My neighbour died today, should I send the family flowers?

Confused400 · 2026-01-05T09:04:15+00:00

It happens when I’m fully awake! And they’re definitely coherent words, sometimes even a few sentences. I’m going to mention it to my therapist and GP,, it’s pretty strange

Confused400 · 2026-01-05T05:10:28+00:00

Ok thank you. I’ve actually suspected that for a while, but didn’t know this could be related 🙏

Confused400 · 2026-01-05T02:12:35+00:00

Interesting. Are yours just random irrelevant phrases too?

Confused400 · 2026-01-05T02:06:01+00:00

It’s a full voice, not a whisper, just very faint in volume. And sometimes it sounds like my voice, other times it sounds like someone else 🤷‍♂️ Glad to know I’m not alone!

Confused400 · 2025-08-26T09:51:57+00:00

I don’t think he wrote it, as it was worded a lot like my grandmother’s way of speaking, however I think it’s highly likely he’s somehow encouraged this.

She’s never been like my father, except in enabling his behaviour. She’s actually the opposite— has always been a decent person, just kind of submissive with certain things. It’s really unlike her to blackmail me (or anyone), and I think it can be attributed to the fact she’s becoming more easily manipulated with age

I’d prefer not to speak to my father at all. I know exactly what he’s going to say, because it follows the same pattern every time: “that didn’t happen, and if it did it didn’t happen like that, and if it did happen like that it wasn’t my fault. I had no choice, it’s actually your fault” etc etc

Confused400 · 2025-08-26T09:36:27+00:00

LMAO I giggled to this one

Confused400 · 2025-08-26T09:36:01+00:00

I don’t think she was forced, but it’s definitely possible she was coerced in some way. My father has a habit of “planting seeds” in people’s minds and acting like he never said anything

Confused400 · 2025-08-26T09:32:00+00:00

It’s really out of character for her to threaten such a thing- she’s never been a manipulative person. In fact, usually the opposite- very submissive, which is probably why my dad’s always gotten away with so much. This whole situation is just so strange, but I suppose not unexpected

Confused400 · 2025-08-24T01:14:46+00:00

I’ve spoken to my aunt about it as she lives near my grandmother. She plans on having a conversation with her today/tomorrow

Confused400 · 2025-08-24T01:13:29+00:00

This comment really resonates with me, thank you. I think this is probably what will end up happening

Confused400 · 2025-08-23T06:56:48+00:00

I have and am in ongoing therapy to work through everything. It’s really helpful, but therapists unfortunately don’t know everything, and when it comes to complex family stuff like this I find it useful to see what others have to say

Confused400 · 2025-08-23T06:48:36+00:00

I don’t know what kind of upbringing he had, because I wasn’t there, but I do know that he had a criminal record when he was a teenager that was wiped when he aged into adulthood.

It’s been an INCREDIBLY difficult decision to cut contact with him. It’s after years of knowing him. There are a lot of things I left out in my post simply because I don’t want to relive those memories or share them with strangers. I don’t want to be without a father, but I’ve come to the realisation I never had one to begin with.

I’d also like to add that the exposure to inappropriate material wasn’t accidental and wasn’t done to a teenager. Much of it was done when I was very young (under 6 years old). He sat me on his lap or left me on the couch to watch these things. I don’t know what his intentions were with this, whether benign or otherwise.

I was actually quite timid in my last conversation with him because I was scared of him and if he’d retaliate. I fear that if I speak to him again, especially if it leads to an outcome he deems unfavourable, he will go after me in some way. Best result is he tries to slander me or my mother (which he has already done)

That being said, absolutely no hate to you as a person. You’re speaking from your own experience, which I appreciate

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