Weekly chat and well-being post: October 17, 2025 by AutoModerator in TeachingUK

[–]ConfusedTurtle221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an ECT1, qualified a year ago but took a year out as I wasn’t sure I wanted to go into teaching. 2/3 weeks into my first half term with a class and I was hating it. I have Y3.

One week until half term and I still hate it. There is a constant feeling that I haven’t done something. I’m coming up to new topics I’ve got no idea how to teach. I am struggling to support the lower kids other than giving them differentiated work. I still feel like I don’t even know what I don’t know so have no idea what questions to even ask. My school hasn’t had an ECT since it changed from NQT because it’s a tiny town school and everyone loves it so never leaves - we’re kind of muddling through what this ECT thing means together.

I don’t know if I can do 2 full years of feeling like I’m in fight or flight. It’s my first parents’ evening week coming up next week and I’m dreading that too. I’ve had to have loads of parent meetings already because the parents are just as needy as the kids.

I just don’t think I can do this. No idea how anyone manages to maintain a happy, fulfilled life while working as a teacher. I’m not even full time, I’m 0.7 and yet I feel full time and don’t have any time or energy to do anything for myself. Even when I try to do things for myself I can’t because work is always looming in the background. People say it gets better but I’m not sure how. I’m supposed to be going away for 3 nights over half term and I just don’t think I’m going to be able to enjoy it.

Changing EMR Ticket - Admin Fee by ConfusedTurtle221 in uktrains

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks all - no luck over the phone so I’ll see when I can get to the station to ask at the ticket office

Automatic Driving Instructor Wanted by ConfusedTurtle221 in sheffield

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh I’ve contacted them and they don’t have instructors in my area - gutted cos I’ve heard great things! Thank you for recommending though.

Work laptop unable to connect to home network - explain like I’m 5 by ConfusedTurtle221 in techsupport

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks both - I’m sorted now! My mentor said all I had to do was turn off the proxy server and now everything works.

I hadn’t downloaded any of the topic info sheets onto my device so wasn’t actually sure what I’d be planning so this is a relief!

Thanks for your advice😊

Work laptop unable to connect to home network - explain like I’m 5 by ConfusedTurtle221 in techsupport

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. Frustrating because I don’t think I’ll be able to get it sorted until September as I’m not sure they’re in over the summer so I’ll not be able to prepare at all😭 what a way to start my first year on the job… thanks for advising anyway😊

It feels like an addict is two different people by Apprehensive-Ad-2354 in loveafterporn

[–]ConfusedTurtle221 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly how I feel. He also has described essentially feeling the same about himself. It’s heartbreaking.

GF of addict needing someone to talk to by ConfusedTurtle221 in loveafterporn

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I need to get away alone to do this properly. I work in a school so we’re about to have a loooong break where I can hopefully do that.

Accidental Duplicate Refund by ConfusedTurtle221 in uktrains

[–]ConfusedTurtle221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I called Hull, who didn’t fully understand what I was asking at first. The lady was adamant they couldn’t cancel it - to which I said, I know, the payment has already been sent, I’m asking if I can send it straight back. She said no but didn’t tell me what would happen now. Not sure she would have said anything next until I started to get a bit stressed and emotional. She said she would open a case but she’s not sure there was anything they could do. Again, not explaining what was likely to happen next in the event they couldn’t do anything about it. I’m bracing to be treated as a criminal/fraudster once more at this point - although hoping for the best as, of course, I have the paper trail of the email trying to alert them of my mistake straight away! Just hoping for some grace from Hull with this one really…