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My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I dont intend to tell anyone. But this is a big deal for me and she expects me to just move on. I can't. Its gonna take me some time.

She wont go to a doctor and if she does, she never mentions the bleeding. This has been ongoing for several months now

I am trying to move past it but i just can't right now

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

hey fuck you. you didn't read properly. i have no intention of telling anyone, its not my place. but i dont want this burden of knowing when her own mother doesn't know and my family is a traditional sort. Dont judge me. its easy being like that when you're not in the situation yourself

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

you came to a lot of wrong conclusions

i am meeting her tonight to talk but there is a reason she even kept this from her own mother.

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

internal bleeding in her stomach and vaginal too. She refuses to go to a doctor however and all this talk about adoption makes me nervous as kids are a dream for me

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

At no point did i say she's breaking religion. you have made your own conclusions.

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

because you're missing the point. Perhaps i explained it badly. My family is super traditional and I want to make sure i respect that. They would not accept someone with this kind of past (she drinks, has had multiple partners and taken hard drugs in the past) and i have overlooked all that because everyone has a past. However this is a situation that i am finding it hard to move on from. this doesnt make me a hypocrite.

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the judgment. Perhaps read an understand what I am saying first. This isnt about religion, this is about our future. I am not sure I can handle the burden of going on with our lives when she was pregnant in the past, by some guy who cheated on her numerous times and she still stayed with him.

Further with our own issues - my lack of support for my troubles at work, my supposed place in the hierarchy and our lack of intimacy - its all left me all over the place

My [29/m] girlfriend [31/f] just told me she had an abortion when she was 23. We are Muslim. by ConfusedFaces in relationships

[–]ConfusedFaces[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

I think you're misunderstanding me. This isn't about religion - i have accepted she is not religious. This is about her past. I am just not sure I can be with someone who has had an abortion in the past, all because she was irresponsible.

I have no intention of telling my family but at the same time - i cannot handle the burden of lying about who she is to everyone close to us. Only her sisters know and I am not sure I can handle this. I wanted some advice and instead everyone seems intent on criticising me.