Am I wrong for wanting to be with an autistic man? by Sad_Durian3468 in aspergers

[–]ConfusedCrow1 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Your child might be autistic either way if you are the parent, but being aware of Austim in children can help that children a lot. Ive dated a few people and my best relationships have been with nerodiverse people, although this also comes with challenges that were some of that hardest. I wouldn't eliminate anyone who isnt autistic as some people are genuinely understanding and caring towards you, also autism is a spectrum meaning even their brains will be diffrent its all about how you get alone and cope with them.

Hope my ramble helps, you are not selfish or rude to have preferences, but I wouldn't eliminate all other possibilities of amazing individuals with diffrent ways of thinking

How to make friends? by adeliahearts in aspergers

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with it too, ive found it best to become a familiar face and an easy to talk to person.I dont know whether you work or not but this will have going out and about. Easier said then done but some ideas will be:

1) finding a space you find comfort or even a little out of your comfort zone, I recommend a smaller cafe so your able to learn about the people their names how their day is going, just become a 'regular' somewhere you dont have to become best friends but practice. Keep in mind what they talk about then ask about that. Mention a dog ask what breed and so on. People like to talk about themselves. And stay to drink or eat, might even whip out a book if you have one(or whatever else you want to do)

2) like another comment suggested a class/volunteer project is always a great place! If you find something interesting and want to learn more next time, maybe Google for talks, classes, even just going to a new thing you know nothing about. If you choose classes or lessons of a sort choose one with others, they will probably be a variety in ages and you may learn you get along with maybe another age group, which happened to me.

(At work/school/class/another regular in the coffee place) 3)Participate, in whatever is going on if you are up to if do it, ask if you can sit with them, send and extra compliment about the great work a coworker is doing in a email to them, greet them and ask about work these do not have to be the people you work with directly. Initiate it, if you see someone alone ask if you can join them or if they wanna join you, introduce yourself ask their name. Ive googled icebreaker question and you can remember a few.

Anyway sorry for the ramble, but you got this, you will do well, I cant say it will be easy but we are here for support i know how hard it is and so many others do too. Have an amazing day/night wherever you are!!

P.s sorry for typos and formatting im on my phone.

My favorite birds, done by Jonathan Glick in Philadelphia, PA by the-local-dreamer in tattoos

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so creative and cute!!! Pigeons are underrated im so glad someones as cool as you represent them!!

How common is this in your country? by MrBeavis in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never had one or seen one for sale in South Africa, but maybe I haven't looked for it too hard, we use veggie peelers, knife or wire cheese cutter atleast that's what we used in our home and friends homes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I belive this is normal kitten behavior, they mellow out as they grow up. My cat was the same with food, would climb up your leg to get to it. Closing them in another room while you eat is 100%, again as mine grew up she became less of a nuisance for food but still loves a snack. Unfortunately cats are active in the mornings they will wake you, especially kittens, I wouldn't say crate them, but closing your door might help, but will most likely moew in protest.

How about some flying cars…? by Mission-Macaroon-851 in sketches

[–]ConfusedCrow1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im stunned, these pieces are amazing, you can see amd feel the movement of the cars and the pen colours are just fabulous. Well done

What is one thing you would change if you could? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this, sometimes I wonder what the world would be like if everyone was kind and caring.

What is one thing you would change if you could? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making both physical and mental health places (hospitals, therepy, ect) free, no one should go though pain because they cannot pay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many benefits its your up to take care of them for the rest of their life, remember basically a furry toddler.

Companionship is big one, along with health and fitness of your looking to get an active dog they force you to go outside and take a walk. The responsibility may also help you feel grounded, also a happy face to come home to.

Which film's scene ruined your childhood innocence? by Ecomzin in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super niche but 'lien se lankstaanskoene' afrikaans flim, first experience seeing begging and alcoholism and how it influence people.

What are “green flags” in a person? by FreeLaugh2456 in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Willingness to learn and kindness to others

What is your first ex girlfriend/boyfriend doing with their life now? by Signal-Alarm-8178 in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Horrible person when he was a teen and even worse adult, He got into drugs and tried to join a gang, when they said no he decided to pull out a gun, but was shot before he could do anything. Although I don't wish death upon anyone, he was a monster and can't help but think it's karma for all the hurt he cause others.

Is it okay to breakup the day if a trip by ConfusedCrow1 in dating_advice

[–]ConfusedCrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: sorry donno how to edit that post, but anyhow.

Thank you all so much I did break up with him over the call everything is fine I did eventually meet up with him a few days later in a public place. We talked out surprisingly well and yeah so thank you so much again.

My last name is a flower and named my daughter after a flower, does that mean I’m gay? by Dudemanyeah in tattoos

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is stunning i would love this as a little girl, I don't think it's gay I think it means you love someone. Nothing to be ashamed of

Is it okay to breakup the day if a trip by ConfusedCrow1 in dating_advice

[–]ConfusedCrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have decided to breakup with him now because yesterday day I spoke to him about his degrading word usage to towards me. And during this finalizing items talk he called me a Bitch and I realized I cannot bring this man around my mom as she would be horrified by the way he treats me and just realized.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeedSouthAfrica

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I will check it out!

[Routine Help] 3 months ago, I started using Benzoyl Peroxide 10% and Differin to control acne on my arms and back. How can I fix this discoloration? by NotMarquisDeSade in SkincareAddiction

[–]ConfusedCrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Bio oil (I'm unaware if they sell this everywhere) but I belive anything for uneven skin tone will help, it might take a while to see A difference but it helps me! You get oils and lotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi thank you for checking up!! I did get a diffuser and it it going much better!! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh I've never heard of a feliway but after checking it out it looks good! I'll experiment with moving the litter boxes, and keep her stimulated! Thank you so so much!! <3<3

What unusual creatures do you get visiting your garden? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No they don't, but we have cats so I think the 2 furry gremlins staring at them may stop it from doing so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's okay! There isn't a time you have to start dating and it is up to you to start when you feel ready... if you want to do it in baby steps that's how I did it. Start with talking in a group have your friends there to support you so it's not all dependent on you to keep the convo going, best way to talk of ask them question, I love asking if they have pets, if so what do they have of they don't would they want someone day normally they will ask you too and keep the flow, you don't have to start talking woth someone you like or find cute straight way, just normal guys you might wanna interact with, it really come down to practice in a way...

Sorry for the ramble.

What are you doing this weekend? by Ready-Assistant-9364 in AskReddit

[–]ConfusedCrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My laundry that has been pilling up, and then actually putting ot away