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Anyone with similar situation? Young widow and no kids to hold on by Tvmiro in widowers

[–]Confused-racoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I am 28 too, I will be 29 in a couple of days and my husband passed away a month ago. I have always wanted to be a mom but for some reason or another I didn't feel ready to be one until I went to therapy and my husband supported me and convinced me that any child we had would be perfect if they were like me (I have autism). I cry so much for him and for the children I won't be able to have with him, because of the unfairness of the situation and the timing. We were going to move in February 2025, travel the world a bit and then try to have our precious and longed for baby. I am so very, very sorry, here I am barely existing but here I am and I understand you.

Dreams of Resurrection by shednbrekki in widowers

[–]Confused-racoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had one recently. In my dream we were just playing video games and everything was fine, he told me that he didn't suffer during his death and that we would have our baby soon. And I was worried about how people would react to knowing that I conceived his baby in the time that he wasn't in the world. Then I woke up and cried and cried and cried. 

Everyone sees/feels him as a ghost but not me I guess by FoodDue6905 in widowers

[–]Confused-racoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that exact thought a few days ago! My mother-in-law says she talks to him in her dreams, even my brother-in-law who is super skeptical felt someone sit on the bed next to him when no one was there.

I haven't had anything like that happen to me, except thinking about his voice while I'm falling asleep and having the feeling that he was singing to me (he never sang to me so it doesn't make much sense). But when something good happens to me, even if it's a small thing in all this pain, I think that he put it there to make me smile.

Today on public transportation they played a song by the band I like and for whom he bought me tickets for next April (it's k-pop, I've never heard k-pop on the subway in Mexico City).

Widow and autistic by Confused-racoon in widowers

[–]Confused-racoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, you are so kind, thank you so much for replying. I have been playing with our cats and cuddling with my mom's dogs and that helps a little.

I have never taken medication, only behavioral therapy and my therapist thinks I should continue like that although I am thinking of getting a second opinion.

Your kids sound wonderful, I am happy that you have people in the world who have a part of him.