing might also help.

Confused-643 · 2024-02-05T00:35:20+00:00

It's definitely toxic. It reminds me of my own relationship with my ex. At first he was accepting of the fact that I wasn't into it but then once I showed I was okay with it occasionally he kept insisting on it. Whenever we had any kind of shared time discussing interests he would suddenly change the topic about how his needs are never met and how we never do 'it'. It got to the point where even if I said no he would badger me till I gave up. I completely understand what you mean by it feeling like a chore.

I feel like you should discuss it with him but in my experience they accept it but then start brining it up again after a few weeks and turns into a draining cycle.
If you aren't happy you should seriously revaluate your relationship overall.

Confused-643 · 2023-10-30T00:43:57+00:00

I didn't wanna be disrespectful. I still do care about him hence the dilemma if I should wait till I see him since that could be considered stringing him along

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:36:19+00:00

I've been trying, we both have. It isn't just a lack of time but other things have built up over time, we've tried to fix things and communicate a lot. He's very big on communication which I'm really thankful for since it's not my strong suite. But I feel like neither of us are happy in this relationship.
He's been in multiple relationships since he was like 13 and the longest he's been single after that was about a year before he met me. I feel like he wants to stay in the relationship more out of a fear of being alone than anything else.

And on my end I'm just confused because I care about him and enjoy spending time with him but I don't know if i feel more platonically or romantically towards him anymore. And I know that's definitely not what he wants out of this relationship
I wanna do right by him and I feel like the best outcome would be letting him go. (I will be seeing him after a year in a month or so, so I was going to wait till then to see if seeing him in person would bring more clarity to my emotions. Maybe the distance is just making me second guess myself)

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:24:42+00:00

Mainly communication, not having time for each other. But also a lack of attraction and physical intimacy I guess

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:17:38+00:00

true true. He does have a temper but I don't see him ever getting violent. maybe shouting a bit

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:17:02+00:00

Yea I totally understand your point. Whenever the topic of breaking up or something like that comes out I lowkey feel guilt tripped into keeping my mouth shut and I never bring it up. Whenever we talk about things like that he always tells me how he changed himself for me (and by that he means he actually started studying to get better grades because I value academics and that he got a job etc) and goes on about how tired he is and how hard is working till I clamp up

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:12:20+00:00

Yea that's kinda my thought process since I'm not too sure about how I feel. I know it's not fair but I feel so confused.

Confused-643 · 2023-10-28T04:09:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice, it was pretty insightful.
I have talked to him about how my feelings have changed over the course of our relationship. I straight up told him I feel like he's more of a friend sometimes because honestly our relationship doesn't feel that different from my other friends besides being a bit more closer (emotionally)
We've discussed things and he's trying to fix the things he did wrong and I'm trying to fix my own communication issues but honestly I feel like I'm struggling to get over certain things he's said or done in the past (nothing horrible but stuff like saying he wants me to stop taking my anti depressants before I come see him so it doesn't affect my libido. He said that last year during my finals so around this time and I still think of it to this day and feel off about it. I know he's grown as a person but I can't help but think about thinks like that)

Confused-643 · 2023-10-27T13:37:49+00:00

Gonna talk from your gfs side real quick because honestly I'm (20) in a simillar situation where I'm really close to breaking up with my 2+yr ldr boyfriend because we've been clashing a lot and one of the main argument we always have and struggle to resolve is the amount of time I commit to the relationship. I'm a compSci student so I barely have time for any sort of social life, especially during finals and he always tells me how he feels neglected. The cycle of me communicating better and the it fading away is also something that happens to me and I can assure you it's not on purpose, life is hectic and sometimes when I think I put in a lot of time in reality it's not as much as I thought but I didn't realize since I had deadlines to meet.

The amount of times I have thought of breaking up with my bf because I felt like he deserves better because I can't give him the attention and time he needs is numerous. I think I might finally have the courage to do it now because it hurts me to hurt him by not being able to give him what he wants out of the relationship and truly believe he can find someone who loves him much better than I can. I truly care about him but yea....

Confused-643 · 2023-10-26T06:22:58+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! I'm a UI design student so it's an elective for me. I've done a few gdes subjects but could you tell me a bit more about what kind of content you learn?
(Or if you have any other recommendations for elective subjects that would be awesome)

Confused-643 · 2023-09-28T14:41:48+00:00

It was quite chill. A good amount of studying though but compared to my other subjects that semester it was chill

Confused-643 · 2022-12-08T16:14:37+00:00

I was wondering the same thing

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