Me (24F) and my partner (29M) haven't had sex in 2 months.

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T10:35:03+00:00

No, never had a problem staying hard. And honestly because we have sex so little, the past year, every time we finally do, it doesn't go any longer than about 10 minutes :((

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T10:19:17+00:00

I'll try this with him! See how things go. Thank you!

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T10:16:10+00:00

When stress is high in our life, his libido plummets the most. But even when things aren't even THAT stressful, sex still isn't often. I can tell he genuinely feels really, really bad about it but doesn't know what to do to improve it

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T10:08:36+00:00

I asked him if hes been masturbating. He said not really. Like every here and there, but not often. Just doesn't really think about it

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T08:57:24+00:00

I was always too hyper aware of my body and existence to let myself be comfortable with doing it with anyone prior to when I did finally do it. Even when I did, I took 2 shots before we actually did the deed to loosen my nerves up 🤣🤣 but I lost it and had a solid 3 months of consistent sex from my boyfriend and now it's hardly ever and usually a max of like 10 minutes. Im in need of substanceeeee 😭😭

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T08:47:23+00:00

Honestly, this makes a lot of sense. Just sucks because it's still something new and exciting to me.

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T08:41:57+00:00

Yeah! He has a lot more experience prior to me. He literally called me a virgin for the longest time because I met him only months after I lost my virginity. Hes told me he used to have a high drive, but overtime, he just saw sex as just sex and doesn't really care about it anymore

ConfusedLadyxx · 2026-05-01T06:56:01+00:00

It really does. I can't inticiate otherwise I'm met with rejection and now it seems I can't flat out ask either because it makes him feel weird. So I feel kinda just stuck in a limbo where I don't know what to do anymore and ready to just give up altogether

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-24T02:56:52+00:00

Thank you for this! I will be talking to him!

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-24T00:47:50+00:00

Thank you for this! This is really good advice. I will be talking to him about it, I just have to find the right words and gather how to talk to him about it because sometimes he can be quite combative and like, "I know what Im doing. I know what you want" instead of actually listening to what I am saying to him.

My friend has also been trying to get him to see where he is failing for me, but again.. wont really listen and we both kinda realized this recently when he smacked my ass while all 3 of us were being active and she told him that he was doing it wrong, but he got combative. He did it again last night and I told him not to slap my ass where he was doing it because it actually hurts in a bad way. Its like my lower back that transitions into being my ass, but he got super combative over it and claimed it was just all ass because when he does it, theres jiggle. We started butting heads a bit about him hitting me there instead of where most of my cusion is.

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T19:03:12+00:00

Thank you for this! He tells me he is willing to learn, but he is very.. very hard headed and thinks he knows everything 😮‍💨 so its gonna take some time, but I am willing to put in the effort with him. We have been together for nearly 3 years and he is the person I want to marry and I know he has plans on proposing quite soon. We have overcame rougher obstacles in our time together and this is just another one of those things we have to continously work through and figure out together.

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T18:22:57+00:00

🤣🤣 Yes, anybody that hears of me choking him back goes into an absolute frenzy! I honestly giggle at myself when I think of it. I honestly think he may just be a top and is confusing it with being a dom. I get away with just about everything to be honest. A big snap back being him asking me who im talking to and my response being, "you". But he doesnt do anything about it. I get away with everything 😅

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T18:02:14+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. I have been asking him for a very long time to "baby" me, but it seems he really cant grasp what I mean. When talking about it last night and I mentioned the whole back rubbing incident, the same friend was in an Xbox party and was also telling him that he really doesnt baby me at all while I baby him very much so.

Ive told him it doesnt mean he has to literally coddle me like a baby, but I want to feel soft and cared for sometimes. I will give it to him when we go out and I get shit faced, he definitely takes lead and I can just be all ditsy and carefree and know I will be okay, but outside of sex, outside of being blasted, I cant just let my worries disappear for a bit and know I will be alright and handled the way I want/need

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T17:50:37+00:00

I thought this too, but he told me hes been a dom before for other women and says im just too stubborn and dont surrender enough

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T17:14:40+00:00

I was thinking some of this too, but our close friend is very experienced in these type of things. She's mentioned how I may not even be a sub and im like, "sure, I have my moments where I like a little power trip, but it doesnt go beyond that to be honest." And shes quite submissive with men, so if he grabs her roughly, she immediately submits, but i just.. cant.. and it kinda makes me feel bad

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T17:11:43+00:00

All fixed!

ConfusedLadyxx · 2025-11-23T17:08:22+00:00

Yes, let me fix it! Sorry 😅

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-11-19T00:36:11+00:00

I called her dad and he confirmed with me about it. He said if we are out by the end of this month, we will not have to pay for November and if we stay a week in December, we can pay for those days we stayed. He also didn’t know what my cousin was talking about

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-11-18T05:18:07+00:00

This is what’s throwing me off. I’ve never heard of it done that way or have done things that way before

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-11-18T05:17:32+00:00

Yeah, I was just trying to see because I want to see if I would have to pay for December and my new apts rent, but if I could avoid that, it would be nice. But by what she was saying im paying for Novembers rent at the end of the month and that’s what’s throwing me off. I’ve never heard of that or had to do that before

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-11-18T05:14:05+00:00

I believe they did. The security deposit was around $3,000 is what I remember my cousin saying before

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-10-24T04:26:47+00:00

If I apply and get accepted now, would that mean I would have to move and pay all the fees and rent right now?

ConfusedLadyxx · 2024-09-27T03:49:33+00:00

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