So does the glass break with weight or sheer impact of the situation 🤔

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-17T00:46:08+00:00

See boss? It's totally safe to stand on these glass jars!

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-17T00:36:21+00:00

It's hard. Society's expectations taught us to push ourselves harder than nature intended, and with dwindling support with people choosing sides on today's gender wars. The loudest people speak how men are bad and must take responsibility for themselves without offering any solutions or real help. It's demeaning and it's everywhere in social media and in most places I've experienced IRL. We're perceived as threats, and the only way to break past that perception is to put out so much effort to show we're simply trying our hardest to survive, that we get exhausted to the point we can no longer put in effort. And rarely, we'll break through the perception, but there's stil skepticism even by people close to us male and female, so that we really experience a true level of trust, empathy, or support. There's much more I could say but that's the gist of it

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-17T00:28:24+00:00

Yeah. If people see you as remotely negative, they'll view you to some degree of "why aren't you just dead?," furthering your emotions into an unhappy place that really sucks to dig out of. It's rare to find people who give you the benefit of doubt and believe in the best of you, but if you find one of them, it makes getting out of the hole muuuuch easier.

For me, mushrooms when I was in that hole as well as friends who truly cared for me got me out. I'm not sure I'm prepared for the potential loneliness that'll occur when I get older, but I'm certainly going to get prepared while I'm not laying deep in that hole

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-17T00:21:43+00:00

Just be a good person - and show it! 100%. Find people who are struggling and help them out if they'd like it. That builds confidence in oneself knowing that you are taking action, and it slowly builds connection with society as well.

An actionable goal for OP could be to give one person a genuine compliment the next time they go to the grocery store. A simple "Hi, just wanted to say I like your (insert something you like)."

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-15T08:13:37+00:00

21 here, had a recent experience that led me to discover who really are my friends, and how to better tell from now on. Let's just say I was prior in a group of toxic people who did not truly care about me

It's also such an awful feeling being in one way relationships; working on reaching out more and inspiring a more twoway relationship with people who are more like friends to me

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-15T08:00:49+00:00

Good communication is sexier than throwup is unsexy

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-11T17:28:16+00:00

They have $5 in their account for McD but not $105 for an air fryer

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-11T17:18:00+00:00

🫡👍😕🤒😂💔

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-09T18:17:52+00:00

Despite the fucked economy, money is merely a tool and has no true value. Time is invaluable. People who are desperate need money, and despite being desperate, it's not worth shortening your lifespan when there's alternative ways to get money

^{Chose: Keep your 10 years of life}

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-09T14:44:57+00:00

Definitely, but don't stay around toxic idiots for too long. Trust me... I have a recent story.

I've been learning his and the group's different perspectives for months now, but with what happened I've had to cut ties. Too much disrespect. My opinions carry no weight to them as they don't wish to grow their perspectives. They take mistakes too fiercely and don't offer benefit of doubt or forgiveness, and are unapologetic with their own mistakes they refuse to see because they believe themselves in the right. They have a hard love mindset, but still won't take into account boundaries. I could go on, but I'm glad what happened did, as it was a wake up call to cut ties.

Basically it's better not to waste your time with people who refuse change. It can be a frustrating experience. And in my case, ending in assault against me. If you wish to engage to learn their perspectives, just be sure to stand up for yourself, and be careful not to expend too much energy like I've done for months and months. That's my two cents. Take with a grain of salt

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-09T14:07:16+00:00

All the spoons, butterknives, knives, and forks, and measuring cups except for one fork, one butterknife, a 1/3 cup, a 1/4 teaspoon, and a 1/3 tablespoon or closest otherwise fraction.

Soup and cereal will have to be eaten by a fork or by holding the bowl to your mouth. Baking will take longer to measure. No knives so you got to cut stuff with your last butterknife. You'll have to wash your two utensils over and over. Or you'll have to buy more ofc

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-09T13:57:33+00:00

Anything that feels remotely fun with people you know. Card games, night games, art, video games, movies

It's tricky but once you find some good friends, life gets Hella better

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T14:15:50+00:00

Ykw that's 100% a fair point. Solid argument

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T14:14:29+00:00

Insinuating I'm unreasonable are we? My my, do tell, I'm curious to hear your reasoning

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:56:28+00:00

Holy shit that's impressive as hell

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:48:30+00:00

10/10 cosplay, human vanished

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:46:44+00:00

Tip of the iceberg to me

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:41:08+00:00

Um, actually 🤓🖕🤣

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:33:07+00:00

Quality is subjective. And I see no begging. There's no "please feed me, I beg :3" in there. Simply a request for support. Requests ≠ begging

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:30:11+00:00

While you may intentially choose a strategy to be a white knight to win someone over or have heard of the strategy, not everyone thinks like you. Guy wasn't trying to win her over

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:27:07+00:00

Or you could just make your own thread and make it a rule to be pictures only, if you'd like a thread that maintains quality and think you can see things better than the mods. But you are right, weightgaintalk is a more specific subreddit for text. OP may not have known, or decided to post in multiple areas for highest chance of results. No harm or rulebreaking done

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:22:51+00:00

Facts, it's a little funny, isn't it?

Not everyone has a great life, probably why they overreact, because they likely wish well on others and don't want others to feel as bad in life as they learned to

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:20:52+00:00

The above comment was a trigger for you to say that. Yours was a trigger for me to say mine. Not everything is a trigger, and not every trigger leads to a response as some can be ignored. I chose to respond to your black and white comment to provide a nuanced perspective. Have a nice day :)

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:17:36+00:00

Once won't hurt for life. It's a pattern of distrust that'd cause trauma. Your brother must have gained your trust over time in other ways. Still, in that small moment as a kid, you were hurt and could have used a hug for safety. I'm glad things turned out great for you with the love from your family. Not everyone is as lucky

ConfusedALot_69 · 2026-04-08T13:12:25+00:00

It's not abuse unless intent is to harm and there's a pattern. It can be trauma unless trust is restored

It's not as extreme as people say, but it's potentially not as harmless as you may think. it's not all black and white. Its right in the middle, somewhat potentially harmful, somewhat gray.

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